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Guest daphene

Hello my good sisters and brothers!

I have not been around for a while and a lot have happened in my life. I was laid from work last week so I am living as Daphene full time for now until I get another job. I am not going to look for work until I decide where I want to relocate to. I have two more visits to my gender therapist and he said I would get my hormone letter, so I am looking forward to that. My wife and I are getting a divorce, but we are parting ways as friends so it is not all bad there. I am out to my sister and mother and father and they are all supportive and accepting. I have learned to fix my makeup prettygood now so I can go out as Daphene. I am going to start hormonesand transition as I have always dreamed of doing. Life is pretty good right now. I just need to relocate and find a job in a few months. I am waiting until I start hormones and make sure I dont nut up on them. I have talked to an electrolygist who has TS experience and I am starting that wonderful process when I start hormones so I just wanted to give everyone an update and let you know I am still out here.

Lots of hugs,

Daphene

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  • Admin

It's great to hear from you, Daphene. Welcome back!

I'm sorry to hear about the job, but you seem to have a positive outlook even on that. Takes a special person to not get too down

when that happens. I wish you the best on your job search.

Excellent news with everything else, well, except the marriage, but I am glad to hear that the ending has been amicable. Like I

said in another thread, I don't begrudge any spouse who cannot adapt and carry on in a relationship that undergoes the kind of

change we bring. It is too much to ask, in many cases. Parting as friends is a good thing.

Good luck with everything, and keep in touch.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Daphene,

It's good to know that things are going relatively well for you (I can understand the problem with job searching, it's something that's too common these days). And I'm really glad you came back and gave us an update. That is soooo appreciated.

Keep us informed as you can, we love to hear stories of success, or if not, we're good ears for listening and arms for hugging.

I hope the next time is as good or better than now.

Hugs

Chloë

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Guest daphene

Thanks for the positive feed back. Life is going ok for now, but i know some rough times are ahead. I am trying to get prepared. I am meeting another TS friend from California for the first time this week at Southern Comfort in Atlanta on Wednesday. That should be intresting. Anyway, thanks again.

Lots of hugs,

Daphene

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Guest Donna Jean

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Oh wow, you're going to Southern Comfort...

Hey, Hon....Thanks for the report! I've been wondering where you were...

Are you still living in that camper?

Where ya thinking of re-locating to...another state?

Thanks for letting us know that you're still alive...

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest daphene

Donna Jean, I am still living in my RV with my dog Casper. Yes I am willing to relocate anywhere that is TS friendly and has architects in he area so that I can find work. Right now I am just waiting on my hormone letter and waiting to get started with hormones and then I plan on picking a location and move and find a job as my male side while the hormones do thier magic. I want to live as Daphene when I am not at work until going full time becomes a reality.

Lots of hugs,

Daphene

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Hi Daphene. It's great to hear from you. You sound positive about your life

and I'm happy that you are proceeding ahead. I'm sorry tht your marriage is

breaking up but there's no animosity between you and your wife. Keep us posted.

Gennee

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