Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

I'm out at work.

Becoming Diana

Recommended Posts

It seems anxiety attacks can have a positive effect!


I work as a part-time assistant manager for a church-run thrift shop.  I presented as male at work as I am a closeted trans woman.  Being called ‘Sir’ by the customers has been increasingly hard to tolerate.  Two weeks ago I had one volunteer repeatedly call me by my male name and several customers calling me sir.  Add to the mix having to tell several customers they needed to wear a mask (the shop is small and can get crowded so we have a mask requirement for everyone in the store) and getting pushback from one of them all became too much for me and I spiraled into a full blown panic attack.  In my head I heard the thought ‘I can’t do this any more.’


So I spoke to my general manager and told her I’m trans.  Her reaction was wonderful.  She asked me how I wanted to play this.  We arranged to sit down with the priest who runs the church next Tuesday afternoon so I can tell him and then we’ll come up with a plan for how I can come out at work with minimum fuss.  We rely heavily on volunteers and they’re the ones I’m most worried about.  I had no concerns about telling the priest as I already knew this church is LGBT friendly.


The past few days have been a rollercoaster ride. I’m now fully out at work at the shop. Saturdays are our busiest days and last Saturday was overwhelming.  It was only my second day being out as female and in the end I got overwhelmed and just shut down emotionally.


But the volunteers have been amazing and supportive.  One of them actually sent me a text yesterday offering me friendship and support.  And another volunteer, a sweet hispanic woman, hugged me tight when I told her, then, with tears in her eyes, she told me her daughter is trans! 


Some of the customers now call me Diana.  Others aren’t so tolerant but are mostly polite.  Hearing people call “Diana!” across the shop hits on a whole different level.  I mostly wear women’s jeans and cute tops or blouses.  I’m going to start wearing light makeup soon.  It honestly just feels so good to be  myself at work!



Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

@DianaW FANTASTIC NEWS - I am so happy for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Cis people miss out on that. I don't THINK they get that jolt of euphoria when they hear someone use their actual name. It's been official for three years now and it still makes me happy to hear people use it. Congratulations and I'm glad you can enjoy this little slice of happy.



Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   8 Members, 0 Anonymous, 78 Guests (See full list)

    • Marieh
    • MaeBe
    • Ashley0616
    • awkward-yet-sweet
    • MaryEllen
    • Mmindy
    • VickySGV
    • Sophie111
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.


Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules


Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.


Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
  • Create New...