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Hannah Renee

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My 50+2 years high school reunion festivities are this weekend. I can only make it to the Friday-night-informal-gathering-for-a-drink-before-the-homecoming-game-followed-by-the-football-game social event. No dinner on Saturday. I have made it known through classmates-dot-com that I am transgender with a brand new name - including a couple of pictures. I don't have any idea, with a couple of exceptions, who specifically knows, but I'm sure there are more than a handful. Guessing they might be curious.

 

I don't know that I'm necessarily freaking out. I mean, I've been looking forward to doing this for a while. I think it's very important that I do this. I'm proud of who I am, proud that I have had the strength to come out to myself, my family, the few friends I have, and my new employer. I'm now about to cement the relational aspect of my transition by taking it "home."

 

The thing is, I've never been a social person. Never went to a homecoming dance, or the prom. I think I went to a Valentine's Day dance once - it was girls ask the boys. I was actually surprised at the 40-year reunion but the number of people who came up to me to chat, many of whom I hadn't realized even knew who I was.

 

At that reunion, I was a bit of a novelty. No kids until turning 50, then adopting 4 in the space of 5 years - 3 of African American heritage and one special needs. Here I am again, a bit of a novelty - the small town doctor's kid who comes out as trans at 70. 

 

I don't think I'm trying to show off. I'm nervous as hell about this, actually. Yet, I just don't think I can be fully Hannah without doing this.

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Enjoy your 50th +2 reunion!  I certainly enjoyed mine.  While i felt shunned by some i actually found support and affection from others.  It was a great experience for me.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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10 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

The thing is, I've never been a social person. Never went to a homecoming dance, or the prom.

This is me as well.

 

I've never been to a reunion.  My family moved states for my senior year and that was the only year I was at the school.  I'm kinda introverted anyway, and although I actually do like people I've always been a bit of an outsider.  I still live in the town, but I know nobody from my class.  I wouldn't realize it if I did.  The people I do know are mostly from after my time in the military. 

 

I hope your reunion goes well for you.

 

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I think the one I really would have liked to attend was the 10-year, which is the only other one held. I could have at least remembered/recognized some people. I was just a couple of months short of discharge from the Air Force, so the timing was off. Coincidentally, Friday marks 42 years since I was discharged, and started with the FAA. 

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Well, Friday has come and gone, and it was not quite what I expected. In truth, I was overwhelmed. I never made it to the homecoming football game. I went to the informal social gathering first(only found out about it a couple of weeks ago), and just happened to walk up to the woman who had emailed me about it. She was sitting with 3 other women, one of whom I recognized, one I did not, as ND the third I definitely did not, as she was noticeably younger. She's the daughter of the one I didn't recognize, 40ish. I will call her N.

 

We had drinks and chatted for a while, and I was totally accepted as a woman. The second woman asked me about my kids, as she had remembered some about them from the 40th. For the benefit of N and her mom, I reiterated that all 4 of my kids came to us through adoption. And that threw the door wide open. N responded to the effect of, "That's awesome! I work for DCFS, and work with adoption all the time."

 

The 5 of us talked for quite a while, until my 3 classmates went to talk to some recent arrivals. N and I talked about a lot of things - quite a bit in common, it seems. I can only assume that, while I had been at the bar waiting for my drink, she was told that I'm trans, since she asked a couple of questions about my ex-wife. She has been divorced, but I'm not certain if she is currently married. She told me she has a daughter in the Navy out in California, who came out to her recently as lesbian. It was difficult at first, but acceptance came quickly. At any rate, she suggested we exchange phone numbers and email, and should get together on occasion to maybe play golf, or just lunch and talk.

 

I spent the last 20-30 minutes talking with other classmates who'd shown up, nd there was nothing but good conversation - and total acceptance by everyone I talked to. 

 

I feel as though this story has come across as a bit scattered, but I'm on a jind of an emotional high I've never experienced. If anyone had told me I would experience what has transpired over the past couple of months, I would have called 'em crazy.

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