No back story, just "Hi"

[Nats]

So, I’m new here, and in my own (possibly neurodivergent) way this is me saying ‘hi’, and thankyou for having me.  

 

I came here because I found the intelligent voice of the trans community on this site. People who make thoughtful contributions to discussions.  Grounded, thinking, supportive people with compassion, common sense, and values. 

 

I won’t be contributing a biography or a back story because that’s not me, and we should all be ourselves.  I’ll say this – I’m MTF (She/Her) but not really ‘out’, because my life is complicated in other ways, and however fundamental gender may be to your soul and your being, none of us are one dimensional. In my family, other stuff takes precedence, because it must; life’s complicated, and sometimes, as we know, it’s not all about you.

 

I have a wife who is way beyond incredible and who has stood by me, without the slightest wobble, through some heavy stuff that will be familiar to most people here; I’ve no way of saying thank you to her, adequately.  Absolutely no way. She knows that, and I know how lucky I am. 

 

For me, in a highly personal sense, there is a gender binary, and I’m firmly on the extreme feminine end of it.  The extreme feminine end.  I’m not searching, curious or confused; I know, with absolute certainty and crystal clarity.  But like some others here, I didn’t know at four years old, it took a little longer.  The odd decade or so.  Go figure.  But now I know. 

 

That’s my personal situation and I totally understand that others are in a different place on that scale.  I stand with them.  We are who we are, and those of us who aren’t what some doctor said we were at birth should stand together.  Once again, thankyou for having me.

[Nats]

Rule one when posting: "don't get distracted".  The headline should have read "... just  general 'hi'!" Sorry!!!

 

 

[Carolyn Marie]

LOL!  Yeah, that happens to me a lot, too, @Nats.  So I changed the title for you.

 

Welcome to Trans Pulse, and thanks for an entertaining introduction.  You're right, we do all have some things in common, but we are all individuals, and we each deserve respect and dignity.  We are each pieces of a whole, and that whole is community, and we do what we can to hold each other up and help when we can.

 

I hope you like it here, and that the time you spend here will be worthwhile for you.  However we can help, or whatever questions we can answer, please let us know.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

[Nats]

Rule one when posting: "don't get distracted".  The headline should have read "... just  general 'hi'!" Sorry!!!

 

 

Ha ha !  Thankyou for changing it, Carolyn!!

[Heather Shay]

Hello Nats, Glad you are here. I'm so happy your wife is with you. It makes life so much easier if you have your spouse on-board. It took 2 years for mine and when she got through it and did not leave, she is now supporting and my life improved SO much. You sound like you've a mature head on your shoulders and that is also a great sign.

Hugs

[April Marie]

Welcome, Nats!! We are so happy you've found us. You are so very right that we are each unique and have different factors that affect how, when and what we are ultimately able to become as we find ourselves. Many of us here took decades - for me into my sixth before I finally understood who I was and why this woman inside me was pushing so hard to be recognized. With those decades came a wonderful live, an amazing wife and family that must be part of my decisions as to how I proceed. Fortunately, my wife is both supportive and accepting which gives me space and time to explore and become as we figure out the "next" step. The reality is that transgenderism is not a fixed place but a scale and each of us finds our comfortable spot on the scale. Some are farther to one side or the other...and that's perfectly right. In the end, we need to find our happiness in context of our greater lives.

 

Welcome. You've found a place where you can be exactly who you are..or who you are today because you may be different tomorrow. No matter who are where you are, you are loved and supported here.

[Nats]

Thankyou @Carolyn Marie @April Marie and @Heather Shay for the lovely welcome and your warm comments!  Happy Christmas to all of you!

[Susan R]

On 12/23/2024 at 6:51 PM, Nats said:

But like some others here, I didn’t know at four years old, it took a little longer.  The odd decade or so.  Go figure.  But now I know.

Welcome @Nats. Glad you’ve joined our friendly community. I’m one of those who knew I was very different from the age of four. No matter how long it takes, identity issues very often manifest in different ways into your life. Eventually, after putting all the pieces together…that’s the moment you really know you who you are. For me and many others, it’s been the beginning of good things. I wish you the best on your journey wherever it leads you.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

[Jenna Cornelius]

Hi Nats,

 

Glad you are part of the community. My wife is very supportive too and I feel indebted to her because of it. It has made a huge difference and I think me sharing this with her has brought us even closer.

 

-Jenna

[Nats]

@Jenna Cornelius Good to meet you, Jenna!

[rain-falls]

I'm glad! And nice to meet you! 

[Nats]

@rain-falls You too! 

[rain-falls]

Thanks! By the way, replying to the comment on the private message, Yeah yeah I totally get that no probs! (could not figure out how to message you publicly on your profile)   

[Nats]

@rain-falls Excellent, I knew you'd understand!  Look foward to getting to know you better - we're both online chatterboxes, |I think!  

[rain-falls]

very much so 😅

[kat2]

Hi Nats and a late welcome from me to our wonderful spectrum. I loved reading your intro, like you i too did not know at 4 years old!! I am sure you will find and make lots of friends here on the forum.

huggs kat

[Nats]

@kat2 Ha ha!  Thank you! I feel we're already friends!