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Hello dudes and enbys and anyone else who's trans masc/FtM!! :-)) I am new to this, recently came out and too broke to afford to medically transition (though I will certainly try to find a way, somehow). Because of this, I am really dysphoric and uncomfortable--any tips to look more masculine? I'll take anything, I'm suffering over here XD 

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The basics are binder, looser clothes (all hail the dysphoria hoodie), shorter hair and maybe a packer. With some practice you can learn to drop your voice.


Next up, fix your walk. Watch how men walk. They don't walk like women do, do they? With some practice, you can emulate the same kind of rolling, lead-with-your-shoulders gait. Don't overdo it. I've seen it taken to extremes, but you can learn to walk like a man, talk like a man, sit like a man, etc...


I went the other way, but a lot of it is body language, inflection, etc... Best of luck!



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I second the hoodie suggestion. I can't get top surgery because I have a medical issue that would get worse from any type of surgery (except minor surgery). But I now have three loose hoodies and I feel less dysphoric when I wear them, which is most of the time that I go out. 

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I am in a similar situation - someone in another forum suggested a compression tank. For me going to a barber help me a lot with the style and the overall feel of the place.

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On 3/9/2023 at 3:07 AM, EllisOS said:

I am in a similar situation - someone in another forum suggested a compression tank. For me going to a barber help me a lot with the style and the overall feel of the place.

I’ll second the barber suggestion. I recently got my first barber haircut and it was AMAZING. A week on, and I still keep taking selfies (I am NOT normally a selfie person), and running my hand over my head to enjoy how it feels to finally have the short cut I could never quite get from hairdressers. Even the cut itself was more fun - no cloying scents, no one trying to talk me into getting my hair washed for an additional fee. Added bonus: I had two separate men address me as ‘brother’ on my way home from the cut, which put a definite skip in my step. 

Clothes are good, too - hoodies (when the weather permits), shirts, a chunky ‘masculine’ watch, etc, all also help me feel more comfortable in my own skin. Also buying men’s boxers works for me in a weird sort of way - no one else sees them, but knowing they’re there is comforting!


Think about toiletries, too - I’ve had a lot of fun exploring scents and products I previously avoided because they were too ‘masculine’ and at the time I rather desperately avoided anything that might give my secret away. 


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That's great, @Samuel William . What a great feeling. You mentioned the "pink tax" which is dumb and somehow extra dumb when applied to afab trans individuals. I had shared a few months ago that the salon I go to changed their pricing to apply to length of haircut and level of expertise of stylist instead of pink and blue. Euphoria when my barber informed me I'd be paying for a "short advanced" cut rather than a "womens" cut. And! it was $20 less to boot. 🤦‍♂️😄

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OMG I forgot how much more women pay for a haircut.  Crazy!  I actually have my husband cut my hair, or sometimes my GF.  I go with the fluffy "androgynous" pixie cut, so I can pass as a boy most of the time and as a girl when I need to. 


As others have said, there's the androgynous "dysphoria hoodie" that is really common.  I think the big part about trying to look like a boy is mostly *not* looking like a girl.  Silly to say it like that, but avoiding showing curves (if any), avoiding pastel colors, avoiding long hair, and walking confidently is most of it.  Deep voice can help, but not all men have a very deep voice. 


If I could describe the way my husband walks, lead with the heel of your shoe.  He actually wears out the edge of the heels of his boots, and his walk is a bit noisy.  Women are more delicate.  It is an attitude as much as a gait or position.  Its "I'm here, I own this."  Some folks complain about guys who "manspread" when they sit.  Again, it is mostly a confident "I own this" kind of attitude.  You don't have to be boisterous or cocky, just a bit more bold/forward than you feel.  But it depends on your environment and role.  I'm intersex and in my boy form a lot, but I'm not bold, forward, or owning my area.  I'm my husband's partner, so in my boy form I'm still young, small, cute, and not dominant.  You'll find your own comfort zone.  😊

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