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  1. I am currently waiting for my first appointment at a gender clinic but the wait is over a year for me. I have found online pharmacies which offer products like testogel and I’m wondering if it is safe for me to buy and use. I am currently under 18 but I really want to have male hormones in my body, even if they don’t make massive changes it’ll still feel good knowing I have some extra T in my body. I’m just curious if it will impact my transition in the future and if it might prevent me from getting hormones, and I’m also wondering if there are any side effects to it. Thank you to anyone who can help
  2. Hello! I am looking for advice if anyone has it on dealing with dysphoria around my hips and butt? I have a good chest binder and like to think i can pass fairly well, but I have a very shapely bottom that causes me a lot of discomfort... I tend to buy specific styles of pants that mask the shape better, but even still sometimes I'll walk by a floor length mirror and cringe 😬 I've seen stuff about compression shorts helping, but want to know if anyone has recommendations before I buy...most of the shorts i find advertise compression specifically in ways i DON'T want... go figure... Any recommendations would be greatly appreciated, either for shorts or other methods to get a flatter looking backside. I'll be getting on testosterone soon and hoping that will help redistribe fat into,better areas, but I can't be sure of that and if so how long it might take.
  3. Guys I think I'm a borderline alcoholic. I'm not sure I'm only 18 yrs old but my sister is a meth addict and because of my hidden trauma from it all I stole alcohol for the first time since I've gone to therapy, but now every time I drink I get this freeling that makes me want to drink the bottle dry and it scares me. If anyone is comfortable talking about it, what were some early signs that led u to know u were an alcohol? Bc I've done online tests but they're all about signs of alcoholism in th later on stages. I do deeply apologize to anyone who may have felt triggers by this post
  4. just.a.human

    howdy :3

    hi everyone! I'm Jayson (most likely) and I'm new to this community. my pronouns are he/him/his, they/them/theirs, or xe/xem/xeir. I was wondering if any elder trans people had advice for a pre-t trans guy? Much love, Jayson (or maybe Mateo)
  5. So my co worker says that i can't be trans gender. if i am not then why do i get so upset when i am told that? Why do i feel this away then. If its just a delusion cosed by my schizophrenia? Then how come I am expecting others opinions. If you suffer form a delusion your more likely to stay in that delusion and not aknowologic anyone else opinion. And i don't feel comferable with other labels throw on me ether. I get overwhelmed actually. Am i used to female pronouns, yes. Do i like female pronouns, no. Sometimes at work when i get called by them. i feel sick physically. So i am not quite sure if that's that case that i just not trans. If i feel physically sick over the fact i notic someone using a pronouns I don't like? If I feel proud to be called he/him and I get called she/her and get annoyed. And sick at times. Then that right there says something i feel. Sorry i had to get this of my mind.
  6. ThePineapple1

