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I've recently come to the realization that my interactions with other people are changing since starting HRT.   I struggle to maintain interest in conversation with men now and, even more surprisingly, I'm finding myself waiting to be invited to speak while men fight to have their thoughts and opinions heard.  On the other hand, I am loving and thriving from my conversations with women.  Over the past few days, I've even found myself listening to my mother until she is ready to say goodbye.  It seems my interactions with other people has  almost swung 180 degrees.

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Just wondering...are other aspects of your life changing as well?  Like, are you more emotional or intuitive? 


I've heard that HRT can change all sorts of things.  I was told that the little bit of testosterone cream I use might change things a bit for me... so far, nothing different mentally/emotionally.  I think results are going to vary dramatically form person to person. 

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Lots of changes for me already, physical and emotional - I've documented some/many elsewhere on here.  It took me a while to notice emotional changes because, as my wife says, I always had difficulty with my emotions.   Intuition was like emotions in that I was already very strong in this space before transition - I'm much more likely to vocalize my intuition now though (I used to keep my intuitive 'observations' to myself in the past).  For me, the mental changes are far more rewarding than the physical changes - so far.

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I to was having changes emotions, big time mood swings,some breast growth they took me of hrt on nov 7 had blood clots blaming the E  dont know I kind of liked the feeling being on HRT 

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Hi everyone. There are a lot of good points here, on a variety of things. To @Trans22, I haven't really experienced changes in how I interact with people based on gender. But, I HAVE noticed, and been told by friends I've known for many years, that I am calmer and more patient than I used to be. I've also been told I'm more "serene" than in times past. That's a word I would never have used to describe myself. I'm also more talkative than I used to be. 


I've also noticed the emotional changes--I cry more easily nowadays, for example, and it's easier for me to show emotion. Like @rachel w, I've had mood swings. Often at he oddest times. It's kinda like going through puberty and menopause at the same time. (That's how my doctor describes it and she is a transwoman who has experienced this.) And, as @awkward-yet-sweetpoints out the results vary among individuals.


Generally speaking, I don't worry about it. I just accept the changes and move on. Life's too short to stress over the changes. The main thing is to get the correct dosage, communicat4e with your doctor because E can cause blood clots and other issues, as can T, I'm told. And most importantly, enjoy and roll with the changes to become the most authentic, the best YOU that you can be.

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As hormones and presentation changed i definitely saw a change in interactions.  Men became a bit guarded when we spoke. There was certainly a bit of sexual tension.  I unfortunately also discover male dismissal of my opinions.  While speaking about my own paintings at an exhibit i was more or less pushed to the side by two men who seemingly knew more than the painter.

Joining the sisterhood took time but i am often more comfortable with women and feel a support which is much different than men ever offered.


2 hours ago, rachel w said:

i to was having changes emotions, big time mood swings,some breast growth they took me of hrt on nov 7 had blood clots blaming the E  dont know I kind of liked the feeling being on HRT 

having had similar issues i have been using a topical E for quite some time now.  The risks this way are low.  After surgery i no longer produced T and E is actually safer under medical supervision.





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6 hours ago, Marcie Jensen said:

Generally speaking, I don't worry about it. I just accept the changes and move on.

That's pretty much how I am running with HRT changes too.  I am loving myself & life for the first time since the onset of puberty, so acceptance and positivity (present and future) is really easy for me.

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