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Heather Shay

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Today's "mistakes" are tomorrow's wisdom.

Yesterday's "liabilities" are today's assets.

 

We're shaped by where we've been but we choose who we are. Life's a journey 💐

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“Cry. Forgive. Learn. Move on. Let your tears water the seeds of your future happiness.”
― Steve Maraboli

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Once you accept you 

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a skillful glide over snow or ice in descending a mountain.

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Out of Darkness Cometh Light

 

-City crest of Wolverhampton (and Wolverhampton Wanderers football (soccer) team)

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Give and you will receive.

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Be nice to yourself especially when you don't want to be.

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Know you are not alone and that you are loved - here at TP.

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  • Wear your smile like a badge of honor.
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Give love to yourself first so you can then share it with others.

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Remember to be good to yourself, you deserve it always.

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The universe is not punishing you or blessing you; the universe is responding to the vibrational attitude that you are emitting.  -Abraham Hicks

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    • KatieSC
      I think all of us have a lot of stuff that accumulates over the decades. Whether parents were old or young, being poor has created big barriers for our folks to engage with us when we were growing up. I can sense a lot of hurt in your words Willow. My folks were much younger, and I was fortunate that my folks gave me a lot of support. I still got yelled at, and still got some beatings now and again. I was still to scared to ever tell my folks that I was trans back then. Years later, my mother said to me, "I know more than you think I know."   I was floored. I think back to the how hard they worked for so little. Yet, I know a lot of others had to face much worse. I hope that you and your wife are doing okay. How is she recuperating?     
    • Lorelei
      College.    Engineering school was so difficult and time consuming that I rarely thought of gender. As a result I was a lot less depressed and was suicidal only a couple of times, with no attempts. It was commute-class-commute-homework-study-work repeat. I didn’t sleep much. My father got sober so my home life drastically improved. I only asked one girl and I did get rejected. Apparently she was in a group that forbid dating people from other ethnicity’s and had I got involved with her I could have been killed. I was told about getting killed by someone in that group much later, but I don’t know if that was true or exaggerated.    I nearly flunked out and lost my scholarship freshman year which was a real big stressor. But I hit sophomore year running and kept getting A’s throughout my college years. I did get the scholarship back. I studied so much that I was able to complete 15+ credits of graduate school while still undergrad. I graduated with honors.    My closest friend was in computer engineering (I am civil/environmental engineering) and he was gay. The rest of my friends were women. I definitely felt right with that. My class was like 75% female. I connected with the women much better than men. Although I was definitely presenting as male at that time I felt like I was one of the women. I still didn’t know about the concept of being transgender, all I thought of that was they were cross dressing. But at this point I knew I was a woman inside of a man’s body and men’s clothing.    After graduating, I got a job at the sewer department and took night classes to complete my masters degree in two years. I was able to complete it so quickly because of all the masters credits from when I was undergrad. So it was now work-commute-homework-studying-commute with little time to think about gender. So I was actually pretty happy and not depressed. The summer of graduation I started caving which led to a lot. 
    • Willow
      Good morning    @awkward-yet-sweet you didn’t need to grow up poor or in a bad family to need to get away.   by most standards, my parents should have been my grandparents, my father was 5G when I was born. He never did much with me and if he couldn’t fix it with money he didn’t bother.    My mother was 40 but that was still old to have a baby back then.  I was sick a lot.  Weak compared to others my age.  Mostly mentally abused, not physically but still abused.  I could never get any praise. Got a lot of static about my first year of college. I dropped out and joined the Air Force.  This was at the heights of Vietnam.  Girls joined to get away from abuse with the hope of learning a skill they could use to support themselves when they got out.  Sorry to say a lot of their abuse continued in the service back then.   nothing has changed and I doubt it ever will.
    • Lorelei
      High school   In high school I hung out with the average people so life at school was pretty easy. None of the elementary and middle school craziness I had been suffering. The guys I usually hung out with really weren’t really into crude talk about women which was a breath of fresh air compared to middle school. The jocks left me alone and I avoided them. Just movies and hanging out at the local pizza place. I barely passed in Latin but did very well in the other classes. We, mostly nerdy girls, would hang out in the biology lab with a freshly graduated lab teacher. She barely looked like she was older than us and probably knew we were cutting another class. I guess administration figured hanging out and talking about college to a teacher was low priority to enforce compared to the kids cutting class to smoke pot, tobacco or drinking alcohol in the restrooms. Gym was ok, but I did earn the nickname of hyper changer since I would change so fast that nobody saw me changing.  I felt wrong though even though I was doing good socially. I definitely knew I was in the wrong body and hated my penis. Needless to say, I was very depressed in high school and had tried to kill myself a couple of times. It is amazing that my liver survived the Tylenol overdose I took before bed one day. My parents knew that I was depressed and had me on antidepressants but they did not know that I had attempted suicide until I told them a couple of years ago. The meds really didn’t help. I still didn’t tell my doctor that I was in the wrong gender. It didn’t help that my father was alcoholic and was verbally abused sometimes. He did get sober and my relationship with him drastically improved.     I also huffed basically anything volatile to escape my life. I had some fierce hangovers from that. Nobody knew that I had been doing that either. Ultimately I quit that freshman year of college after face planting into a toolbox full of sharp tools. Outwardly I seemed happy to everyone.    Like every boy I was expected to ask girls out, but the concept felt unnatural. It felt like that the girls should be asking me out. No surprise that I went to next to no dances, and the only one I ended up dancing was a goth girl, like the polar opposite of my lifestyle. I ended up hanging out with her and her friends pretty regularly. when prom came, we made plans to hang out at the mall, but those plans fell through. I still talked to them on Facebook up until I ended up marrying someone. I was definitely one of the girls with them, but I didn’t realize that. High school would have been a bad to have started transitioning as I would have likely been expelled. Catholic school.    Later post for that. I initially did meet my wife in high school but it amounted to me saying “hi” and running off. I was very shy. I also thought she was with someone else, but now know that guy is gay and they were inseparably close friends. She was only one class with me.   My high school was a catholic school so everyone was expected to attend college. We had three West Point cadets come from my class, but one of them ended up deciding to go to Harvard medical instead (it was an Ivy League medical school, I am not entirely sure it was Harvard). I graduated in 2000 with honors and got accepted to an engineering school in New York City with a partial scholarship. Currently the only people from high school that I am in touch with are my wife and her gay best friend. 
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    • KatieSC
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