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Brianna R

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A siding salesman came to my door today to sell me siding I don’t need. My siding is nearly new. I’m standing there wearing a blouse and a skirt with my makeup done and as he leaves he says THANK YOU SIR!! OMG what will it take for the world to see me? I was feeling pretty good about how I looked since I had just colored my hair to hide the gray. Now I just want to hide. 

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Please don't take it too hard, Brianna.  Some people are just oblivious.  A few are deliberately cruel, but you can usually tell who those jerks are by the way they say it.  In either case, it's their problem.  Just let it roll off your back.  The next comment you get may just as easily be affirming.  But I do understand how it made you feel. 

 

((HUGS))

 

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I'm so sorry, honey. Way to take the wind out of your sails. The truth is that his choice of words says more about him, his ignorance and lack of decency than they do about you in any way. The hardest part is it doesn't hurt him at all to say what he said, but for you, it's a much bigger deal because you are being courageously yourself and that requires you to be vulnerable. For what it's worth, I admire you for being genuine. Try to do something nice for yourself to relax. 

 

I personally wish people would drop such titles altogether - that is, he could have just said "thank you", especially if he was at all uncertain how to address you. The other day, I went to a new doctor and the receptionist called me Mrs. (last name). I told her, "call me (first name)". She said, "okay, miss (first name)". I said, "just (first name), please, no miss". She replies, "okay ma'am". Geez, she really wasn't getting it. Nor was she trying to be demeaning. People are just so stuck on what they think is "polite" without reading the room. 

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I'm so sorry this happened to you, @Brianna R. It's truly astounding just how oblivious some people are. Words completely fail me at this point. There's no excuse for this person's behavior, especially with you in a skirt, blouse and being made up. Again, I'm so sorry this happened

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Ugh.  Pretty obvious since you were in feminine clothes.  I don't really care what people call me - I look kinda androgynous, so people just do what they like.  But when you're very openly presenting as one gender...to get called by another has got to be really irritating. 

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