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Almost coming out


LaurenA

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Today was a meeting of a hobby group I belonged to.  I decided it was time I came out to the group as myself.  I dressed accordingly and went to the meeting.  To my chagrin I discovered the meeting was next week.  I'm both disappointed and relieved at the same time.  It's also made me wonder If I had made the right decision.  It's going to have to happen sometime.  I keep putting it off.  Just like I put off letting my job know.  I wear a trans pride flag lapel pin at work all the time but nobody seems to see it.  I always wonder if they are ignoring it or they just don't know what it mans.

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@LaurenA I guess you could call it a "dress rehearsal." As I began coming out on this journey I began mostly as androgynous, as time passed & I grew more comfortable with me & anxiety waned, my presentation became more feminine, more authentic to me. I had to leave what others might think to them, as how I felt about me was amazing, a balance of mind & body. 

 

Hugs!

Delcina 

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I think I will be a bit like Delcina in the sense of making gradual shifts toward my real self and letting those around me have their reactions without having to involve myself.  As someone recently taught me:  it is not my responsibility to explain or justify my transition to anyone.  My only responsibility is to let my authentic self out and be free.

 

(who am I kidding?  yes I will do just as I said but that won't remove my fear and worries. still, I forge ahead, because it is what I need to do.)

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Well today is actually the meeting of a hobby group that I mentioned.  Right now I'm thinking of dressing as myself and introducing myself with my new name just like before.  I'm scared.  I wonder if this will cause me to leave the group.  I worry that there are people in the group that will ridicule me.  I know there is at least one person who will accept me as I am.  It's all the others I'm worried about.

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Talk about a non-event.  I introduced myself as Lauren and nobody eve batted an eye.  At the end of the meeting I was even asked what pronouns I wanted to use.  A lot of worry on my part for nothing.

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25 minutes ago, LaurenA said:

Talk about a non-event.  I introduced myself as Lauren and nobody eve batted an eye.  At the end of the meeting I was even asked what pronouns I wanted to use.  A lot of worry on my part for nothing.

That's great and well done.

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39 minutes ago, LaurenA said:

I was even asked what pronouns I wanted to use.  A lot of worry on my part for nothing.

That's great Lauren,

 

I'm so happy for you.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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7 hours ago, LaurenA said:

Talk about a non-event.  I introduced myself as Lauren and nobody eve batted an eye.  At the end of the meeting I was even asked what pronouns I wanted to use.  A lot of worry on my part for nothing.

 

Sounds like quite a relief! I'm glad it went well!

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