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Early on in therapy my therapist asked what my sexual orientation was, i have always been asexual and never felt a need for anyone, however recently i do feel the need to be with someone and cuddle sometimes, sex would not be a part of it. I told him i wouldn't mind being with a GG, FtM or under the right conditions a MtF, for me it would be about the personality and if we clicked.

My monthly support group is made up of of about 50/50 MtF and Ftm I'm hoping i might be able to find someone similar to me there , but i won't hold my breath.

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Guest NicolaiAE

I guess I wouldn't know until I tried. I don't see a problem with being with a FtM. If I were in a relationship for comfort/companionship's sake, I don't think it would matter, so long as we understood each other.

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Guest caramelchef

I am a bio female and my husband is ftm. Gender has never really been a issue for me, its who a person is and there heart. To be honest a would rather date someone trans ftm or mtf is I was still single.

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Guest Donna Jean
I am a bio female and my husband is ftm. Gender has never really been a issue for me, its who a person is and there heart. To be honest a would rather date someone trans ftm or mtf is I was still single.

Suuure....

Easy for you!....Cause you're the sweetest person around!....

Of course it's the person and their heart.....

You have a good heart, too....

Hey, Hon....I love you and Angel so much....lol...just HAD to sneak that in here....

Now, back to our regular programing!

BIGG HUGG!

Donna Jean

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Guest CharliTo

I like sweet , but independent people :3 guy or girl. =)

Most FTM guys are sweet & independent guys, so the answer'd be yes :3

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Guest Seth_J

I'll be honest, I wouldn't completely rule out MTFs, but I'd have to really like her, especially if she's pre-op. That probably sounds bad...

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Guest My_Genesis
I'll be honest, I wouldn't completely rule out MTFs, but I'd have to really like her, especially if she's pre-op. That probably sounds bad...

no you worded that pretty well.

really, i would only rule out ftm's, the same way i rule out bio-guys. lol :mellow:

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Guest LightNebula

Such nice and accepting people here, as always.

I think that (and this is just my little theory lol) in general, girls are inherently more flexible with sexuality and what's comfortable vs what's not. Guys tend to be a lot more narrow-minded, for lack of a better word, in terms of comfort. Maybe this is one reason that, at least from my point of view, it is more common for women to be bisexual than men. Most guys I know are predominantly one way or the other...and don't leave much room for compromise. :P (obviously this is a generalization, i do know bi guys but i probably know more trans people than bi guys!)

So that could just as well apply to anyone who's trans.

I've noticed this, too.

To answer the first post: I don't think I'd ever date anyone.

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I would date a trans-person. I consider myself pansexual, and I'm open to just about anything. My only requirement is that they're more masculine than I am XD - I want to be the one to cuddle up against their chest while they wrap their arms around me. I want them to play the strong/protector/"masculine" role while I play the more cute/caring/"feminine" one. Beyond that, it really doesn't matter to me if they're a cisgender male or female, transgender male or female, intersex, androgyne, genderqueer, agender, neutrois, and so on. In short:I just want someone who'll hold me and love me.

愛 Eth

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Guest Stuv

Lizzie! My goodness! tsk tsk, for shame :o er, need a housesitter?

There's a lot of folks I can agree with here, it's so nice to not be alone. What I'm looking for (scratch that, have found!) is love, regardless of the bits. I never expected to even meet a trans person in my life, but here we are celebrating our 2nd anniversary today!

-Yeah, the love is more important than "gender".

-Yeah, bi guys seem to be rare.

-Yeah, women seem to be more flexible in sexuality.

-YES, I would date a transsexual!

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Guest My_Genesis
Lizzie! My goodness! tsk tsk, for shame :o er, need a housesitter?

There's a lot of folks I can agree with here, it's so nice to not be alone. What I'm looking for (scratch that, have found!) is love, regardless of the bits. I never expected to even meet a trans person in my life, but here we are celebrating our 2nd anniversary today!

-Yeah, the love is more important than "gender".

-Yeah, bi guys seem to be rare.

-Yeah, women seem to be more flexible in sexuality.

-YES, I would date a transsexual!

LOL!

very straightforward (you and lizzy both.) glad to see im not the only one who communicates that way. :D

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i agree with seth J

im a tad shallow at times but im growing out of it

i mean iv fallen in love with lizzy :)

and no i wasnt after your money in the first place

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Guest Tabe

I'm a gay FTM, and I wouldn't date another FTM.

It has nothing to do with their genitalia. I don't care about that, and am also fine with my own. Actually, of the dozen or so FTMs I know personally (nobody on these forums), there isn't a single one without some *serious* mental issues. I feel like I'm the only one who's at peace with myself and who's trans-ness doesn't affect me other than random legal issues and mess ups at the doctor's office. Like I said above, the whole "vag" thing is a non-issue for me.

Yet everyone seems to be scarred from being trans, and have so many rules and regulations in dealing with how their bodies are to be handled that I just can't take it long term. I personally need someone who is stable mentally, emotionally, and eventually fiscally. Someone with a clear sense of their future and a lack of damaging emotional baggage. I don't think I'm asking for too much there, but you just can't find that with transpeople. So I've essentially crossed them off my list altogether.

It may change in the future, but as it stands, this is the way it is.

