Transitioning Later In Life.

[Guest Jamie-o]

So, those of you who transitioned later in life, how do you deal with your long past as your birth sex? I mean, when you are 18 or 20 nobody expects you to have a long resume, for instance. But when you are older , employers expect to be able to verify several business references. Are you stuck either informing everyone you ever worked for that you had a sex change? (That would go down swell with the conservative Mormon family I used to work for.) Or alternatively, do you wind up having to tell every prospective employer, in your newly acquired deep, rich, manly voice, "But there I was known as 'Lucy'."?

And how about passing pre-T? At thirty-something I can hardly go around pretending that I just haven't finished puberty yet. (On the other hand, I was just told the other day that I looked too young to drink, so maybe... )

Any thoughts or experiences you'd like to share?

[Guest harvester52]

I'm not older, but I have some ideas for you that might work.

As for jobs, get some people to be your references who are accepting of your transition, and will call you by the right name/pronoun. The people can only call the numbers you put on the application, after all. Perhaps find a former boss of yours that's accepting (if possible), and will use the right terminology in reference to you, and have the new employer talk to him/her/xir over the phone or in person instead of just looking up your job history.

Passing pre-T... this site might help:

http://www.ftm-guide.org/

They have a lot of tips for passing pre-T regardless of one's age.

[Guest Just_Call_Me_Nick]

http://www.ftm-guide.org/

Hey there harvester52...I tried going to the site and I became lost in the internet space... am I doing something wrong? Would love to see it...

Nick~

[Guest MarkG]

Hey there harvester52...I tried going to the site and I became lost in the internet space... am I doing something wrong? Would love to see it...

Nick~

yep, the link is messed up, but I think this is the site it was aiming for. http://www.ftmguide.org/ Either way it's a good site with tons of passing tips and other good info.

[Guest harvester52]

I killed that linkie, sorry guys. Mark has the right site.

-Bruce

[Guest Seth]

I've been up and down that site.

It's pretty helpful.