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I´m 48 y o, female at birth, now trying to understand who I am. I have lived my whole life trying to please everyone around me by living up to the female standards. The last few years I have discovered the term non binary, and all of a sudden my history makes so much more sense. I look forward to talking to you wonderful people in here :)

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@Astra welcome you have found a place where many like you have come and will answer your questions honestly and truthfully. Take a look around and I'm sure you will find posts you relate to and new friends are right around the corner. Feel free to ask. I think a wonderful workbook you might consider to help you is shown below and you can pick it up for about $15 on Amazon. It really will help guide you with your own individual journey.

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Thank you so much, Shay :) You know, you are the very first person ever, that I have a conversation with as who I actually am - and this is so emotional for me... 

I´ll get the book asap, I have SO many questions, and I've been looking for resources. 

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2 hours ago, Astra said:

The last few years I have discovered the term non binary, and all of a sudden my history makes so much more sense.

 

Hi, @Astra!  Yes, discovering terms that we previously had no knowledge of can really open our eyes to who we've been, who we currently are, and what we might be in the future.  Welcome to TransPulse!  Join in the conversation!

 

With best wishes from someone who's non-binary ?,

 

Astrid

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Hi @Astra  I’m happy you found your way here. It’s full of friendly and helpful people. Feel free to just jump in wherever, there’s so much here to explore. 

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@stveee Shay isn't my last name and don't worry about that - but thank you for being considerate. I thought Shay was to be my new name when I joined because it was a name I'd never heard but in 1982 it called me and wouldn't let go. I did officially change my name recently and I'm officially Heather but Shay came is as one of 2 middle names (I figured I'm shelling out $90 so why not take 3 names and my surname).

 

I love hearing your excitement and know that when I came here I was not unlike you in many ways and I've found such friendship and love here. I can already see one of the other wonderful people has already responded and believe me - there will be more.

 

Hugs,

 

Heather

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6 hours ago, Astra said:

Are there places in here I would find discussions on non binary topics?

Sure!  Just click on the large purple Forums label at the top of this page.  That takes you to a listing of all forum topics, including non-binary and gender nonconforming people.

 

Astrid 

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Hi @Astra It can be a bit of a shock to the system realising how much of our lives have been spent living for other people. I'm delighted you are starting to find your true self, so... Hi - pleased to meet you! ?

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Hi @Astra! Welcome!!! This place is such a great resource. I'm so thankful I found it right at the beginning of my journey. The people here are so friendly, and full of some really great information. 

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19 hours ago, Astrid said:

Sure!  Just click on the large purple Forums label at the top of this page.  That takes you to a listing of all forum topics, including non-binary and gender nonconforming people.

 

Astrid 

Thank you :)

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6 hours ago, Rowan said:

Hi @Astra! Welcome!!! This place is such a great resource. I'm so thankful I found it right at the beginning of my journey. The people here are so friendly, and full of some really great information. 

Thank you so much, @Rowan! Lovely to meet you!

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On 10/20/2021 at 10:31 PM, Heather Shay said:

@stveee Shay isn't my last name and don't worry about that - but thank you for being considerate. I thought Shay was to be my new name when I joined because it was a name I'd never heard but in 1982 it called me and wouldn't let go. I did officially change my name recently and I'm officially Heather but Shay came is as one of 2 middle names (I figured I'm shelling out $90 so why not take 3 names and my surname).

 

I love hearing your excitement and know that when I came here I was not unlike you in many ways and I've found such friendship and love here. I can already see one of the other wonderful people has already responded and believe me - there will be more.

 

Hugs,

 

Heather

Beautiful name :) Coming here is certainly a good experience! Hugs :)

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9 hours ago, DeeDee said:

Hi @Astra It can be a bit of a shock to the system realising how much of our lives have been spent living for other people. I'm delighted you are starting to find your true self, so... Hi - pleased to meet you! ?

Hello, @DeeDee, pleased to meet you too! Yes, a total shock - to get a glimpse of how early I started repressing my real identity, and to realise today that I could just go out there and buy men's clothing and just ... wear whatever I want without asking anyone's approval. 

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Welcome Astra! Glad you're here. I think you'll find the loving support, advice & acceptance here as wonderful as I have. I hope you enjoy your journey exploring your gender.

 

Hugs!

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