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When was the last time you fell in love with a song?


Heather Shay

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What was the song and why did it effect you so deeply?

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The last time was when I first heard "Tuesday" by Charlie Farren.  Its about his friend and Boston singer Brad Delp.  Its heartfelt and sad.  It speaks to the love of one person for another.

 

 

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excellent - thank you for sharing @Jani

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It was "Sally's Song" by Amy Lee.  Of course she named me in the title, but it was her melodic vocals and the theme of love given but not received that pulled at my heartstrings.

 

 

 

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It was Roberta Flack doing "The First Time I Ever Saw Your Face".  Still a song I go back to. 

 

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Have you ever had a song you originally saw as "not bad, but doesn't compare to their earlier stuff" gradually grow on you and eventually become one of your most personally meaningful top favorites?

 

Or how about a song you always loved, but over the years it developed a deeper, more personal, meaning than you ever could have imagined? You were already in love with it, but fell in love all the more, all over again?

 

Well I'm torn between the two. John Bon Jovi's "It's My Life", and "Shattered Dreams" from Johnny Hates Jazz.

 

 

 

But ultimately I'm an 80's girl - Johnny Hates Jazz gets the edge, and then some. Even ignoring the poignant lyrics, everything else about even the very sound of the song just speaks directly to the core of my soul.

 

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The more I hear this song the more I relate as it has captured my present condition

Lyrics
 
From morning to night, I stayed out of sight
Didn't recognize I'd become
No more than alive, I'd barely survive
In a word overrun
Won't hear a sound (he's curled into the corner)
From my mouth (but still the screen is flickering)
I've spent too long (with an endless stream of garbage)
On the inside out (curse the place)
My skin is cold (in a sea of random images)
To the human touch (the self-destructing animal)
This bleeding heart's (waiting for the waves)
Not beating much (to break)
I murmured a vow of silence and now
I don't even hear when I think aloud
Extinguished by light, I turn on the night
Wear its darkness with an empty smile
I'm creeping back to life
My nervous system all awry
I'm wearing the inside out
Look at him now
He's paler somehow
But he's coming round
He's starting to choke
It's been so long since he spoke
Well, he can have the words right from my mouth
And with these words, I can see
Clear through the clouds that covered me
Just give it time then speak my name
Now we can hear ourselves again
I'm holding out (he's standing on the threshold)
For the day (caught in fiery anger)
When all the clouds (and hurled into the furnace)
Have blown away (he'll curse the place)
I'm with you now (he's torn in all directions)
Can speak your name (and still the screen is flickering)
Now we can hear (waiting for the flames)
Ourselves again (to break)
Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Richard Wright / Anthony Jon Moore
Wearing the Inside Out lyrics © Pink Floyd Music Publisher
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@Heather Shay I have to confess that being from the generation I am, my awareness of 60's/70's music is spotty and limited. Over time, I have learned enough to know that, even though not all Pink Floyd necissarily speaks to me much (absolutely no offence intended whatsoever!), I do definitely very much enjoy a lot of Alan Parsons Project and, of course "Another Brick in the Wall pt 2" still completely blows me away (something about its skilled, and still unique even now, blending of Jazz and Rock).

 

With that in mind, I just wanted to point out how I appreciate you sharing "Wearing The Inside Out". My brain immediately recognized the iconic cover art, although I'll admit to a touch of embarrasment at how long it took me to place it. It's admittedly a new song to me, but I appreciate the lyrical significance (I've always had similary favorite songs, lyricaly) and the dual-lyric concept, plus, like "another brick pt 2" I love the song's blending of jazz and rock influences (and maybe even a touch of new age if I'm not mistasken?) Not to mention the somber, chill, smooth, effect it all evokes overall (!)

 

In turn, here's a couple more songs I also find special significance with:

 

This longtime favorite of mine, I think may have special significance for those of us who have dealt with, or may currently deal with substance issues:

 

 

Fun Fact: Martika was an early castmate of Jennifer Love Hewitt who began as a singer before moving into acting on "Kids Incorporated", which also co-starred (among others) Martika.

 

But on a more uplifting note, I think this well-known one is probably appropriate for all of us here in at least one way or another. I know it's at least a good recap of my last several years or so, so far! Here's to all the challenges we've all survived!

 

 

After all this time...I'M STILL STANDING!!!

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