    How I found Out I Am Transgender

    So, I never really felt like a girl, more like a tomboy from a very young age. I didn't think much into it. A few years ago, I finally found out what transgender means (along with the other terms like non-binary and cisgender). That's when I started to question my gender. One of my good friends has also recently started their transition from female to male so we are helping each other through it. I never liked dresses or skirts, which is fine. I wear dark colours all the time and I promised myself that I would never wear make-up. I thought the make-up was because I wanted to stay true to my complexion and identity, little did I know, it was. Last year, I made the decision to cut all of my hair off and get a pixie cut style. Never had I felt more free. I felt like something had been holding me back and I could finally start to walk. I felt like I was in charge of my own life. This year, with the quarantine, I have been able to think so much more about my sexuality and my identity. I went out of my way and watched some videos o transgender people explaining what they went through. Yesterday, I bought my first binder and I was so excited. On my walk though today with my mum (we live in a rural location with lots of fields to walk through), I decided to say how I had been feeling, that I had bought a binder. I didn't want her to think I didn't trust her because if she saw my binder without me telling her then I though that it would break her heart. So I said that I think I'm transgender. And she accepted me. My whole family accepted me, my friends accepted me today. And after finally realising what I had said, that I think I'm transgender, my heart felt like it was dancing. I cried with earful joys for a bit and I felt so at peace with the world. However, my mum constantly makes slight remarks about men (which really frustrates me) and we were looking at some material that my mum bought to sew clothes with and she asked what material I liked, I said that I liked all the plain ones and a colourful one. One of the plain colours were hot pink and my sister and mum instantly said, "Isn't that a bit girly?" And my heart dropped. Men can like pink. But they didn't seem to realise this. So I replied with, "Men can like any colour the want to like. Just as I can like the look of this pink for a hoodie." They instantly shut up and now I'm just grinning, thinking about the fact that I shut them up for even a second. Anyway, story short, I'm 90% sure I'm transgender, can't wait for my binder's to come and can't wait to start the process of transitioning after I get some gender therapy! If anyone needs any help with support or with any queries they have (about themselves or myself) then please feel free to comment or talk to me in private and confront me about anything you're going through. I'm a pretty positive person and I have been told in the past that I would be an amazing therapist (because I'm apparently great with words) and will be here for anyone who needs it. You're all amazing, whether you're female, male, or non-binary.
  7. Hi im Hoping with opening this discussion i can find some sort of answers for myself..im beginning to accept myself for who i am and thats a male or masculine presenting. Im worried for the repurcussions transitioning could have on my vocal career as well as my hair... theres a lot to unpack and i would hate to sound superficial. I just want to seek help to my hundreds of questions because taking this leap is something im willing to do. Im nervous if it isnt obvious. Thank you for your time
  8. Soooooo this is gonna be a very long post, so bear with me. I absolutely s u c k at decision making and always have done, so this post is gonna be biiiig. I had the same issue trying to figure out my orientation until I had to stop myself and say "you're obviously bi stop doubting yourself". I know that nobody can tell me who I am, I know I'm the only person who can define who I am. I think I just need some advice and support on how to explore this more and how to understand. Buuuut that being said, if anyone reads this and thinks they know what my gender is... Please tell me. For context: I'm AFAB and 16 years old. There are reasons I think I'm cis. There are reasons I think i'm non binary - specifically agender maybe? There are reasons I think I'm ftm. I even question whether I'm genderfluid at times - but I know that's a matter of me confusing gender expression with identity. Reasons I could be ftm: As a kid I always looked up to male characters over female characters. This could just be a result of the movies being written in a misogynistic way where male characters have more depth and importance to the story. I always wanted to be the characters: Simba (The Lion King), Kovu (The Lion King 2), Scamp (Lady and the Tramp 2), Diego (Go Diego Go - spin off series from Dora), Bolt (Bolt the Superdog) and Dumbo (from... Dumbo.) When playing make believe I would often play as a male character as well. My choice of character was often "I'm a boy dog!" for some reason or other. This could have been the influence of male characters, I may have thought that being male mean a character is stronger and more influential due to them being portrayed that way in media. However it could also be due to me just wanting to be male, but never realising that fact. I think I have dysphoria? I'd never thought that much about my body. But I asked myself "do I really want a female chest and genitals?". And the my answer is no. For my chest at least, I can't figure out how I feel about genital. I don't want a uterus for sure, and I hate the possibility of ever being able to get pregnant, it makes me want to literally tear my uterus out. The more I think about it, the more I realise I don't really want female organs. The redeeming quality is the pleasure that can be received (TMI, I know, but it's an important factor to consider), the idea of pleasure and instinctive desire can overthrow what might be dysphoria, causing me to think I don't feel bottom dysphoria (when I think I do?). But I don't know if that's to say I want male organs. I'd prefer male organs. If I think about it in this current moment, yes I'd prefer to have male organs. When I started puberty I never touched my chest or genitals. Which is odd, because you're meant to do that in order to check them for issues such as signs of cancer. It was almost as if I ignored their existence. I didn't even look at them really. The only thing that snapped me out of this was when I got a boyfriend, I finally became 'comfortable' with these parts of my body and am now able to touch them. When I was very young, I only had male friends. I don't know if this is a factor or not, but it's something to think about I guess. When I was a little older, I hated all things 'girly'. I refused anything I deemed 'girly' no matter what, I HATED my purple bedroom, I wanted it to be yellow or green or orange. It's