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Meeting my brother, and his girlfriend.


Red_Lauren.

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I'll start by saying my brother and me don't talk alot. Even when we we're kids. We're just are too different. I mean we get along, but we always had different interests, and completely different personalities. 

 

He dose know im trans, and dosn't seem to care also. Which till im in the same room with him. I won't know for sure, but I mentioned why don't him and his old lady come out for a day, and hang out. He said sure let me talk to her. I'm like ok, and sent him a current picture of what I look like. So its not a shock. 

 

Im kinda hoping they come out. Mostly because I haven't seen my brother in since 2011, and other then a few conversations on Facebook. I have never met this girlfriend. Im kinda nervous mostly how they will take it in person. 

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4 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

Im kinda hoping they come out. Mostly because I haven't seen my brother in since 2011, and other then a few conversations on Facebook. I have never met this girlfriend. Im kinda nervous mostly how they will take it in person.

@Red_Lauren. This might be a nice opportunity for you both. You may not have had much of a relationship in the past but as you have both matured your interests have change a little and relationships can begin to change too. You may just be surprised. Who knows? Maybe you and his lady friend could end up becoming good friends with many similar interests and really hit it off.. Just be yourself and hope for the best in all of it.

 

Always My Best,

Susan R🌷

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I Certainly was never close to my brother. We simply went different directions.  Oddly since transition we are closer than ever.  At times i think he is happier having a "little" sister.  

Best of luck.  Who knows you might get along better.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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5 hours ago, Susan R said:

@Red_Lauren. This might be a nice opportunity for you both. You may not have had much of a relationship in the past but as you have both matured your interests have change a little and relationships can begin to change too. You may just be surprised. Who knows? Maybe you and his lady friend could end up becoming good friends with many similar interests and really hit it off.. Just be yourself and hope for the best in all of it.

 

Always My Best,

Susan R🌷

Well I hope he as matured. He turned to booze when his dad died. He had mutiple drunk driving, and was a felon before 21. I stopped seeing him because he was always drunk, and throw out other reasons why he couldn't get together. As for becoming friends with his old lady. I have good friends. That i can see daily. They live 90 miles away, so I doubt we'll become super close. Although this has been his longest girlfriend in years. He might break a year with this

 

3 hours ago, Charlize said:

I Certainly was never close to my brother. We simply went different directions.  Oddly since transition we are closer than ever.  At times i think he is happier having a "little" sister.  

Best of luck.  Who knows you might get along better.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Yea we went our own ways when mom split 25 year ago. I grew up on a farm, and he was the his dads only child, so we grew up a complete 180 of eachother. He's youner then me, so I'm not sure he's going to be the over protective brother. God I hope he dosn't become that.

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Well I got to meet him, and his wife this past weekend. I was super nervous. Because last week he called me drunk at 130 in the morning, and really was acting creepy. Like he kept talking about me having breast, and wanting to look at them. He even asked how big they were. I told him it dosn't matter. All I told him is if mine are bigger then his wife's. Not to point that out in front of her. 

 

He then asked if I was seeing any one. I told him yea, and sent him a picture of her. He respondeds is that a dude? I'm like if you think that's a dude. You need your eyes checked. He then started asking personal questions. One how we do it. I'm like thats really none of your business, and I doubt you want the answers to that. 

 

After that chat. I wasn't really sure i wanted to meet him, but went through with it. He didn't say munch. I truly think he was still processing it, and was uncomfortable. His girlfriend the other hand was super nice, and easy to get along with. We for sure made my brother uncomfortable with a few of our chats. I'm planning on going out there some time soon to see them. Hopefully my brother Will have had more time to process it by then. 

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Hi @Red_Lauren., Well, after that call, I can see why you’d think twice about a meet up with them. Your intuition about his maturity level was spot on. Sadly, I had two separate coming out experiences with two people that went similarly to that phone call and they weren’t even drunk. It’s hard to believe that there are still people that lack the knowledge of what being transgender is but the social etiquette to inquire about such things in an appropriate way. When those questions were asked of me, I simply moved on to another topic I was prepared in disclosing.

 

34 minutes ago, Red_Lauren. said:

He didn't say munch. I truly think he was still processing it, and was uncomfortable.

He may have been uncomfortable about your revelation and/or presentation but if your brother has any recollection of what he asked you during that drunk phone call, that would have probably been enough to keep him very very quiet during your visit…lol

 

Let’s hope he calls you next time while he’s sober so you can get a little more perspective on his feelings and understanding of your situation. Trying to educate him while drunk is a true lesson in futility.

 

Best of Luck,

Susan R🌷

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7 hours ago, Susan R said:

Hi @Red_Lauren., Well, after that call, I can see why you’d think twice about a meet up with them. Your intuition about his maturity level was spot on. Sadly, I had two separate coming out experiences with two people that went similarly to that phone call and they weren’t even drunk. It’s hard to believe that there are still people that lack the knowledge of what being transgender is but the social etiquette to inquire about such things in an appropriate way. When those questions were asked of me, I simply moved on to another topic I was prepared in disclosing.

 

He may have been uncomfortable about your revelation and/or presentation but if your brother has any recollection of what he asked you during that drunk phone call, that would have probably been enough to keep him very very quiet during your visit…lol

 

Let’s hope he calls you next time while he’s sober so you can get a little more perspective on his feelings and understanding of your situation. Trying to educate him while drunk is a true lesson in futility.

 

Best of Luck,

Susan R🌷

I hope he was embarrassed. He said I looked pretty, and nothing like he was expecting. Even after seeing pictures. Next time he see me. I will have cleavage on display. I only held back because it was creeped out by him. 

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