Told my family and friends

[happyinvermont]

I Just made a Facebook group account with all my friends. I told them what I was doing. Now waiting for response

 

Ok this is hard to talk about. But all my life I have struggled with my gender dysphoria. I cause me too attempt suicide once runned my marriage with Carole. Over the last months I have been thinking about this issue a lot. I can't hide my true inner feelings anymore. I have come to conclusion that I am non binary. Parts of me doesn't mind being a male. But part of me wants to express my outward female side. So I have started to take hormones to adjust my body to what I want. You can agree with me hate me or just ignore me from now on. I am getting use to being ignored. 

MY LIFE MY CHOICES

[missyjo]

happyinvermont,

hugs you tightly.

oh sweetie, my sweet.

please no more talk of hurting yourself ever again, you're perfect as you are, in God's image.they don't understand is their loss on not knowing a wonderful person.

Your courage is applauded dear. good for you, deciding what will help you be happier n doing it, regardless of their opinions.  may want to add a good gender therapist too.

good for you honey. 

you're appreciated n loved by many others exactly as you are, so no worries

 

be strong dear

hugs 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Carolyn Marie]

I'm glad for you that you are moving forward, and that is making you happier.  It is what we all want for ourselves.  No one is going to ignore you, and certainly not hate you.  We all have the right to live our lives as we wish to, as long as we don't intentionally hurt others (in the physical sense).  I do hope that your hormone intake is being monitored by a doctor and that they are being prescribed for you.  We want you to remain healthy and safe.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[KayC]

Congratulations! @happyinvermont
I have not reached the point to have the courage to do what you have just done.  But I want to Thank You! for sharing.  And I think your message is a great example of how to say it.  (I will keep it in mind when I am ready). ❤️

[Ashley0616]

Congratulations! I have told my family and lost a lot of support! I have two people that I can talk to about it and that's it. I guess that is the bad thing when you have an ultra conservative family. My current wife is leaving me and I'm also having to have to say goodbye to my stepson as well. I was told that I was being selfish and only cared about my happiness and not thinking about how others are affected. My other two children are too young to understand. It has made me have a lot of suicidal thoughts due all the loss and my body not looking how I feel inside. I am ok though and will go the VA on Monday to see if I can't try to speed up the process. They said that they would put in for the referral but I don't think I can wait that long. I'm 38 years old and it has gone as long as I can remember. 

[missyjo]

Ashley

Oh sweetie, get to a therapist soon, please.

 

I had my siblings tell me to wait too, and not to tell mom. But here's what i dont understand, what is it that we are ashamed of? That we are women? SO now my sibblings have a sister instead of a brother, why must that be hidden?

 

We're being selfish? Perhaps, but what is the alternative, if we had a broken leg wouldnt we be allowed to seek treatment, without being called selfish? If we suffered addictions, which are medically classified as diseases, wouldnt our families want us to get help? SO why, i dont know, is it so bad that i wish to live my life, whatever is left of it, as a woman? My mind or heart have not changed. I still believe in and love/hate what i did before i put on my heels, so why the big fuss? It is a major change for US, but to them, isnt it just window dressing? I understand marriages, they must contend with did i sign up for a same sex marriage or not, but then there is the better or worse in sickness and health, would they stay if we had cancer ? but not bipolar? and not gender dysphoria? 

 

Too bad. I am sure some of us are truly wonderful people that simply need to live in a body and clothes different from what our birth certificates originally said, and for that, many will miss out on knowing us, or enjoying our company. Their loss. Screw them. SPend your time where others do love you. 

Good luck dear. 

Hugs