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Hi it's Suzanne


   I have finally decided to come out to my sister. I have given myself 12 days to do it. That gives me time to get up the courage to do it. The butterflies in my stomach are doing overtime but I am so determined. I think I'm now at the age (47) where I don't care what people think of me. If they love me then they will accept me. What ever the reaction I will live with the consequences good or bad. I've always put everyone else first before myself, it's now time for me to have a life and for me to be happy. If they don't accept that so be it. I love them all and I know I risk losing them but I have to do this now, I can't go on hiding anymore. I just want to be the real me. I have always supported them no matter what, I think it's time they do it for me. I just hope I can stay strong for these last few days. Like I said I am determined to do it NOW.


As always ❤️ Suzanne


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@Suzanne44Just my opinion, but, if possible, try not to wait the full 12 days. I'm not suggesting that your desire to truly live YOUR life would necessarily lessen, but sometimes the resolve to tell that certain someone can fade as you think about how negatively she may react. Suzanne is a strong woman, she can handle the disappointment that may be the response. I like that you have realized that you can't give a damn what others think. It's your life, not theirs. You understand that there may be a lack of acceptance. Realize also that you may get the acceptance and support where you least expect it. 


I started a job a month or so ago. I went into it with my old name still hanging on my neck, and my new legal name a week or so into the future. I've had to live with both (old name in the computer, legal name on the lips). Yeah, I'm pretty sure a lot of folks know what my deal is. Yet people I don't even know are greeting my with genuine interest - "Hey, Hannah, how's it going? Liking your job?" 


Hold on to that determination. You have to take the risks. Step out in the faith, the knowledge, that you are doing for yourself, that it's what you need and deserve. Show the world -   "I am Suzanne."


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Hi Hannah


   Thank you for your reply and kind words. I really do appreciate them. Unfortunately my sister who I want to tell first, is not here at the moment and won't be back for another nine days. That's why I gave myself the time. I didn't want her to be away and worrying about what I had told her. I thought the best option was to wait until she got back. Hopefully I am determined enough to go through with it when she returns. I am now absolutely sure this is what I want, I've had enough of hiding who I am and I now want to live my true life. I always put others first, but now it's time to think about me and what I want. I will show everyone who I am. Everyone WILL see me as Suzanne. If they love me as much as I love them then they will accept me as Suzanne, if they don't they will be the one's who lose me. I have always stuck by them no matter what. It's now their time to stick by me. I am 100% determined to tell them and show them who I really am. I'm sure they will be shocked at first but hopefully they will come round and accept me. Having help and advice on here has made me so determined to do this. I've read many posts on here and have seen some wonderful outcomes . Seeing how everyone on here has become their true selves and how happy you all am made me really realize that, that is what I want. I want to be truly happy and for that to happen I will be the real me Suzanne.

   Again thank you for your advice i REALLY do appreciate it. Hopefully we will speak again soon.


As always ❤️ Suzanne.


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