Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Saw A Guy Crossdressed At My Local Bus Station


Recommended Posts

A couple of months ago my wife and I were in the central bus station  in our town waiting for a bus back home after shopping.My attention was drawn to a young man between the age of eighteen to twenty four.He was standing at the coffee kiosk and was dressed en femme.He was chatting with great confidence to the young guy serving behind the counter and a lady member of the bus station crew.He was wearing a sweater and a pair of white pants.The outfit he was wearing was a little bit too old for a person of his age.It certainly would not have been my choice when I was that age.But that's not the point.From where I was sitting he looked as if his makeup had been a little bit carelessly applied.But then again  he did a better  job than I could ever do.When I am in Beverley mode my wife applies mine .He may have  been known  to the guy behind the counter but I am not sure of that.My wife didn't notice him at all.When we got home I told her about the young crossdresser.I said to my wife that I really admired that young man for being out and about dressed as a woman.We live in a former industrial town in the South Wales valleys.It's a nice town but some people who live there are a bit rough and ready.And there  is a tendency towards close mindedness  particurlarly with some of the older generation.Kudos to the young crossdresser  for being so bravet.The nice thing is that every other person waiting at the bus station apart from me was oblivious to the young crossdresser.I haven't seen him since that time but I look out for him.I wish him the best of luck.Although I wasn't keen on his outfit I sincerely thought that his purple handbag/ purse was lovely.I told my nearest and dearest that I wouldn't have minded having it myself.

Link to comment
  • Admin

What makes YOU so sure it was a cross dressed male? :dunno: Women come in so many different shapes and sizes, skin texture and so much else.  :dunno:You say your area is pretty compact, but it may well have been a Cis female.  If the person was a CD though, we still give them the benefits of female pronouns BTW.  When we first come out we do have our Trans radar on at high volume, I have been there myself and every little thing sets us off.  We are looking for perfect in our lives and in our public interactions.  The fact that your spouse and the others were not "reading" the person as Trans, or giving them a strange eye makes me wonder if your Trans-dar was on overload.  On the other side, if they indeed were Trans (I include CD there) then they are a good example of both where you can be less than too perfect without harm and that many of your fears for Beverley do not need to be as great, which actually makes you safer in the long run.  I am glad you had fun there,  I am playing Devils Advocate a bit up there at first, and not giving you a bad time, but the huge take-away is that women are in so many shapes and sizes that we can make mistakes, and same for men.  You can look at my gallery pictures and you will easily see that I could be seen either way, but I have never had any real problems, except on my way into a Trans Club one time years ago, and that had more to do with it being a Trans club than with me.

Link to comment

Vicky,this was my first post and I truly didn't mean any offence.Please delete my account a,s.ap.I have nothing further to say

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Beverley I don't believe Vicky posted to cause you distress.  Please get back into the conversation.  



Link to comment

Welcome @Beverley! Glad you're here. For me it has been awkward learning to present outwardly as the woman that runs my mind. I stumble through it, some days good, some not so much. I'm happy for you with your wife supporting you. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here as I have.




Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   4 Members, 0 Anonymous, 44 Guests (See full list)

    • Mmindy
    • Jamie73
    • miz miranda
    • KathyLauren
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
    • Total Posts
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
    • Most Online

    Newest Member
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Dawn2020
      (73 years old)
    2. luke_b
      (19 years old)
  • Posts