still purple though, I just got used to it and kind of conformed to it... I also wanted to wear boys clothes as a kid, I never got round to it in my childhood - but I have some men's clothes now, from thrift stores. When I bought them I didn't consider the gender of them, I just thought they were cool clothes. In the past, and I guess in the present to, I've seen groups of guys and thought 'I wish my friendships were like that'. I know this doesn't dictate my gender identity, but I feel that groups of guys act differently (I'm normally in mixed gender friend groups) and I've always wanted to be like that. When a guy talks to me as if I were another dude, I feel really validated and happy. But that might just be a feeling of happiness that I get from somebody wanting to be friends with me. This is a weird analogy for it, but my Animal Crossing character's male. I don't want to make my character female, it doesn't feel right, I want him to be male. My character definitely represents me, so I guess that says something? I've also never understood why I'm not satisfied with my body. I have the typical female body that's portrayed in media to be the ideal. I'm slim (depending on my mental health, when I'm doing badly I eat a lot and I get chubby, which I don't mind) especially in my waist, I have quite a flat belly, and I just have what lots of people would consider a pretty ideal female body I guess? But I couldn't understand why I wasn't satisfied with it. It took me this long to realise that the reason might be that I don't want a FEMALE body. I'm sometimes unsatisfied with it when I get chubby, not because I dislike being chubby, but because I think it makes me look pregnant which I cannot stand at all. I hate that so much, but when I know there's no possibility of me being pregnant, I don't mind the chub. I don't know if this is a matter of dysphoria, or just a matter of not wanting to be pregnant in general. I'v tried binding recently with a cut up pair of leggings and tights, it was good. I felt like they didn't make me flat enough but it was still good. Reasons I could just be a very confused cis girl: I never felt what I think is dysphoria until recently. It didn't naturally occur until I asked myself "do I want to be female". I'd never felt dysphoric before at all. I've felt confident in feminine clothing before as well! I've worn a hyper-feminine, somewhat revealing swimsuit to the pool before (about 2 year ago, i was inappropriate for my age yes, but I can't go back on it now) and I felt amazing in it. I don't know if I'd feel amazing in it now. Maybe I felt amazing in it because I knew I looked good? I may have not looked the way I truly felt inside, but I still looked good nevertheless. I had a sort of 'kawaii' harajuku girl phase more recently. However I've recently heard that other trans men have had this phase before sooooo???Again, I was dressing hyper feminine and I felt good, but again this could have been because I knew the style/ composition of my outfits was good. I was basically trying to be Belle Delphine constantly. I also had a phase where I reallyyyyy wanted big boobs. I'm a size c, and I felt okay about my size until my bf started teasing me for it (yehh I know he shouldn't have done that, I talked about it with him and it wasn't that he didn't like them, he just thought it was funny - TMI I know) and it started an insecurity. I tried putting certain herbs/ spices that were said to help on my food and everything, but it didn't really change them at all. If I wanted bigger boobs then surely I can't be trans?? But I only wanted them because I wanted to make my boyfriend happy (he doesn't want me to change for him - I was stupid for thinking that, he's lovely I promise, he just makes childish jokes) and it was more of a societal pressure I guess. Also, further than early childhood (more 'tweenhood' and early teens) I've really looked up to/ related to/ wanted to be female characters and people too. There's: Cat Valentine (Victorious) and Fluttershy (My Little Pony). I still project onto character now, not in the same way of 'wanting to be them' of course - there's: Haru (Beastars), Legoshi (Beastars), Izuku Midoriya (BNHA). And there's people I look up to - Imelda Staunton and Helena Bonham Carter. They're my inspirations as an actor (I hate the word actress, it shouldn't be a gendered word). I also do musical theatre and I just can't imagine how hard it'll be having to transition whilst trying to keep a career in theatre... I know that doesn't make me cis, but I'm just scared of the struggle and I don't know if I can face it. I do love singing male theatre songs, but I've only ever performed female songs. My voice isn't quite low enough to sing the lowest parts of male songs. For anyone interested, I'm a mezzo-alto, I normally stay in the alto or mezzo-soprano harmony groups when doing ensemble. I can sing soprano at a push though! Just a fun fact lol That's all I can really think of now? I'll make more edits or replies if I have more thoughts. Thank you so much for reading, and if you could help me out I'd be so grateful! I was going to make a section on why I might be non binary, but it overlaps with the reasons why I might be ftm. The main reason I could be nb is because I hatehatehatehatehate the societal concept of gender .... But yeah!! Thanks, and byeeeeeeeee!!
  9. I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now and I discovered in January she used to have feelings for another guy. Our relationship started rocky as I had just come out of an abusive relationship (my first) and this was her first, so we were very immature over what love really was, so we split at the turning of 2018-2019. We got back together, but it turns out she was confused about her feelings with this other guy and was considering getting with him. This broke my heart, but on top of that she had been messaging that guy all 2019 and she said she still would be in 2020 if I didn’t raise my suspicions. It was only flirting but she did visit him a few times without letting me know. She also flirted with 2 others. I have managed to get over some of it now, I am still hurting when things get bad but I can see that she is genuinely so sorry and guilty for what she did. Despite having time periods of feeling down about it, Ive always had a constant issue since then with my dysphoria. I feel too small, weak and like I’m just not manly enough. She tells me every day I’m handsome and makes sure everyone refers to me with he/him, but I still feel like I am not male enough. We were stupid then, and she didn’t think about the long term impacts, but this has been bothering me every day since. If someone could lend me some advice on how to get over this feeling it would mean the world, and if anyone has any advice on my relationship, I would appreciate it although it is not really what this post is about. Thank you for reading, I would appreciate anything you have to offer
  10. Alex.G


