Support for anti-trans laws has increased

[Jandi]

https://apple.news/AYQI1H8PDQUihtn7MBGESvw

 

This is worrisome.   
The pessimist in me half expected it.  
 

According to the article visibility helps.    But if more people hate you…  
 

 

[KathyLauren]

This is one reason why I made no effort to live "stealth".  I deliberately came out very publicly, so everyone in the community knows I am trans.  They know I am the same person I was before I transitioned (just a bit happier) and that I am not a sexual predator. 

 

There is some trans activism that does not help us.  CBC had an opinion piece about that this morning: https://www.cbc.ca/news/opinion/opinion-trans-rights-radical-activism-1.6220106.  The wrong type of activism provokes hatred against us.

 

Being visible is a form of trans activism that helps us.

[Charlize]

Actually this isn't surprising.  All my life trans folks hid.  Today we are beginning to come out in larger numbers.  As our numbers increase we have become a target for some who are always looking for those who are "different".  As we become known in our communities we become less different.  As many of us are unable to live in a stealth mode this is making life better if not perfect. 

I'm sure pushback will always exist however.  Bullies have existed throughout time.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[Jandi]

2 hours ago, KathyLauren said:

I deliberately came out very publicly, so everyone in the community knows I am trans. 

This is my situation also.

 

I've been in this area for more than 40yrs, and worked for the city public works dept.  I was out on the streets every day.  People I don't even know, know me.  There's no way I could hide even if I wanted to.

I'm not a big fan of in-your-face activism myself.  I'm just trying to live as much as a woman as I can.

[Phoenix]

On 10/23/2021 at 6:00 AM, KathyLauren said:

This is one reason why I made no effort to live "stealth".  I deliberately came out very publicly, so everyone in the community knows I am trans.  They know I am the same person I was before I transitioned (just a bit happier) and that I am not a sexual predator. 

 

There is some trans activism that does not help us.  CBC had an opinion piece about that this morning: https://www.cbc.ca/news/opinion/opinion-trans-rights-radical-activism-1.6220106.  The wrong type of activism provokes hatred against us.

 

Being visible is a form of trans activism that helps us.

Well said.

[Phoenix]

On 10/23/2021 at 6:41 AM, Charlize said:

Today we are beginning to come out in larger numbers.  

True, but I find myself wondering how many of those numbers actually have gender dysphoria  how many are being “trendy.” 
 

I don’t have the TikTok app, but videos pop into my Facebook and YouTube feed from time to time. And it seems to be that it, along with all the other social media sites/apps, TikTok has a crowd who will self-diagnose just by watching someone else talk about their disorder, be it depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, borderline personality disorder or even gender dysphoria.

 

I have gender dysphoria, as I suspect many of you do as well. I’ve had it all my life, I just didn’t realize it.

 

Mine was recognizable enough by a trained professional that she passed me along to endocrinology to start hormone therapy after only a single hour-and-a-half-long phone call. (It was 2020, so most appointments were by phone except labs.)

 

I’m no shrink, so I wouldn’t dream of telling someone transitioning that they don’t have gender dysphoria. But there sure seems to be tons of folks suddenly coming out as trans. From a purely statistical standpoint… I don’t know.

[Bri2020]

36 minutes ago, Phoenix said:

True, but I find myself wondering how many of those numbers actually have gender dysphoria  how many are being “trendy.” 
 

I don’t have the TikTok app, but videos pop into my Facebook and YouTube feed from time to time. And it seems to be that it, along with all the other social media sites/apps, TikTok has a crowd who will self-diagnose just by watching someone else talk about their disorder, be it depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, borderline personality disorder or even gender dysphoria.

 

I have gender dysphoria, as I suspect many of you do as well. I’ve had it all my life, I just didn’t realize it.

 

Mine was recognizable enough by a trained professional that she passed me along to endocrinology to start hormone therapy after only a single hour-and-a-half-long phone call. (It was 2020, so most appointments were by phone except labs.)

 

I’m no shrink, so I wouldn’t dream of telling someone transitioning that they don’t have gender dysphoria. But there sure seems to be tons of folks suddenly coming out as trans. From a purely statistical standpoint… I don’t know.

I think what we are seeing is the ability to come out has brought a lot of people out of the closet.  The more visible we are, the harder it is for people "questioning" to repress it. I was able to repress my identity for decades because there were no "out" trans-folks so I didn't have to confront it. That's nearly impossible today.  I think we're are also seeing a tremendous amount of young people who are more enlightened to the non-binary thought process of gender fluidity or non conformity.  Most of us older folks lived in a strictly binary world. As these kids are socially forming their identity they can see and recognise that so much of gender ID is society "norms".  They may not have any dysphoria all. But that doesn't mean they feel "pure male or female". I often wonder, if I had been born more recently, would I have felt that my gender identity is fully female? I love my body and gender identity now (mostly, still need to remove certain parts) but if I had grown up in a less 'Binary" way of thinking, would I have been comfortable in my body being NonBi?  Psychology and developmental science is so fascinating.

[Phoenix]

4 minutes ago, Bri2020 said:

I think what we are seeing is the ability to come out has brought a lot of people out of the closet.  

Perhaps. I can’t say either way. That’s why I’m not about to tell someone whether they should or should not transition, even my non-binary/transmale friends. One has said certain things that give me doubt, but it’s not my call. It’s between him and his therapist. And whatever path he ultimately takes, I’ll have his back 100%.
 

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Psychology and developmental science is so fascinating.

Quite. I’ve often told those I’ve discussed this issue with that we may never fully understand the human brain at all.

 

In my case, it’s also a soul question. My mother once told me she miscarried a girl child before she got pregnant with me. I like to think I wanted to be born so much, I grabbed the next available body, regardless of how it would develop.

 

And don’t think for one second I don’t gleefully bring that up when I’m arguing with one of those “going against God” creeps trying to bastardize God’s word to suit his argument.