    • Mmindy
    • Heather Shay
      Hello Jen welcome. Glad you are here. There are some amazing people here and you will meat others in similar backgrounds and age. Hugs Heather
    • Willow
      @Mmindy that’s the exact same percolator I’ve got!
    • VickySGV
      You have only a single post here, it takes five posts to open up certain features.  When you get the five, you do it from a link on your Profile page.  I do not really know about phones and how to navigate them.  @Petra Jane is our computer guru.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      My life story is pretty odd.  Never had a relationship until my mid 20's.  Now I'm in my early 30's and I live in a committed relationship with multiple partners.  Growing up, my family had a lot of expectations for me that I was never able to meet.  I guess I'm going through the questioning I should have been able to do more freely earlier in my life.  So that's why I'm here...trying to make some sense out of my feelings, my body, and my relationships.
    • Mmindy
      Willow, I will always keep an old fashion stovetop coffee percolator. I have two at home, and one in the camper. I may be without gas or electric, but I’ll never be without a functioning coffee maker. 
    • Hannah Renee
      Understanding that, since I don't necessarily have that much time left on this rock, I need to live it as me. Put to music, "I enjoy being a girl," and "I gotta be me. I gotta be me. What else can I be but what I am."
    • LauraMarie
      I can’t find an option to add my profile picture. I am using IOS 15 on my iPhone. Thanks! 
    • Jandi
      That is an act of desperation.
    • Willow
      Hi, meeting with another lawyer tomorrow.  We’ll see how that goes.  Our daughter is also supposed to be coming here to a campground for the weekend.  We’ll see if she makes any contact with us.   Kymmie, I don’t know what to say.  I’ve been through similar things as well.  I never know what she is thinking.  It’s ok, then it’s not ok.  I hope your sons birthday goes well.  Our sons birthday is the 29th.   Jandi, we are using a very basic coffee maker.  Put water in, put a pod in and press start.  One cup at a time.  And if we are away from the dock I have a percolator.  Old school!  I have used Folgers and Maxwell House. But not instant coffee!     Willow  
    • WillbeAlice
      In a true homage to reading other peoples experiences and taking notes (thank you Kelly(particularly) but also et al) I have over the last couple of of days ‘come out’ to my business. I am a senior manager at company employing 1.5k, with a team of 22 that are my directs I had spoken to my Md some weeks ago about my transitioning, how it was early days, and tbh, soft soaped her about how wonderful it was to be working in a company that, whilst I knew it was going to be difficult, was forward thinking enough to be able embrace and (be seen to be able to) empower members of the lgbt community . She was keen to manage my becoming visible across the business, however I thought it was right that I should personally ‘come out’ to especially my team, but also my closest colleagues. We agreed that as soon as I started telling people, the likelihood of gossip (and therefore our ability to curtail the ‘ridicule factor’) would increase. So over the space of Tuesday afternoon and the whole of Wednesday (which was also the day my name officially changed to Dee (yeah..not Alice…long story)) I was allocated an interview room and ‘came out’ on an individual basis to 36 people - in an order that I had created on a scale of ‘can be trusted to keep their mouth shut (and thumbs off their keypad) to ‘gossip-monger in chief’ - just prior to a meeting at 4pm where the MD would announce my transition and explain to all the other senior managers what was expected of them in relation to ensuring respect from their respective teams etc.   I can happily report that (with the exception of 2 morons(whose life will henceforth be made a misery)), I received support, intelligent questions, generosity and predominately respect for the guts it takes not only to decide that you need to take control of where your life is heading, but also to look people in the eye and say ‘I didn’t want you to hear this from someone else’ (It also gives you the opportunity to mould their mindset in respect of ‘seeker of peace and happiness’ vs ‘deviant’)   Dont be afraid of this once you are sure , whilst it was emotionally exhausting bearing my soul (because you do have to to every question they ask), I staggered out of work last night with a refreshed view of the majority of peoples acceptance and enthusiasm to accept something ‘a bit different’ I get that it is early days with this situation in the workplace, but I have come out of it with a truly positive mindset.   Thanks for the inspiration ladies😊❤️😊❤️  
    • Timber Wolf
      Good day everyone,😸   Happy birthday Dawn2020!🎂 Happy birthday luke_b!🎂 Hope you have a great day!   Lots of love, Timber Wolf🎂
    • Mmindy
      Welcome back Alex-John,   I think it's cool that you've returned to TransgenderPulseForums as well as keeping in touch with support workers.   Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated   Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Mx.Drago
      Welcome back Alex-John . 🤗 Glad to hear you're ok and back on the path.  
    • Mx.Drago
      Honestly, food and coffee, sometimes tea. Mostly I'm just stubborn but lost a lot over time and finding it harder.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.


Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules


Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.


Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
  • Create New...