Coming Out To My Ex And Other Things

[Guest Robynwi]

I thought I would just share my experience on how I came out to my ex.

Given it was 3 yrs ago, I might not remember everything.

Well me and my ex were dating for 1 yr 3 months before we broke up, and we are still really good friends, I can tell her anything, and vice versa. Well, she likes honestly and the truth a lot, which I can see why cause you don't want to be lied to. Well we got to talking and I starting talking about my past and the things I did. Dressing into my mother's clothes when I was 12, now 19. And she asked me if I still did that stuff and I told her not as much. It was a surprise to her, she didn't understand but she didn't' want to judge me, she is very open-minded, which I love about her. After the break up I told her that I think I was bi, and she said she could see that, which iono how. I'm still confused what I am, pry more bi-confused than anything. She is really the only person that knows about the stuff I have done, I couldn't tell my family, too Conservative, all of em. Don't feel like telling my friends cause I don't believe they would understand. So I'm glad I have her and forums to talk to.

Well recently I told her I still liked the thought of wearing panties and bras. I told her that I wanted to buy some panties on-line, then I told her the next day I ended up buying em, my first own article of girl clothing, don't have it yet, its coming in the mail, but back on track. She asked me what kind, color, if I was gonna take pictures in them, I then asked if she wanted to see me in them she replied "ya iono maybe". I know she is still kinda confused bout the whole thing but I think she is becoming more interested as I go along. Cause when we talk on-line she'll ask me if I got my panties yet? One day she asked me if I liked guys or girls, I told her girls, she then asked if I liked penis or vagina, told her vagina. She pry is trying to figure out why I would do this stuff and if I'm just confused if I want to be a girl or boy. I took a survey from this site and it said that I like being both, which I have to tell her about that survey I took. I plan on writing her a note telling of my past things that I haven't told her yet, maybe she'll understand some more about it and me.

I'm still trying to get back with her, but I'm here in Germany, and in the Military, so its hard for us to see each other and hard for me to dress, thats why I have to buy stuff on-line. I have an outfit saved on target.com that I'm ready to buy but still deciding if I really want to buy it and where I'm gonna hide it.

Whew that was alot, think I'm leaving stuff out, oh well,

Robyn

[MaryEllen]

Hi Robyn,

Thank you for sharing with us. You're lucky to have such an understanding ex. Many of us here don't have that luxury.

MaryEllen

[Guest Rika-chama]

Interesting story It's great you have such a wonderful ex who is trying to understand you.

[gennee]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm thankful for a supportive mate, too.

Gennee

[Guest SilverArrow]

Wow, your situation sounds similar to mine, except my ex is a lot more supportive. I've always been afraid of how far in I should go about telling her, but I think I've pretty much laid myself bare in the last week or 2. I've found that some people just aren't comfortable in dealing with this kind of difference, and present the awkwardness in strange ways. Time is the best solution in my opinion though, just ease everything into its proper place.