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Guest CharlieRose

Sure, if they were a dateable type of person. :) I actually find a lot of transgirls very attractive... There are some common features to their faces that are just... unique and pretty looking. I also like tall girls. :P

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Guest Zabrak
There's a lot of folks I can agree with here, it's so nice to not be alone. What I'm looking for (scratch that, have found!) is love, regardless of the bits. I never expected to even meet a trans person in my life, but here we are celebrating our 2nd anniversary today!

You're cute, love. Yes it was our 2nd year anniversary. Kind of scary - that's along time!

stable mentally, emotionally, and eventually fiscally

That's still rare even outside of transpeople. Most people have issues regardless if their trans, gay, bi, les or straight. Life just drives you crazy.

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Guest Tofi

I have actualy been thinking about this alot. I have noticed I find lots of FTMs attractive as men but don't find bio guys sexualy attractive at all. Its abit odd. I find myself terrofied by sex tho the thought of it brings me out in hot sweats.

From the mouth of the great Camaron MD:Sex could kill you. Do you know what the human body goes through when you have sex? Pupils dilate, arteries constrict, core temperature rises, heart races, blood pressure skyrockets, respiration becomes rapid and shallow, the brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere, and secretions spit out of every gland, and the muscles tense and spasm like you're lifting three times your body weight. It's violent, it's ugly and it's messy, and if God hadn't made it unbelievably fun, the human race would have died out eons ago.

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Guest My_Genesis
I have actualy been thinking about this alot. I have noticed I find lots of FTMs attractive as men but don't find bio guys sexualy attractive at all. Its abit odd. I find myself terrofied by sex tho the thought of it brings me out in hot sweats.

From the mouth of the great Camaron MD:Sex could kill you. Do you know what the human body goes through when you have sex? Pupils dilate, arteries constrict, core temperature rises, heart races, blood pressure skyrockets, respiration becomes rapid and shallow, the brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere, and secretions spit out of every gland, and the muscles tense and spasm like you're lifting three times your body weight. It's violent, it's ugly and it's messy, and if God hadn't made it unbelievably fun, the human race would have died out eons ago.

I've heard that quote before!

as for you're contradictory feelings...i find that really interesting, although i really have no idea how i'd figure it. lol.

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Guest Jackson

I'm like Ainsley on this issue. I am more attracted to people on the feminine side whether it be bio-females or MTF. Doesn't matter to me. I look for personality traits more than anything else like a sense of humor, curiosity, adventurous.

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Guest Cody_T

Were I able to pick out a partner, he would be would be extremely rich, successful, talented, personable, intelligent beyond belief, neat, organized, family oriented, athletic, extremely attractive, great in bed, and have a giant you know what. Plus a ton of stuff I'm forgetting.

So yeah, I'd date a transguy. Because ultimately, what you're looking for is supposed to be love, or someone you can spend the rest of your life with (at least in my perspective of how I'm gonna spend my life), not a list of attributes. And I'd have to say that really, what someone has in their pants is much less important to me than how we get along, their personality/intelligence/FEP/etc. I confess that I'd really really prefer they'd had or will have bottom surgery since those umm what we haves are disgusting to me, but I could deal and I don't think that I'd tell someone that I can't date them because they're non op or whatever. If I liked them, it'd seem really shallow to stop liking them because they're trans.

From the mouth of the great Camaron MD:Sex could kill you. Do you know what the human body goes through when you have sex? Pupils dilate, arteries constrict, core temperature rises, heart races, blood pressure skyrockets, respiration becomes rapid and shallow, the brain fires bursts of electrical impulses from nowhere to nowhere, and secretions spit out of every gland, and the muscles tense and spasm like you're lifting three times your body weight. It's violent, it's ugly and it's messy, and if God hadn't made it unbelievably fun, the human race would have died out eons ago.

Most awkward proclamation in the entire show XD

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Guest Zabrak
what you're looking for is supposed to be love, or someone you can spend the rest of your life with (at least in my perspective of how I'm gonna spend my life), not a list of attributes

Yeah I agree. I wont leave someone just because they have a problem or 'bad days' and then it doesn't fit my list I set for them. If you're always looking with a list then well, that's what you'll be doing forever. Because you'll never find someone who wont 'break' a 'rule' on your list during the time you date them. Everyone has problems, no ones perfect.

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Guest My_Genesis
Yeah I agree. I wont leave someone just because they have a problem or 'bad days' and then it doesn't fit my list I set for them. If you're always looking with a list then well, that's what you'll be doing forever. Because you'll never find someone who wont 'break' a 'rule' on your list during the time you date them. Everyone has problems, no ones perfect.

rofl a list?

i think the closest you can get to "perfect" means your strengths, weaknesses and pitfalls are similar...so there's not much room for disagreement. in a relationship if youre both total slobs there wont be a lot of argument when you're living together. if youre both really anal retentive about the same things, you won't be arguing about the other person being way too uptight and how much its getting on your nerves. :P

for me the thing is there has to be chemistry emotionally as well as physically. it's hard for me to actually connect with someone if it's only one or the other. sounds kinda obvious but if you think about it...if i were shallow enough i wouldnt care about the emotional aspect at all. lol. and speaking of shallow I agree with Cody that it would be shallow to stop liking someone because you found out theyre trans.

...so i guess thats ultimately why i agree with Ainsley on what he said about feminine qualities.

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