    Hey, my name is Alexander and I am FtM transgender. I have socially transitioned but I haven’t transitioned medically in any way, though I am part way through a waiting list to a gender clinic. I live with a supportive family and feel lucky to also have accepting friends, but my family currently don’t understand my transition and struggle to use the right name and pronouns. I’m hoping to find other people like me and after browsing the website I’ve become impressed with the support system on here, and I’m hoping that I can be welcomed into this community and have a space where I feel respected. I have struggled with my feelings for many years but I feel ready to find support online, so I’m excited for this next step in my transition. Thank you for reading, I can’t wait to involve myself in this online community
  11. Marshall

    im marshall

    Hi there, im marshall! Im a little anxious to share my story. when i was in middle school, my 1st year, i started to suspect i was trans. I wasnt new to the lgbt community so i knew the "guidelines" of being trans so to speak (not that we have a guide lol) so i thought about it for awhile. I told my step dad, thinking he'd be understanding and he'd keep it a secret, but alas i was wrong. He had told my mother, and i was guilt tripped into presenting female for a while. Always being told that i couldnt be male as i never acted like a guy (which was a lie, i was the definition of emo teenage boy in ms/hs) . lately however! My mom and step dad broke it off, allowing us to express everything we kept hidden. I came out to my mom and ive started to transition!! She even helped me pick a name and she was there for me when i needed her. Now ive comfortably been using they/ them & he/him pronouns! I dont know if this counts as an intro but im excited to meet some new people and make some friends!
  12. luke_b


    So my study abroad program got canceled because of corona and I had to return to the states, but at least I got 7 weeks out of the 18. When I cam home on Monday, my mom greeted me with a "WHERE IS MY SON" and I was gonna almost cry I was so happy. She's been trying pretty hard to call me my name, my pronouns, and to everyone (my sister and my dad). My sister remembers when convenient for her and my dad is sorta trying ig, but its more than I could have hoped for! I started a tiny workout program today to try and reduce the size of my hips naturally, so we'll see where that goes, and since school is online now I got all the time in the world.
  13. I'm planning on getting top surgery this year, if possible. I want to find a surgeon who accepts Medicare and can do a surgery that preserves the nipple stalk, like buttonhole or inverted-T. Any recommendations? Right now I have a consultation scheduled for FtM top surgery with Dr. Daniel Freet; he can do inverted-T and accepts Medicare, but I'm not sure if he's the best option. Does anyone have experience with him?
  14. Ryderdie567

