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I've been out to my mom for almost a year, and she's been pretty decent about it so far. I asked her to go to a gender therapist and she brought me to one, she let me go to a lgbtq youth group, she bought be a binder (after my therapist made her do it), and she didn't mention anything to my dad like i asked her to. Then quit the therapist because she didn't 'talk me out of' being trans like she'd hoped, and refuses to budge on thinking of me as anything other than her daughter. She keeps having shouting matches with me about how "god made me perfect the way I am", she "loves me just the way I am", and she "doesn't agree" with me being her son. She keeps trying to push on me all of this god bullcrap that I don't believe in, as if that'll make me 'not trans' somehow, and make me her 'perfect little girl' that I used to be. That me doesn't exist anymore. That person hasn't existed for a long time, and she just refuses to see it. She arranged my after school schedule so that it made it impossible for me to go the the lgbtq youth group, insisting that, going to a group with other trans people in it somehow had made me trans. We went out to a conference in Virginia and I presented male and I wore had a big sticker that said he/him pronouns on it. Everyone called me by he/him perfectly fine until she comes by and practically shouts about me being 'her daughter' and her 'beautiful girl' to anyone I was talking to. It ruined everyone's view of me, and they adapted to my mom's 'girly girl' view of me. It just made me feel so uncomfortable and unsafe being around the hundreds of people that were there because they all looked at me as a girl, which is the opposite of what I want. I met another trans person while I was there, and he was really sympathetic the whole time. We'd be around my mom, and give me that look of apology, even his mom did too when we ate lunch together. My mom and I have talked a lot recently about me being trans, but she just tries to push her stupid religious beliefs on me and invalidating me at every point possible. She refuses to even try using the right pronouns, or to even avoid using gendered language towards me at all. She's too stubborn in her beliefs to even try looking at the situation from my point of view, and its been pretty difficult to deal with. I'm extremely grateful that she hasn't been hateful to me about who i am, i just don't know how to deal with her or how to make her see any different. Help?