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  1. Me (male) Nephew (ftm) i just spent that last 30mins trying to explain my actions in this massive essay of a post, explaining who i am and why my nephew is everything to me, but as i read it, i realized i was somehow looking trying to excuse what i have done, i dont want that at all, im in this position because i messed up, my nephew really is everything to me, and i need advise, thats going to help him, not me.. my nephew is 20, he is estranged from both his parents, i took him in when he was 14, home schooled up to year 10, he has been fighting depression and agoraphobia for years, im the only family member he trusts, at 18 he had his name changed to Elliott, i have tried to support him, but though he trusts me more then others, i know there is no one he fully trusts, which hurts. but i know its not his fault, he wont buy things at shops because he wont talk to people in public, so for years ive done that for him, meeting new doctors is difficult, he fears that people mis pronoun him, that i understand. so i have a latter from his physiologist asking them to change his gender in there records to male and use correct pronouns, this cuts through allot of red tape because most government agencies require a physiologist letter (Australia) but every now and then we come up against someone who just doesn't care, im sure you understand, so im there correcting them, "he him his" this still made Elliott uncomfortable but they do start to get it. we have over the past 2 years gone through the steps of getting him onto hormone treatments which starts in august. still a wait to go, but all the things leading up to it are all done, and the date is set. 2 months ago one of his doctors wanted to change his medication, they wanted him to taper off until he was off it before trying a new one, he did this, but since then he hasnt been able to leave the house, the medication was obviously dong something, he agrees he should go back on it. now my problem and my mistake is as follows i set appointments to the doctor but his anxiety is too strong and he cant leave the house, i call and cancel, and re schedule, i have rescheduled 3 times now, and still havent been able to get him to the doctor, and he is getting worse, sleeping during the day and staying up all light, allone with his thoughts and today he missed his physiologist appointment.. and today was when i messed up, i told him im scared that if he wont get help and on his meds soon il take him into the hospital and commit him. now as soon as i spoke the words i wanted to take it back, i couldnt ever do that to him, but it was too late, he said ive lost any trust he has for me and he can never trust me agan, he asked me to find a place for him to move out, i can tell he is serious. i know he isnt ready to live alone. i dont know what to say to him, i feel like anything i say is just going to make it worse. should i get him a place, i could probably help pay rent, or should i do what i can to make it better and guide him to change his mind, see i dont have any help and i dont know if im the problem. am i doing too much, too little or just shielding him from what he needs to experience
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