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Stopping HRT advice? (I'm NB on testosterone, but advice from anyone is welcome!)


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Hi everyone.

 

I've been on testosterone for about 6 years now, and during that time I realized I'm non-binary and not solidly male like I had thought. Ever since I realized this I sort of had this idea in the back of my mind that testosterone wasn't going to be something I was going to take forever. One day in the future, I would stop. It's starting to feel like that day is coming fast.

 

The main changes I wanted from testosterone are permanent, so I'll get to keep them. A lot of the changes I'm not a fan of are reversible. I don't like doing injections, and the thought of not having to worry about them anymore feels so freeing. I'm worried some of the cis people in my life will misinterpret this as a detransition and use that as an excuse to misgender me, though I know it's none of their business and I should brush things like that off if they happen. I'm also just generally freaked out by change even if nothing scary is happening so I'm worried the 3rd puberty will affect my mental health a lot. I miss things about my body on estrogen, but I'm worried I'll end up missing things about my body on testosterone too. Honestly I wish I could just shapeshift at will...

 

I see my endocrinologist in about 6 months, and I'm giving myself that amount of time to think about stopping. As of this moment, I feel very hopeful about stopping HRT. It feels like something I was always naturally going to do... but that doesn't mean I'm not scared. I've read accounts online of people stopping HRT for similar reasons to me and it ended up being a great choice for them. Reading articles online isn't the same as hearing directly from people though, so I sought out a trans forum to ask for some advice. Has anyone here voluntarily stopped HRT (or know someone who has)? What was it like? Did you stay off HRT, or did you find yourself going back on it? Regardless, would you recommend it?

 

Thank you!

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One thing a lot of the "happy stories" don't tell you is that they are NOT YOU!!  Silly as that statement may sound, it is the better truth for you to consider. None of us here are doctors who can advise you on stopping HRT, and if we were would not have treated you in person before in your life or ours.  Both are necessary for you to make a fully informed and monitored withdrawal from hormones.  If this is your decision I do not see why you could not contact the doctor and let them know your intention since part of it will involve tests of your current hormone levels.  The doctor may be able to set up a test schedule before your next scheduled appointment. This is urgent in your life and the doctor should not take that long to treat you.

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If we worried about all the things the cis people could think about us we'd all be stuck not doing anything

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10 hours ago, VickySGV said:

One thing a lot of the "happy stories" don't tell you is that they are NOT YOU!!  Silly as that statement may sound, it is the better truth for you to consider. None of us here are doctors who can advise you on stopping HRT, and if we were would not have treated you in person before in your life or ours.  Both are necessary for you to make a fully informed and monitored withdrawal from hormones.  If this is your decision I do not see why you could not contact the doctor and let them know your intention since part of it will involve tests of your current hormone levels.  The doctor may be able to set up a test schedule before your next scheduled appointment. This is urgent in your life and the doctor should not take that long to treat you.

 

Don't worry, if I decide to stop I won't just quit outright. I will talk to my endocrinologist about it and take any advice he has for me and follow any plans he has. My concerns here are less about the medical/health side of stopping and more about how it'll affect me mentally.

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3 hours ago, RhondaS said:

If we worried about all the things the cis people could think about us we'd all be stuck not doing anything

 

Haha, ain't that the truth!!

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