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Hi, I'm Rachel. This is my first post to anyone, out side of family, that I am transgender. With that said..

 

I have spent some time reading over different areas and topics getting to know more about this site and the wonderful people here. So far so mush connection with others for me. And I am so glade I was able to find it 

 

I am 50 and just accepted my being female. Happily so is my family, so far. I have yet to talk to doctors about this, scared really, they may fight me getting the help I need.

 

Well met and hugs to all that want one,

 

Rachel

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Hi, Rachel! I started late, too! Good luck with your transition! As you already have noticed, people here are really warm and supportive. We’re all on your side!

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2 hours ago, Rachel Susan said:

I am 50 and just accepted my being female. Happily so is my family, so far. I have yet to talk to doctors about this, scared really, they may fight me getting the help I need.

The best advice I’ve heard is “be yourself!” After all everyone else is taken! All kidding aside, none of my deep dark fears materialized. Quite the opposite actually. I’ve found that people really struggle to tell me I’m not who I know I am.

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Welcome and you are not alone,I transitioned later in life at age 37 and now happy at 42 years old.Be yourself and don't let anything hold you back

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Hi, Rachel.  Welcome!

 

I am happy that your family is accepting.  I started my transition at age 62.  Luckily, my wife is supportive.  That makes such a difference!

 

Regards,

Kathy

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Thank you all for the words of support. I think I will remember that going forward "be yourself. After all everyone else is taken" funny yes, but truth to my soul to keep myself in focus. Thank you.

 

Hugs,

Rachel

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Welcome Rachael! Glad you're here & that your family is accepting. My experience with the medical community has been great so far. All have been helpful. I had an endocrinologist tell me they didn't handle HRT for gender dysphoria; I didn't ask why, just thankful I didn't waste months to have found that out on the first appointment. 

 

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