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Red_Lauren.

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There has been a lot understanding with my transition from both sexes of my inner circle. Especially the females in my life. The only push back I get from them is the hair removal, and from my bigger breast friends. Would ask why I would want boobs. My male friends are typically like as long as im happy. They have the whatever view on it. 

 

The one thing I have noticed that different. Is the way they view my transition and sexual choices. As we are all between 30-40. Sex is still a big part of our relationships. So when my male friends find out I'm dating a chick. I get the confused as hell look, and tons of questions about how that happens. Because to them sex is just sticking some thing in a hole. I usally laugh and say do you really want the answers to that? That is usally followed by nope. 

 

My female friends on the other hand. When they find out I'm dating a woman. They don't really ask the sex questions. Its mostly the millions of questions about her. Yea there are sex questions, but I think its because they have spent their whole lives as woman, and as im figuring out. There is a lot more to sex then sticking some thing in a hole. I never get asked stupid questions about the who, what, and how. Like I do from my male friends. To me I find it werid. That there is that munch difference on how sex is viewed between the sexes..

 

 

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  • 1 month later...

Hello 

When I first started my transition I felt like Cis women understood more. I think women can be more caring and give me the impression of that they understand. I think it was because I felt heard. In my experience with Cisco women they honestly have just as much a clue as Cisco men. I'm just basing it on the convos I had with them. I think also 

 

Personally I think both are clueless the only people that truly understand me is you guys on here 

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On 9/19/2022 at 9:04 PM, Sydneyblue said:

 

Personally I think both are clueless the only people that truly understand me is you guys on here 

Yea both are pretty clueless in some stuff. Like neither understand how munch it cost. I have one friend. That thinks my transition is cheap. I have to remind her. Beard removal is nearly 150 a month, het is like 150 ever three months. On top of buying new clothes..I'm wearing bras that are way to small. Because I can't afford new ones.

 

Other wise they are pretty understanding overall.

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3 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

Yea both are pretty clueless in some stuff. Like neither understand how munch it cost. I have one friend. That thinks my transition is cheap. I have to remind her. Beard removal is nearly 150 a month, het is like 150 ever three months. On top of buying new clothes..I'm wearing bras that are way to small. Because I can't afford new ones.

 

Other wise they are pretty understanding overall.

And makeup needs replacing, a continual expense. At least for me. Also like to experiment once an awhile with a new product. Let us not forget the pink tax. And where are those darn pockets, yet our clothing is more expensive. 

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‘And where are those darn pockets,’

 

Dont start me on pockets! What’s that all about?!

And yet I certainly have way more ‘stuff’ to cart about!

 

Its either a conspiracy by the handbag manufacturers of the world, or just a petty attempt to irritate women by male clothing designers….

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53 minutes ago, WillbeAlice said:

‘And where are those darn pockets,’

 

Dont start me on pockets! What’s that all about?!

And yet I certainly have way more ‘stuff’ to cart about!

 

Its either a conspiracy by the handbag manufacturers of the world, or just a petty attempt to irritate women by male clothing designers….

Pockets or not I like having purse. They are handy IMO. I know men have their man bags, but how ugly can you get. I will never forget trying on a nice pair of black shorts (also my first time in a women's dressing room, I hadn't even started my transition. They certainly fir very nice, but when I go home ready to take a walk in them. Hey those front pockets where just seams. They did have back pockets, so I did have a place for my keys. Now a days I expect it, and I am more surprised to see a skirt (I'm a skirt girl for sure - whether home or out 95% of the time I am wearing a skirt) with pockets.

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On 8/1/2022 at 12:48 AM, Red_Lauren. said:

There has been a lot understanding with my transition from both sexes of my inner circle. Especially the females in my life. The only push back I get from them is the hair removal, and from my bigger breast friends. Would ask why I would want boobs. My male friends are typically like as long as im happy. They have the whatever view on it. 

 

The one thing I have noticed that different. Is the way they view my transition and sexual choices. As we are all between 30-40. Sex is still a big part of our relationships. So when my male friends find out I'm dating a chick. I get the confused as hell look, and tons of questions about how that happens. Because to them sex is just sticking some thing in a hole. I usally laugh and say do you really want the answers to that? That is usally followed by nope. 

 

My female friends on the other hand. When they find out I'm dating a woman. They don't really ask the sex questions. Its mostly the millions of questions about her. Yea there are sex questions, but I think its because they have spent their whole lives as woman, and as im figuring out. There is a lot more to sex then sticking some thing in a hole. I never get asked stupid questions about the who, what, and how. Like I do from my male friends. To me I find it werid. That there is that munch difference on how sex is viewed between the sexes..

 

 

So much more. Yes we probably have enough similarities than differences, but the differences seem to get noticed more,.

 

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I rarely have conversations of any depth with men, and that is perfectly fine with me, even though I know there are nice guys out there. And most woman don't ask any questions, they wait for me to tell them something about trans life. That's been my experience. 

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21 hours ago, StephieGurl said:

And makeup needs replacing, a continual expense. At least for me. Also like to experiment once an awhile with a new product. Let us not forget the pink tax. And where are those darn pockets, yet our clothing is more expensive. 

I actually work at a makeup store for a few more weeks. I pulled up my account, and other then a 122.00 purchase in April. I have spent less then 100 bucks in the Last year. I only buy the basics, or stuff I know that works. I do have to buy new brushes yet. That won't be cheap. 

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5 hours ago, Red_Lauren. said:

I actually work at a makeup store for a few more weeks. I pulled up my account, and other then a 122.00 purchase in April. I have spent less then 100 bucks in the Last year. I only buy the basics, or stuff I know that works. I do have to buy new brushes yet. That won't be cheap. 

A hundred bucks is a lot of money to spend in a month when you are on disability). That is about 11% of my income. Everyone of us experience the world differently. 

[I am not sure what my monthly makeup purchases. Thankfully I know they are no where near $100. Still it's an expense.]

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There is a very big difference the way men and women interact with me as a trans-woman.
Women have accepted me into their ranks with open arms.  They accept me and support me with advice, affirming compliments, and patience/understanding in relation to my emotions.  I've had the most wonderful and long conversations with women, they actively listen to my words and provide amazing insights that I'd never thought about.  I think the best part though is the amount of extra trust they have in me since I started transitioning.
Men seem to accept, or not notice, me.  Those who've accepted me seem to be uncomfortable when I start sharing information about my past and/or new life.  I find conversations with men are much more difficult since I started HRT.   I'm not sure I've ever  felt supported by men - my younger brother is the only exception that I can think of.

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