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Hello,

 

I've been on a bit of a self discovery journey over the last few years. Mostly trying to come to terms with who I am. I think I'm slowly getting there. I've wanted to wear women's clothes since I was young, but with everyone around me telling me that it's wrong, weather directly or indirectly, it's been hard to come to terms with. I'm also learning that although this is a big part of who I am, it's just one of many parts. Even so, I've found it to be very isolating and that's why I am here to learn more and make friends.

 

I hope to talk to more of you soon. Thank you.

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Welcome to TransPulseForums Kira,

 

Take the time to look around, jump in on some treads, and friendly supportive people will respond.

I hope you find this site as helpful as I do... It's not therapy, but it's close.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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1 hour ago, Mmindy said:

Welcome to TransPulseForums Kira,

 

Take the time to look around, jump in on some treads, and friendly supportive people will respond.

I hope you find this site as helpful as I do... It's not therapy, but it's close.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated,

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

 

Thank you

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Kira.  The slow and steady approach is often the best, when it comes to figuring all of this out, or, as you all are fond of saying, "sorting it."  😋  It is also not uncommon for others to discourage cross dressing or experimenting, but I suppose they just want to keep you safe.

 

Please ask whatever questions come to mind, and have a look at the many threads and posts that probably already contain the answers you're looking for.  We'll be happy to help.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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Welcome, Kira! Enjoy your time here. There is so much info here and the people are amazing.. Sometimes just rocking a pair of heels can make your whole day!!

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Thank you everyone for the very warm welcome. I really appreciate it. 

 

Kira

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Hi kira_k,

 

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

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19 hours ago, kira_k said:

Even so, I've found it to be very isolating and that's why I am here to learn more and make friends.

Welcome, kira_k!

 

I too found my questioning years to be terribly self-isolating. I could go as far as to say that most of my life was self-isolating. This Forum has certainly helped to alleviate that feeling of self-isolation. Stick around! I think you'll find the Forum to be a warm and magical place.

 

Cheers!

Rianon

 

 

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Hello Kira,

I'm new as well and wanted to say hello. In my early days, I found the best way to find to self acceptance was by reading books on the subject. Knowing that millions of others felt the same way I did helped me a great deal. Peggy Rudd has some great books on the subject and one that helped me a lot was "Crossdressing with Dignity". My sister gave it to me after I came out to her and it's definitely worth reading as well as her other books. Take care and be well.

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9 hours ago, Timber Wolf said:

Hi kira_k,

 

Welcome to Transpulse. I'm glad you're here.

 

Lots of love and a big welcome hug,

Timber Wolf🐾

 

Thank you 🤗

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2 hours ago, Jessica1972 said:

Hello Kira,

I'm new as well and wanted to say hello. In my early days, I found the best way to find to self acceptance was by reading books on the subject. Knowing that millions of others felt the same way I did helped me a great deal. Peggy Rudd has some great books on the subject and one that helped me a lot was "Crossdressing with Dignity". My sister gave it to me after I came out to her and it's definitely worth reading as well as her other books. Take care and be well.

 

Hi Jessica,

 

It's very nice of you to do so. I will definitely have a look at that book. Thank you for the recommendation. 

 

You take care too

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Welcome kira_k I was stationed in RAF Mildenhall England March 2004-March 2007. It's pretty there. I was there for three years. I enjoyed every moment. I started off crossdressing at an early age. My current wife gave me the confidence to come out as trans and unfortunately losing her but tired of living a secret. Hugs

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