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Guest daphene

Hello my dear sisters and brothers,

I had my first visit to my new GT Friday and it went well. He has many trans clients so he is well aware of my issues. My GT is also an ordained Methodist Minister and has a church in Atlanta. I needed a therapist with this sort of background. I need to know God is o.k. with my transitioning. I suspect as we go, the sessions will get deeper. I am going once a week, every Friday for a total of 10 sessions. My GT say after 10 sessions, he will give me my HRT letter and hook me up with an Endo. in the Atlanta area if I wish. I am very excited because I finally feel like I am on my way. I will continue seeing him while on HRT so that we can move forward. The other good news is, my parents, which are both in thier 70's were over this weekend. They have seen changes in me over the last 8 or 9 months and have been worried. My mother started questioning me about what was going on in my life. Her first question was "are you gay"? I said no. She said " are you a transsexual"? I thought for a moment, because I really was not prepared to come out to them yet. I said "yes I am". I went on to explain what that meant to me and how I have felt all of my life. She said "it all makes sense now". Both my parents were 100% accepting and supportive. They hugged me and told me they loved me and said they would support anything I needed to do. I was stunned! Isurely did not expect such a loving supportive response, but I got one. They told me I could come stay at thier home anytime I wanted to and be myself (in girl mode). We talked for about 3 hours and I told them everything from age 8 to 48. My mother said that is a heavy burden to carry for 40 years. I started crying at this point. I can get emotional when talking about my trans issues. Anyway, I am feeling good today, my only sad thought is I wish my wife would accept me. So far she has not. Enough of that, I am ready for this Friday, for my second visit to my GT! Anyway, just wanted to let all of my friends know about my weekend.

Hugs,

Daphene

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Guest sarah f

I am so happy for you Daphene and sad at the same time. I am happy that you are seeing a GT and after 10 visits you can start HRT. I am also happy your parents are so understanding and accept you for who you are.

I am sad for you because of your wife still not accepting you. I know this is the hard part for all of us that are married. I am in the same boat with my wife. I hope she starts to accept you soon.

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Guest Donna Jean

My mother said that is a heavy burden to carry for 40 years. I started crying at this point. I can get emotional when talking about my trans issues.

Hugs,

Daphene

Oh, dang...you started me crying, too...

Well, I usually hear that a therapist like that will try to talk someone out of transitioning...You're in good hands it seems, though!

Good...

You're 48....The spouse may be your hardest part...

Do your best...you have too be you, though...

Love

Donna Jean

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That is wonderful Daphene-about your parents and your GT.

I'm a Methodist myself because they are so open and accepting even in this narrow minded Southern mountain town. It's official church policy and there are trans Methodist ministers. Not trying to convert anyone just point out not all churches are hostile or bigoted toward us. I must admit I am not out to my church but they are aware of and accept my Christain reincarnation beliefs. The only reason I have not told the minister is that we changed pastors just about the time I realized I was trans and I want to give the dust a chance to settle a bit

What happened with your parents is everyone's dream of acceptance. So affirming and heart warming

Hopefully as your wife sees others accept you and your happiness as you progress toward your goals she will be able to be more accepting herself.

Hugs

JJ

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Guest daphene

thank you all for your words of encouragement. i look forward to the next few months. donna jean, i hope this therapist does not try to talk me out of this. i hope i have not picked the wrong one. i gues we will see over the next couple of weeks. i guess it is thier job to make sure we are making the right decision though.

hugs,

daphene

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Guest Donna Jean

thank you all for your words of encouragement. i look forward to the next few months. donna jean, i hope this therapist does not try to talk me out of this. i hope i have not picked the wrong one. i gues we will see over the next couple of weeks. i guess it is thier job to make sure we are making the right decision though.

hugs,

daphene

You're right, Hon....it is their job to help YOU understand where you need to go...

And this...

I am going once a week, every Friday for a total of 10 sessions. My GT say after 10 sessions, he will give me my HRT letter and hook me up with an Endo

...leads me to believe that you will get good treatment from that GT....

Lots of love & luck!

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Hi Daphene !

That is so wonderful about your parents! They were no doubt worried sick about you, and now you have released them from that worry. I imagine that you will all become even closer than you already were before.

That is also very good news about your first session with your GT. Keep your eyes open, and I believe you will be able to tell before long if he has any ideas about trying to talk you out of transitioning. That does not necessarily mean that he won't talk to you about how you plan on coping with various issues that occur with the process. Perhaps one or more of his other trans clients might be willing to meet with you.

Wish you the best on all of this. Please keep us updated.

Huggs!

Opal

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Guest ricka

Daphene----your post moved me deeply, hon! I know what a tumultuous year

this has been for you and the agonizing choices that you have had to make

to become the beautiful, dear woman that you are! It makes me so happy to

here the wonderful things that have happened for you recently.

Your gender therapist sounds as if he was divinely sent to you. Three things

I know deep in my soul is God's abiding, unconditional love and acceptance,

that as a transgendered woman I have a special place in His Heart, and lastly and most

importantly that God is far bigger than they ever told us He is!!!!

Hugs, Ricka

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Guest Leo the First

I am so happy for you <333

YAY! I really wish I could meet a GT like that >x> I worry about the religious aspect of my transgenderism.

But I am so glad everything went well for you, and that your parents accept you <3 That kind of feeling is great, yeah? (I came out to my -online- friends last week, no one had an issue with it <3)

I'll cross my fingers for your wife.

2nd visit - 화이팅!!! ('Fighting';; "You can do it!")

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