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My discovery of Hailey coming out


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My discovery of Hailey coming out took a few years.Before it all happened,I was diagnosed with autism at 11 months old and luckily my mother accepted it.Dad,all he did was put me down saying I was a nobody and it hurt.Mom has been there for me and luckily she did her research well.One was I was going to face LGBT issues and did not force me to make the choice.Let me make it.Dad left when I was 10 years old.Age 12,discovered I liked feminine clothing and knew I was happy as male in my life.Mother saw it, seen I had my eyes on a couple dresses at a clothing store in the girl's section.Decided to buy them for me and tried them on at home,I loved wearing them.She decided to become supportive on the spot and bought me more girl's clothing and shoes for me after that.Dressed at home at first and she allowed it.Told my mother to call me Hailey when I was dressed as her.My mother loved that name of my choice on the spot.As I got older,tried new things and one was my ears pierced at age 13.She saw me much happier in my life and glad she has been supportive to this day.I still remember the first time I went out dressed as Hailey for the first time with my mother at age 15.I was nervous at first and she comforted me telling me everything was going to be alright.She was right and went well.I am seen as a great part time daughter as Hailey to this day seen from my mother.She sees me like any normal person too

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Hailey, so glad you were so brave at a young age and your mother accepted you in all things. Glad you've come here to find out more and more about what you are experiencing.

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Just now, Heather Shay said:

Hailey, so glad you were so brave at a young age and your mother accepted you in all things. Glad you've come here to find out more and more about what you are experiencing.

She is glad I found my true self.She knows when I transform into Hailey.Come home from my daily work day,I go into Hailey's dresser grabbing the breast forms,bra and panties including a robe taking a shower and putting on them after my shower.Do the rest of my transformation in my room.Knows Heidi Phox whom is a known part time crossdresser is whom I look up to.Says I am like her too

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Good. Many you can relate to here, they should respond soon. If not reach out.

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You have such a wonderful mother, Hailey. Her support and encouragement is amazing.

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On 7/14/2024 at 10:36 AM, hailey said:

She is glad I found my true self.

:welldone: THIS is what every human being should be seeking.  Congratulations @hailey on finding yourself ... and the love and support of a parent.

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7 hours ago, KayC said:

:welldone: THIS is what every human being should be seeking.  Congratulations @hailey on finding yourself ... and the love and support of a parent.

I knew that I had a female side of me that likes to come out at at times

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Just now, hailey said:

I knew that I had a female side of me that likes to come out at at times

so true, so true ... my female side seems to want come out more and more these days... 

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I've found that it gets harder and harder for me to switch back to an androgynous form. 

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Thank you for sharing your wonderful story, Hailey. It's great that you have a supportive mom, also.

 

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