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I'm all about long skirts over a slip.

 

19 hours ago, Ye Ye said:

Almost bought a cute pinafore on ebay,

I have something like this.  (I'm actually wearing it this morning)  But it's only knee length and I don't like wearing it out and about - it doesn't seem age appropriate for me.   Sigh.

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I've taken a week or so to reflect and feel more comfy.  Tomorrow is a big step, I've decided it's time to upload a photo.  At least that's the plan.  I hope I don't bottle it, it's a big step, the first time anyone else sees you.  I'm very conscious, taken a few selfies and realised that I am 58 after all, no one is expecting me to look like Marilyn Monroe.  I'm not going to win a beauty contest, that's for sure, but so what.  I feel happy enough.  I need to work on my face a lot, trying foundation and blusher for the first time I must have looked like an extra in a Peter Cushing / Chistopher Lee film!  And I think I'm happy with my name now, how do I go about changing my profile name?  I've been clothes shopping a couple of times now, not dressed up, and bought a few things, and to my delight no one, eg cashier or other shoppers, has even given it a second thought. Maybe they just assume I'm buying for someone else?

 

Charlotte ( Ye-Ye)

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On 11/18/2021 at 1:29 PM, Jandi said:

I'm all about long skirts over a slip.

I have something like this.  (I'm actually wearing it this morning)  But it's only knee length and I don't like wearing it out and about - it doesn't seem age appropriate for me.   Sigh.

Yes, Jandi, somehow they seem to be associated only with schoolgirls in period films.  Shame, because they're actually quite a functional garment, and pretty.  Over here (England) they were almost compulsory in Edwardian times, then completely disappeared.  I prefer long skirts as well, but have just tried on fishnets for the first time, thought they might be far too young for me, but they're actually quite comfy to wear and with a long skirt you can't see them to appreciate them.  Not sure I'll wear them again, I kinda associate them with more risque behaviour.  

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14 minutes ago, Ye Ye said:

I've taken a week or so to reflect and feel more comfy.  Tomorrow is a big step, I've decided it's time to upload a photo.

 

Charlotte you can always post your photo in the Gallery.  Its an area only seen by members.

 

Jani 

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Thanks, Jani, I got an unexpected boost being addressed as Charlotte for the first time, it felt pleasing.  I'll take your advice and maybe put a couple of pictures up. Might need a stiff drink first, bit of Dutch courage!

 

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So, I finally stood at the deep end of the pool and jumped in.  I've put a pic in the Gallery.  If you're the first to see the picture, you're the first person who's ever seen Charlotte.  I'm going to go with the mature retro housewife look.  As you can see, I have an awful lot of work to do.  I've not even tried make up yet.  I'm getting much more comfortable now as myself.  Been shopping for clothes, bought a black skirt, tights and a purple cardigan today, no one blinked an eyelid.  Still, going out and shopping as myself is a long way off yet.  

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I think that request went to the wrong place.

Sorry. I'm at the still completely lost and clueless phase. Actually have been that for the last 50+ years :)

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On 12/2/2021 at 4:00 PM, Ye Ye said:

I've taken a week or so to reflect and feel more comfy.  Tomorrow is a big step, I've decided it's time to upload a photo.  At least that's the plan.  I hope I don't bottle it, it's a big step, the first time anyone else sees you.  I'm very conscious, taken a few selfies and realised that I am 58 after all, no one is expecting me to look like Marilyn Monroe.  I'm not going to win a beauty contest, that's for sure, but so what.  I feel happy enough.  I need to work on my face a lot, trying foundation and blusher for the first time I must have looked like an extra in a Peter Cushing / Chistopher Lee film!  And I think I'm happy with my name now, how do I go about changing my profile name?  I've been clothes shopping a couple of times now, not dressed up, and bought a few things, and to my delight no one, eg cashier or other shoppers, has even given it a second thought. Maybe they just assume I'm buying for someone else?

Charlotte ( Ye-Ye)

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If you look at normal women you'll see that there are very few beautiful women. I don't think I'd want to look like Marilyn Monroe, she's been dead for quite a while LOL. Charlotte is a pretty name. As far as clothing goes, it's a long process finding what is right for you. I'm lousy at visualizing how something will look. Good thing my wife is good at this. 

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4 minutes ago, Jamie68 said:

you'll see that there are very few beautiful women.

 

Strongly disagree. All women are beautiful. You, me, even Marilyn Monroe. While not all of us are what society calls beautiful to sell us product, we all shine with an inner light that is absolutely gorgeous.

 

Hugs!

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1 hour ago, JessicaBaker said:

I think that request went to the wrong place.

Sorry. I'm at the still completely lost and clueless phase. Actually have been that for the last 50+ years :)

Well then, you have lots of company in the 50+ years. There's a big learning curve with finally being your true self after a lifetime of training in the wrong gender. 

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1 minute ago, Jackie C. said:

Strongly disagree. All women are beautiful. You, me, even Marilyn Monroe. While not all of us are what society calls beautiful to sell us product, we all shine with an inner light that is absolutely gorgeous.

Hugs!

I stand corrected. 🙂

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On 12/6/2021 at 1:08 PM, Ye Ye said:

If you're the first to see the picture, you're the first person who's ever seen Charlotte.

I think you looked very nice in your Deep End of The Pool picture. I'm happy for Charlotte, and her outlook on life.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and safe.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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@Jackie C.

 

6 hours ago, Jackie C. said:

Strongly disagree. All women are beautiful. You, me, even Marilyn Monroe. While not all of us are what society calls beautiful to sell us product, we all shine with an inner light that is absolutely gorgeous.

Hugs!

Oh how I wish!  But we all have beauty inside, and everyone has someone out there.

 

Could a kind admin please change my profile name to "Charlotte (Ye Ye)" please, and then later I'll drop the Ye Ye.

 

Thanks

 

Charlotte

 

Note to self....I've only been on this journey for a few weeks - I have to stop buying clothes EVERY day.  I've got bills to pay!  This is more of a high than whatever it is that people take to get high on.

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14 hours ago, Ye Ye said:

Oh how I wish!

 

Nah, it's on the outside too. There's a certain trick to knowing how to look, but I can see beauty in every woman I meet to some degree or another. I mean it could be my dysphoria talking, but have you SEEN women? They're all lovely in their own way.

 

Hugs!

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20 hours ago, Ye Ye said:

Could a kind admin please change my profile name to "Charlotte (Ye Ye)" please, and then later I'll drop the Ye Ye.

Charlotte, contact one of the Admin's.  Their names appear in a purple color below when they are online.  

 

Jani

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Could a kind admin please change my profile name to "Charlotte (Ye Ye)" please, and then later I'll drop the Ye Ye.

It's been done.  :)

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