    Hi I'm Ryder

    Hi, so my name is Ryder and I am 17 years old, I am a trans guy and I am also gay, feel free to ask me any questions!
  15. Hi! I'm Alexzander, I have been on T for 7 months now and my voice has gotten deeper (yay). It was cracking really bad between 3-6 months, but now I just have a really hoarse voice. I have to really strain myself in order to talk clear and deeper. When I try to talk "normally" my voice constantly cuts off and I sound "feminine". It's super painful trying to go throughout the day straining my voice as if I'm singing every word I say. Has anyone experienced this and do you have any suggestions or solutions? I drink a lot of coffee which I know can dry out the vocal chords (but I'm not giving up coffee) I also drink a lot of apple cider and hot tea which eases the pain but doesn't help me talk. Any advice is greatly appreciated, thanks!!
  16. I bought the Peecock Gen 4 a little while ago, and thought a review of it would be worthwhile for those who are looking for an STP. Design Fairly realistic (more realistic than the older models) They've added more realistic balls and a foreskin (as opposed to their older models) The foreskin does not "move", but it's more of an extra layer you can pull. (For example, if you're pinching yourself) You can feel the balls, and as opposed to the older models, it feels like there's a gel or something similar. The leak-guard was way overdue, and a great addition. Not super firm, but much more firm than the older models. You can still direct the shaft up or down, etc as it can be used as a 3-in-1. Cons May be too long/big for younger or smaller guys (even with their smallest size [3.75"] is still quite large). Low hanging, and not entirely realistic if changing in a changing room when in the "natural position". I've tried directing the shaft up when "not in use" to create a more realistic bulge, but over time, there seems to be a bit of an indent where it's been bent. The indent can be taken out over time by putting it back in it's "natural state". Even with the leak-guard, I've noticed that you still have to control your flow since the hole isn't very big. Like anything new, I recommend practicing with this before taking it out in public. I'm still getting used to it, so I'll add more thoughts on it in the future, but that's my first impressions at the moment.
  17. luke_b

    study abroad!

    So as an attempt to stay away from home, and the constant misgendering that comes along with that, I applied to go away on a study abroad program. My mom insisted that I go to Israel, and since she's paying for it, thats what I went with. It's a jewish program, because my family is jewish, and because my mom wants me to come back home an obedient jewish girl, completely disregarding the fact that I want to go on exchange to begin with to escape exactly what she wants me to be. My mom, of course, signed me up as a girl and tried to make it so that I couldn't have my name and pronouns used during my stay, but the guy in charge has let me use Luke and he/him pronouns. So all of my teachers and counselors use Luke and he/him pronouns, nobody know my birthname, and everyone of the students seems to be fine with me being myself. I'm currently on the program right now, and ill be away for four months! I get back home in June after school ends. I also met three friends (also queer, we just seem to be drawn to each other), and I met this really cute dude (who made it pretty obvious to me that he is gay, lowkey flirting), and I might try my chances with him. All is well, and my anxiety has been the lowest it has ever been in my life (I was diagnosed at 8 and I turn 17 in May), and me and my therapist are deadset on the fact that she is the biggest stressor in my life, so being away from her has been very good for me.
  18. So I'm FTM and I've been wearing binders for nearly 2 years now. These past 2 - 3 weeks my nipples have been unbearably itchy when I take my binder off and nothing is soothing them... Tried moisturising to anticeptic cream. I cannot physically stop myself from itching and it's really starting to wind me up. Any suggestions? TIA PS. I'm not on Hormones, haven't changed my type of binder recently, haven't changed washing powder or soap or anything.
  19. IsaacToussaint

    Post Top Operation Trouble

    Hi everyone. I’m new here, and I’ve never used a trans forum before, but two days ago I had top surgery! Yay! The only problem is that the opioids are making it very hard for me to go to the bathroom. This is embarrassing, but I cannot figure out how to poop. I’m sorry that this is awkward but any help at all would be so greatly appreciated.
  20. TrIIIy

    Hello, everyone

    Hello, all. My name is Trey. I’m a 31 yo trans man from the American Deep South. I am fully out but just starting my transition. I have autism, which makes my situation a bit more complicated; I currently cannot work, so I live with my mother, who does not approve of my transition. I’m about to start testosterone anyway, and I am excited about it! I enjoy taking care of animals and have a degree in biology which I hope to put to good use one day. In the meantime, I teach fencing once a week and watch a lot of TV. I like to sew and lift weights (take that, gender norms!). My favorite fandoms are Sherlock, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and Star Wars. I’m glad to have a place where I can talk about transgender topics with other trans people! See you in the forums!
  21. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about 2 months, it'll be 3 the 28th of this month. I'm trans and he's cis. Before we got together I fantasized about kissing, loving, and being in a relationship with a boy publicly. This is the first boy I've been involved with who has respects my pronouns, my boundaries, and when I say no. In my opinion this is my first real relationship with one. I feel self-conscious about how my boyfriend and I present socially, I want it to be obvious that we are boys in a relationship and gay rather than a het couple. I've shared this with him, but I don't feel like he understands or shares my fears. I also feel shame at times when we are being affectionate, both in private and in public. I'm scared that we're not being a normal couple and there is something possibly wrong about what we're doing together. I overthink about the possibility that we're being too affectionate or even gross. I won't talk about our sexual activities, but I feel ashamed of that, too. It's all consensual, I just get dysphoric and worry that I'm being gross. I'm scared that I'm being predatory, almost, in a way. Like I'm being gross and boy obsessed. I like him a lot and just want to be a normal boyfriend to him. I want to be able to say that I'm gay for him in public without being perceived as a lesbian by other people, which I think I am most of the time. Am I being gross? Is there something wrong with me?
  22. 20izzole

