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Hi everyone, I'm Nicole. I'm 53 and married, and I'm relatively new to all of this. Lately I have been doing some crossdressing and considering going out en femme. I've been thinking I might be bi-gender or something along those lines, and watching a lot of videos to try and get more information. I find Sydney Lovekiss's videos to be very helpful. Looking in the mirror with makeup feels amazing. Feels a bit like validation and excitement rolled into one. I'm doing "my gender workbook" by Kate Bornstein. I'm trying to keep my spouse in the loop and not go behind her back. So far she has been relatively ok with it, I hope that continues. I think if there is something here, it is going to come out no matter what I do. So I guess in the words of Dara Hoffman-Fox, I'm on a quest. Maybe there's something really important here, maybe not. I want to keep an open mind.

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Hi Nicole, welcome to the forum :)

 

I am glad things have started well for you as it can get a bit complicated at times. You will find a wealth of accumulated knowledge here and lots of friendly folk. Please feel free to join in, and ask questions as you need.

 

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Welcome to the forum!! There is so much information here to explore and assist in your journey. Enjoy!!

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Nicole!  It's nice to meet you.  Like @tracy_jsaid, it's always great to hear of spouses who are supportive, even if not enthusiastic.  It's better than the alternative.

 

Please post in any topic, or start some of your own.  If you have questions, we will do our best to answer them.

 

HUGS

 

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