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Good news. I got assigned a real gender therapist from Fenway Health.


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The wait list took 7 months, but that's not a problem really. I've been lucky to have had good help that way. They saw me through a very tough couple of years when I faced eviction, assault, coming out, new housemate, hurt back, work problems, very sick from diabetes, and suicidal thoughts. I've had four different but very supportive therapists. My local hospital gives great care but the most appropriate therapist they could offer was brand new, young, with little gender training, and had no trans experience. But she is smart, a good listener, patient, attentive, and asks good questions. Mainly she was there each week and let me go on and on for each hour--I love to talk. And she related well to me working through my problems using my writing of an autobiographical novel related to my gender issues. Tough choice: I need to keep only one says my insurance and my sanity. So I'll have to fire one at some point soon. A prosperous problem to have. Lucky that way and I am gaining a better sense of who I am—no small thing, that is. One day at a time. A good news post. Yay. 💜  — Davie

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You are definitely moving along there.  It is wonderful to hear.  The very best Gender Therapists have all started out as what I and some therapist friends describe as "garden variety" therapists who simply take an interest in their Trans clients and go from there.  You have broken in a new one of them.

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@VickySGVThanks so much, Vicky. I am so insecure about whether I'm making progress, or even "any" progress at all. I get lost putting where I am right now into its proper perspective, so that's great to hear. Because my whole past seems so affecting by trauma and denial it draws my attention away from the here and now. I need to remember that liberation is for today—not the future when everything might be "all figured out." Life is simpler than I make it sometimes. Just do it, sistah! 

— Davie 💜

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