    Hi, I'm Lee :) He/Him

    I'm a pre-T trans guy and have been out for 4 years, now. I am looking forward to starting HRT as soon as I'm able. I'm very femme presenting, which is unfortunate because I do experience dysphoria, but I also like traditionally "feminine" things. Because of that I get very insecure about how badly I pass. I'm also struggling with feelings of shame about my sexual identity, as I'm in a new relationship with a cis guy. He's very sweet and supportive and I feel lucky to have him. I think my feelings of shame come from my dysphoria and fears of presenting as a straight couple, as well as my struggles with sexuality because I see no representation of trans men in gay relationships with cis men, I guess. I'm really looking forward to building relationships with people who understand my struggles, as my IRL community is not very diverse gender-identity wise. I used to be very outspoken about my identity/pronouns but due to trauma I find it very hard to speak out. I'm hoping that by joining this forum I will become more confident in that aspect! Thanks!
  23. Okay hi! So those of you that have been regulars in helping me sort out my journey here on trans pulse know that I'm dealing with a lot of shame surrounding my identity and it really bothers me. My sister has been dating this woman for like 6 months and it getting kind of serious so she wants to bring her home for Christmas and I'm very very nervous. Now mind you i AM a socially anxious person but I'm abnormally anxious. And I think it's because my sister told her I was trans and that I go by Trevor. My sisters girlfriend had no issues as far as know but I get this feeling of embarrassment? Or that feeling of having someone you don't know see you naked? I don't know... I can't take the embarrassment anymore. sometimes I think the embarrassment or Shame is reverse dysphoria and then I start to question if I truly am trans. Or sometimes I think the name Trevor doesn't fit me or that Trevor is more of a different side of me or an alter ego if you will than actually me. I don't know. I can't make a decision to save my life so having to make the decision to outwardly change myself socially and physically to the world to be happy has been my greatest burden. Why am I so embarrassed for my sisters girlfriend to know me and address me as Trevor?? sometimes I think it's a fear that deep down most people will think I'm "strange" but the other reason is I get second hand dysphoria sometimes when I see a pre - T pre everything ft like me and I feel like when I go by Trevor in someone else's eyes they truly notice all the ways I DON'T look like a Trevor or im NOT A Trevor . am I making any sense?? Deeply grateful to anyone that takes the time to read this and give me insight/tips. Love to all. - Trevor
  24. Hi, I'm new here, I just joined the community. I am very, very happy that I can finally talk about myself. So, this year in January I accidentally came out to my mother as a transgender man. She panicked if I was kidding or not, then started to ask expected questions like "were you sexually assaulted; why do you think you would be happy as a man; why do you think that people will love you as a man; do you like girls or boys etc." I tried to give clear answers to her, but I ended up crying because I didn't even plan to come out, it just happened suddenly. I got stressed and confused incredibly fast. After that she too started to cry, and just stared at me. Later she said let's talk about it some other time. In the summer I started to initiate conversations about this with her, but she either started to cry or fell asleep while I was talking... I know it must be a lot to her, considering I never talked about either myself or anything, really, so everything came out with a force I couldn't control. Not that bad so far. Since then she started to call me by my birthname way more often than before, and calls me with all kinds of -crappy- girlish petnames possible. I want to look over that because she's my mother, she can call me whatever she wants, however much it hurts me. She acts like nothing happened. But when we converse with my sister and this topic comes up, it shows that she's been researching the surgery part of it, but talks away from me. I'm very sad that I can't talk to her, I don't want to break the good relationship we had thus far. I don't know what to do, how to approach her. Can anyone give me advice about this matter? Thank You for your time reading this!
  25. BrandenLeon

    Well news.

    I have been getting called sir alot more. (Even when i don't wear my binder. Am blond so it helps me.) But some call me mama or miss after they hear my vioce. (Most women do) And most men still call me sir when they hear my vioce. I been thinking if i want to get better at passing should i try out some vioce training videos to deepen my vioce? Has anyone else done these?
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