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Hi, all!


 I’m late to the party……literally!   I am 60 years old, and recently realized that I’d been holding the real me inside all these years.  Came out to my lovely spouse without issue, but I’m very cautious about medically transitioning due to some underlying endocrine issues.  

Anyway, I look forward to meeting everyone and sharing in this wonderful community.  



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Welcome, if you are only 60, you are younger by a couple of years to what I was when I came out, I am nearing 75, so you still have a few good years ahead of you to enjoy to the fullest.  If you have endocrine problems you are already in touch with an expert (or possible expert) on the issues of medical Transition.  I and a couple of others here are diabetic and those problems have not stopped us from being ourselves.  Again, welcome to the forums.

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Actually I’m panhypopituitary.  Since God has a sense of humor, I actually have to give myself Testosterone injections twice a month since I no longer produce it.  

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Welcome Ashleigh! Glad you're here! Better late than never. I hope you find the wonderful support, advice & acceptance here as I have.




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Welcome from another person who waited until her 60's.  At 74 i can say the last 10 + years have been wonderful.

Glad you've joined us.





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Hi, @AshleighMarie.  Welcome!


I am another late bloomer.  I was 62 when I began my transition.  Better late than never.  I am 68 now, and loving being me.


I hope you are able to get the medical issues sorted out so that you are free to take whatever transition steps you choose.




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Hi Ashleigh,

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.


Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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Thanks SO much, everyone!   It’s just wonderful to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way!

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Welcome @AshleighMarie, great to see you here. While I am younger I still felt old when I found out about myself just a couple of month ago. By now I know, it doesn't really matter. Everything has its time. And now is the time to shine 😊.

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On 9/26/2022 at 1:06 PM, AshleighMarie said:

I’m late to the party……literally!   I am 60 years old

Welcome @AshleighMarie! It’s a pleasure to have you onboard. I’m 60 and I would definitely start my transition today if I hadn’t already started. You and I are not too old by any measure. Personally, I feel much younger today than I did when I first started transitioning a little over 4 years ago. A weight was lifted that had been such a burden my entire life. So it’s almost never too late to medically transition unless your physician says it is. I hope yours can find a way to help you in that regard.


I would enjoy reading more about you, your backstory, and your possible transition journey in time if you’re willing. Thank you for sharing a little bit about yourself here today.


Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷


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On 9/26/2022 at 4:06 PM, AshleighMarie said:

I am 60 years old, and recently realized that I’d been holding the real me inside all these years.

Good afternoon @AshleighMarie 

Welcome to TransPulseForums, I hope you find this place as helpful as I do.

I will be 66 next month, married to my wife for 46 years, and we’re working through the issues of my coming out to her as transgender. 🏳️‍⚧️

To say it’s been a rocky road is an understatement, and nothing like the ice cream. 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,




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Hi@AshleighMarie, you may think your late, but so are a lot of us. I'm 63. Started to transition at 60. Finished at 63. It never hurts to be a part of a community of like situated people that cares about their fellows. 

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