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do you have a Mentor or someone you admire and look up to?


Heather Shay

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I think everyone needs someone in their life they can talk to and get advice without conditions. Do you have someone who has taken you under wing to help you with the rough spots and helps you through everything or someone you've read about or admire because of what they've been through and that helped you get through your issues in life?

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Ronny. 

He was like 30 years older. 

Pro security contractor. 

Marine.

"Injustice collector". 

Played semi pro football into his 40s  We rock n rolled together.  Hung out.  He took me to ball games.  Secured my gigs.  Lot of living advice.  We weren't a couple but it was something.  I knew he was gone before anyone told me.

Everything went to hell without you. RIP

 

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@Maddee my mentor is my music producer who is currently suffering from a brain tumor. He was the only one who really encouraged me musically and although I had 2 brothers (they never supported me) he was my older brother in truth who advised me and looked out for me. He produced an album for me that almost got my band signed to Atlantic Records (dang band imploded) and then we went to Nashville where he and another friend who played in The Dillards recorded demoes and we just ran out of money. Over the years we co-ran Leon Russell's old studio in Tulsa called tThe Church, where Tom Petty first recorded with Mudcrutch and tRoger Linn created the Linn drum and all the Beatles as well as Bob Marley recorded. 

Only his brain tumor he was stuill advising and encouraging me and using ProTools via DropBox to mix my songs.

His name is Rod Seagram and if you look up The American Music Association - he was one of the founding board members.

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