enbyphoria!

[Vidanjali]

This is a thread to view and share sources of nonbinary euphoria. 

 

This weekend, my husband told me about actor Emma Corrin (they/them) who recently came out as trans nonbinary. Looking at photos of them on Instagram brought me to tears of joy. I am grateful for their authenticity and visibility. I believe the enbyphoria I experienced was part Emma & part my husband, who has come a massively long way in accepting and supporting me. 

 

 

[Davie]

15 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

This is a thread to view and share sources of nonbinary euphoria. 

 

This weekend, my husband told me about actor Emma Corrin (they/them) who recently came out as trans nonbinary. Looking at photos of them on Instagram brought me to tears of joy. I am grateful for their authenticity and visibility. I believe the enbyphoria I experienced was part Emma & part my husband, who has come a massively long way in accepting and supporting me. 

 

 

Yay, @VidanjaliI love this thread already. Thanks for starting it. I've never heard that word before: Enbyphoria. It's almost got a song in one word. Like the song, "Maria" from West-Side Story. "I've just met a girl named Enbyphoria. And suddenly that name Will never be the same To me! Enbyphoria!"  OK, it does need an orchestra and choreograhy, but it's still cool. Enbyphoria should attract lots of stories and songs and photos like tthose above. I'll see you again.

— Davie

[Kerry_Autumn]

This thread is awesome, I'm going to see if I can find anything to contribute.  I love it when there is validation in the public eye for non-binary folks.

 

Oh, and enbyphoria is a new one on me as well, any day you learn new something is a good day, so thank you.

 

All the best,

 

-Kerry

[Vidanjali]

Lol, @Davie more like "I've just met a gender-nonspecific person named enbyphoria" I'm sure Bernstein could have accommodated all those syllables somehow... someday... somewhere...

 

I may have coined the term "enbyphoria". Just popped into my head. But who knows - there's nothing new under the sun. 

[Davie]

Yep. Twitter search turned up only 1 defunct tweeter, probably a typo. It'll be word of the year in 2023. We're going to have our own driverless car! Humor will be our superpwer! 

[Vidanjali]

Last night, I was at the dog park & chatting with a new comer. A nice guy. The conversation turned to "you just never know what life has in store". I wound up sharing a brief timeline of things I've struggled with in my life - homelessness, poverty, chronic illness, etc. (nothing about queerness) - and my life's unexpected turns. I commented that sometimes, one never knows what strength they can potentially muster unless they're faced with a challenge. And often, we can be resentful of having to be so strong, but what is the alternative? He shared some of his own struggles which he surmounted & another story which was inspiring. 

 

Anyways, he was unexpectedly very encouraging and validating which was nice. At one point he said, "you are an impressive lady." There was this slow-motion split second where I thought: suck it up, or say something...heck,why not say something. I just smiled and said: I prefer "person" over "lady". He hesitated for a moment. Maybe he had his own internal slow-motion split second debate. He then nodded and said yeah, okay. Then, later in our conversation he correctly referred to me as a person without making any big deal about it. 

 

It felt great. I'm finding that sometimes there are simple ways to affirm yourself which don't entail coming out or any major explanation or need to make oneself so vulnerable - like "I prefer this over that." If someone wants to argue with something you've expressed as your "preference", even though you know your identity is deeper than that, then one might point out the absurdity. For example, imagine if you met someone and said, "call me James", and the other person said, "you seem more like a Jimmy. I'll call you Jimmy". They would cleary only be demonstrating their own egotism. It's not a perfect analogy, but that's the spirit of the idea. 

[Colleen Henderson]

On 12/6/2022 at 9:14 AM, Vidanjali said:

I may have coined the term "enbyphoria". Just popped into my head. But who knows - there's nothing new under the sun. 

 

I don't know when you're going to bed. But I'm pretty tired tonight, so I may be enbyphoria.

[Vidanjali]

14 minutes ago, Colleen Henderson said:

 

I don't know when you're going to bed. But I'm pretty tired tonight, so I may be enbyphoria.

 

@Colleen Henderson it took me a minute. Nice one!

[Davie]

Non-Binarily

 

Don’t shame dysphoria.
Hate me, non-binarily.
It’s diversity for idiots,
inclusion for crazies,
your proof of mania,
laziness whomever
poem to clueless,
or foreverness
to end a time.
I love you.

 

   — Davie

[Vidanjali]

A long lost friend recently reached out to me. The other day we caught up on the phone for 2 1/2 hours. I told her I'm trans nonbinary. Her response: Don't take this the wrong way (me: curious - what ever might she imagine I'd take the wrong way), but that does not surprise me at all. I laughed and said I take that exactly the right way - I find the fact you're not surprised very affirming. She went on to say she always felt there was something different and special about me, but couldn't put her finger on it. She said, you were just you, my friend. Love! 

[Davie]

6 hours ago, Vidanjali said:

She said, you were just you, my friend. Love! 

My reply is a dance!