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Kristi to Matt

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Hey, so basically I'm a pre Op F2M (Matt, formally known as Kristi).. I've literally just started on TRT treatment, but was hoping to find like-minded friends so share the journey with.

 

So far I've not come out to anyone close to me as I'm not sure how they'll react. It's really difficult.

 

Happy to chat on here or elsewhere, exchange thoughts, ideas, pics etc. I'd love any help on looking/behaving more masculine xx

 

 

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Hey Matt! Hope everything's going well for you. Coming out is a pretty difficult process, I can definitely sympathize with you there. (Still debating how I want to approach the subject with some people...) I'm probably not qualified to give any advice, but in my experience behavior is 90% "Fake it till you make it." Is the confidence real? They won't be able to tell.

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congrats on starting TRT! that's real exciting! as the comment above^ says faking it till you make it is 100% true. and honestly, being yourself and doing your own thing is the best thing you can do. when you're comfortable with yourself others are comfortable with you. and... for some reason, having a resting angry face helps too, which if you have it naturally, even better.

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