I Feel Like I Should Be Female Instead. But Yet I Wish I Looked Male Enought O Have A Girlfriend :( Confused!

[Guest 420]

Hi. let me tell you guys a little about myself. im an 18 year old male intersex person. Im pretty sure its Klinifelters Syndrome to be exact. Basically my body looks female accept i have no breasts and a penis. These changes tarted happening to me my second to last year of high school and before then i could get girlfriends. Now because of how my body looks, im worried females are not attracted to me anymore. Also ever since i was a child i remember always wanting a vagina. Somehow I always felt like i should be female and not male. Im so considering becoming a full woman as i grow older and eventually get the money, but my brother, sisters, and parents would look differently at me. Its not my fault Im like this! I just wish i could look either all male or all femal, so i dont have to look like something in between!

My social life is good and have many friends, but none of them know this truth i have told you guys. So confused. I really wish i could look like a regular mal so i could get girlfriends again ...anyway thanks for reading and Anything you guys wanna say, just feel free!!!

[Guest Evan_J]

Actually, I have sympathy for you, but in a wierd twisted way? I'm originally female bodied but definately male and desperately needing to and thankful at being blessed enough to be changing to be male in body, but at times think "sigh**If I could've been ok in the female form how many more female dates I could be certain of". Being female bodied is in no way a barrier to having dates with females. In this day and age its very easy. Being trans though....hard. Of course I'm saying that without having really tried Maybe we both just need to try? Welcome.

[Guest Christy.dancer]

Well, first, being feminine in appearance won't cause girls to not be attracted to you. Even before my transition started, I was fairly effeminate in appearance. One "girl-friend" (as opposed to "girlfriend") of mine says it's too bad I'm only attracted to guys, cuz the way I understand girls heads, I'd be a hit with girls. See, you CAN have your cake and eat it too! (A terrible analogy, cuz I think there may be a sexual pun buried in there somewhere.)

As for your potential transition -- either to crossdressing or to perhaps something else -- keep us posted on what happens. Let's talk. I've found counseling to be VERY helpful, cuz it gives me a forum to really dig down and figure out what's going on inside me.

[Guest Jean Davis]

Remember your personality is your greatist attribute, work on that and I'm sure you'll find people that will like you for who you are. As for your looks pick clothing you feel comfortable in, there's alot of different styles out there. Experiment a little, there's no harm in that

[Guest Donna Jean]

This is such a big thing with all of us, isn't it?

I mean, our orientation is all over the spectrum and not just your everyday, whitebread M-F and F-M combos!

I am still loving my wife, although I'm MTF and I have no idea if my sexual orientation will change over time! Some say that on Estrogen it will swing, but I know others that say not really...what to believe?

I don't really know, but I have had a male looking at my chest while talking to me and I'm very small ... I was dressed rather gender neutral although my T shirt did show my assets...I don't see what the attraction was..but, I guess that's not up to us, is it?

We'll be attracted to whom we're attracted to and visa-versa!

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest Elizabeth K]

As many here have said, being like we are - we are all over the place. You will definately need to get into therapy with a gender dysphoria specialist. There are several ways to be intersexed, and even if you aren't there are several ways to have the wrong body-mind connection. It is more importand to find your comfort level.

That said. I would suggest you just take a deep breath - relax - and listen to your heart. At your age, all sorts of things are going on - and you are thinking about your future with someone. Your sexual orientation can also be all over th place, but your posting seems to suggest you are right now very interested in girls - and feel like one at the same time.

That is confusing to say the least. Again a therapist can work with you on this - and that is most everyone's recommendation. However, if one is not available, you must just learn to be at ease and accept yourself as you are - ask others to do the same. Evenually everything will work out one way or the other.

Just some thoughts.

Lizzy

[Guest LightNebula]

You should try to find a (gender) therapist if possible. They'll be able to help you sort out your feelings. Personally, I think you are a lesbian.

Remember your personality is your greatist attribute, work on that and I'm sure you'll find people that will like you for who you are. As for your looks pick clothing you feel comfortable in, there's alot of different styles out there. Experiment a little, there's no harm in that

I agree with this. Personality (I can't think of any exceptions at the moment), in my opinion, is definitely anyone's greatest attribute. Actually, I think being "good" is instead, but personality would be a not too distant 2nd.

[Guest martina]

hi iam born a boy but look like girl and begin to feel my self more and more a girl and some times i wiss y was a real girl

[Guest rbulova]

This is a very old thread and hasn't been posted to for two years. I'm a guy, 60, masculine in appearance and attracted to women, but also feel a bit feminine myself. I've been wearing women's panties for years, and most of my clothing is androgynous appearing women's. You could only tell by noting the buttons or zippers are on the left. The thought of having an orchiectomy and scrotectomy is enticing. Would I still be able to have an erection and an orgasm then? How about if I replaced my penis with something resembling a vagina in appearance? I'm new here, so have too many questions. I'll continue reading the forums more in hopes of finding answers.