Who was the most difficult person to come out to?

[Heather Shay]

For me it was my spouse.

[kat2]

My second relationship post transition, Dennis was alot older than I by 10 years, but he said the most wonderful thing, i have only ever known you as kat, you are a beautiful young woman, and i am proud to be part of your life. James strangely and i am not sure if it was because he was younger, it was easy for me to tell him? or perhaps it was because he was a sex monster !! lol 

[Carolyn Marie]

Definitely my wife.

[KathyLauren]

My wife.  It took me six months to work up the nerve to tell her.

[rhonda74]

I came out my sister, although my parents already questioned about the gender marker on my birth certificate.  

[awkward-yet-sweet]

My husband.  I was so very scared, because to have your wife suddenly "become" a boy could trigger all kinds of anti-gay stuff.  Especially in the South, the perception of one's masculinity is really important.  I worried that if my husband felt threatened or deceived, it could be the end of our relationship.  Possibly the end of me being in the family. 

 

Thankfully, it was exactly the opposite.  He's ok with me being myself, whatever that looks like.  I discovered that he's really secure in his masculinity.  I've found it interesting that displaying security and confidence in one's masculinity makes others believe it also!  Like, the best way to be masculine is not to try too hard at it.  The few times my identity has been an issue (like at lunch last weekend, if you read that topic) my husband creates an atmosphere which declares that he owns the room.  I suppose if I had realized this earlier, I wouldn't have been so nervous.