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I've been on hrt for about 9 months now, and I'm very confused, I haven't had any sex drive in months..... I mean I can bring myself to "finish" but it takes me awhile finding the right spot.... But out of the blue.... I started getting random erections??? I can be thinking about fixing the car, and bam.... there's no rhyme or reason..... I'm not even aroused, but I am, obviously.... What gives??? I'm sorry if I'm offensive or inappropriate in any way.... But who do I go to??? I'm like what doctor do I even call, endocrinologist, primary care, urologist, or shrink??? 

Any and all feedback is welcome!!!

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You could ask your endocrinologist about the changes you are experiencing.   

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Ya know, everyone is always saying how "wonderful" this site is..... Sooo helpful.....yet anytime I reach out, or ask for information..... All I get is crickets...... it truly is reassuring, especially with all the self doubt and making this journey completely alone.... thanks....

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If you consider recommending speaking to your medical professionals "crickets" you may well be looking for more than we can give.

 If it helps my sex drive has driven away but in my case age as well as HRT may be driving.

Sorry if we disappoint.






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On 11/17/2021 at 6:25 AM, Jani said:

You could ask your endocrinologist about the changes you are experiencing.   


Very appropriate answer Jani, thanks ! 



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@Shawnster There are some questions (or statements) that don't generate any, or just a few responses.  Remember that members here mostly respond as a result of their own experiences.  Really specific requests usually are left as people just don't know how to respond.


As to "crickets' it seems you have asked a number of questions that may fall into this category.  If you joined in some of the discussion threads (if that's your thing) you might see more opportunity for replies.  Now, not everyone here is a social butterfly.  Some just come for answers to questions to situations in their lives.  But this site is just like life, in that you get back what you put in to it.  Give it a try.


Keep looking up.  


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7 hours ago, Shawnster said:

Ya know, everyone is always saying how "wonderful" this site is..... Sooo helpful.....yet anytime I reach out, or ask for information..... All I get is crickets...... it truly is reassuring, especially with all the self doubt and making this journey completely alone.... thanks....


@Shawnster, I think I get what you're feeling is frustration...and I don'r blame you. There are so many ambiguities with "transgender" and it seems no one has the answer; and my personal opinion is that they don't.


About the sex drive....look to your diet. If you've had sugars and carbohydrates, you may experience greater sex drive. And, there have been anecdotal accounts that the peaks and valleys are magnified by the oestrogen. Oestrogen is a fat distribution re-prioritization tool at the end of the day and by injesting it, you've turned your body into one huge chemical reaction as your body tries to eliminate it and reset your physiological stoichiometry.


Study up on oestrogen, see if you can map your experience with the info. Then, have that mountain of info ready the next time you see your endo and hold them accountable.

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I have read up on estrogen and Spyro.... I have a therapist, all my physical and medical needs are being met figuratively speaking.... I'm completely lost and isolated mentally.....I desperately need to be able to communicate with real, like minded individuals.... To be able to relate and comprehend what is happening to me..... 

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@Shawnster I am sorry to read that you feel isolated and feel that your going through this journey alone. What’s going on in the world doesn’t help things either. Doing research, seeing one person, your therapist, and meeting all you medical needs is not likely going to help you manage the social aspect of transition. Those things you mention are only apart of the equation.


Have you tried to reach out to anyone here to anyone as a friend through PM? Are you involved in any online or even in-person support groups? Have you discussed this with any of your close friends or family to get some additional affirm and support? These are things that can help you. Every transition is unique with so many different variables that in rare occasions, you’ll seem like you’re the only one with a particular issue. Other times, the responses are not what you were expecting or there aren’t very many people responding to your issue. It happens. Please don’t give up on us because we are all in this together trying to do our best. If you want to talk or need a shoulder, feel free to hit me up any time through PM here on the site. I know it’s hard right now but things will not be like this forever.


Warmest Regards,

Susan R?

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On 11/19/2021 at 6:27 AM, Shawnster said:

Ya know, everyone is always saying how "wonderful" this site is..... Sooo helpful.....yet anytime I reach out, or ask for information..... All I get is crickets...... it truly is reassuring, especially with all the self doubt and making this journey completely alone.... thanks....

I know what you mean, but if you pay attention to the "who's online" bits, you may find yourself often alone. I have posted things that take days or weeks to get answered, sometimes. It is still better than where I was before finding this group: feeling totally, utterly, ALONE


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