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Charlize

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   A few years ago i found walking in the woods during Maple syrup season was harder than it had been.  I continued to make syrup as i'd done for  almost 40 years.  I'd pick up a stick on occasion to steady myself and eventually my wife got mecsome lovely aluminum walking sticks.  This spring i just couldn't do it any more.  I went to an orthopedic surgeon and he took one look and said i needed a new hip.  Well my cardiologist had told me =no surgery was possible due to my heart issues.  I tried PT but found that while it might have helped it also aggravated the situation and tending for the sheep etc. became harder.  Time passed and i saw my cardiologist.  When he saw me come in needing a cane to walk he told me i could get surgery after all.  I looked around, found a great surgeon who scheduled surgery for the 20th of this month.  However  I had to get approval from a cardiologist at his hospital.  After a week of invasive, sometimes painful testing i got the verdict. No surgery.

   It will take time to get used to using a cane, walker and soon enough a wheelchair.  I've always been an active rather butch character.  I love to make art and have some recognition and occasional sales but adjustment will take time.  I had to accept limited surgery in my transition 10 years ago due to my heart.  Acceptance is the best that can be done.  

   One advantage seems to be that men now rush ahead to help the old dottering woman.  

 

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Charlize

 

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Acceptance of those things is hard, especially of things that have brought us joy and fulfillment over the years.  A new journey begins to find things to fill the holes in our lives. 

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Charlize, it was so sad to hear that result.

Wish you could find another surgeon, however it would probably give the same result.

 

I know you will figure out what to do as you are a tough ole' girl.

I guess you can lean on the young things to get stuff done ;)

 

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Robyn

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Sorry to hear your news Charlize.

Too bad the first cardiologist couldn’t sign off on it.  But sounds like a risky situation regardless. 

Peace be with your day woman. 

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Charlize that sucks. I was told i have a irregular heart condition as well.

Every time i have a surgery i  have to pass one of stress test. Eventually i been told its going to catch up to me. 

My respond is; " that why i keep running ." 

Much lv Charlize I only know via yr post but i know that your one strong Girl and its going to take a lot to stop you.

much lv

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I am so sorry to read the outcome of your tests, Charlize. May you find peace and strength - and know that our thoughts are with you.

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My heart goes out to you Charlize. It's a difficult situation. You will be in my prayers.

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@Charlize I’m very sorry to read about your declining mobility and the recent verdict you received about the possibility of surgery. If this ends up being the final medical opinion you’ll seek, I wish you the very best with all the upcoming lifestyle adjustments. I hope that the changes you’ll need will be a comfortable transition for you with minimal discomfort.

 

*Big Hugs*

Susan R🌷

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Charlize I know you are not happy with this decision as it will affect your ability to move about the farm.  Please be careful when moving about in the rough.  We don't want to hear you've fallen and things have taken a turn for the worse.  

 

All my best to you, 

Jani

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It's gratifying and inspiring to hear you speak of acceptance @Charlize and your humorous and light hearted silver lining. Bless you & may this transition be graceful for you.

 

If it helps, they are doing amazing things with high end compression garments these days which may provide some extra stability. My fave atm is Tommie Copper (I look out for sales). Their products are like wearing athletic k-tape but stitched into garment. 

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I'm sorry you're meeting this point in life @Charlize. As mentioned before me, you're an inspiration, and I know you'll find a way to make the best of the situation.

 

Hugs,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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That is truly a shame, Charlize, but there is no cure for getting old, as hard as it is to accept.  I know how much you love farming, and I hope you can continue at least some of your activities.  The hiking sticks or canes may allow for some of that.  My heart goes out to you, hon.  Take care.  ❤️

 

(((HUGS)))

 

Carolyn

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