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Guest Donna Jean

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I was looking on a friends (thanks for the permission, Matty..) web page and found this..

It made me cry a lot....and so will many of you....

But, it is very powerful and we need to remember how much of this exists...

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Homophobia means:

* I am the girl kicked out of her home because I confided in my mother that I am a lesbian.

* I am the prostitute working the streets because nobody will hire a transsexual woman.

* I am the sister who holds her gay brother tight through the painful, tear-filled nights.

* We are the parents who buried our daughter long before her time.

* I am the man who died alone in the hospital because they would not let my partner of twenty-seven years into the room.

* I am the foster child who wakes up with nightmares of being taken away from the two fathers who are the only loving family I have ever had. I wish they could adopt me.

* I am one of the lucky ones, I guess. I survived the attack that left me in a coma for three weeks, and in another year I will probably be able to walk again.

* I am not one of the lucky ones. I killed myself just weeks before graduating high school. It was simply too much to bear.

* We are the couple who had the Realtor hang up on us when she found out we wanted to rent a one-bedroom for two men.

* I am the person who never knows which bathroom I should use if I want to avoid getting the management called on me.

* I am the mother who is not allowed to even visit the children I bore, nursed, and raised. The court says I am an unfit mother because I now live with another woman.

* I am the domestic-violence survivor who found the support system grow suddenly cold and distant when they found out my abusive partner is also a woman.

* I am the domestic-violence survivor who has no support system to turn to because I am male.

* I am the father who has never hugged his son because I grew up afraid to show affection to other men.

* I am the home-economics teacher who always wanted to teach gym until someone told me that only lesbians do that.

* I am the man who died when the paramedics stopped treating me as soon as they realized I was transsexual.

* I am the person who feels guilty because I think I could be a much better person if I did not have to always deal with society hating me.

* I am the man who stopped attending church, not because I don't believe, but because they closed their doors to my kind.

* I am the person who has to hide what this world needs most, love.

* I am the person who is afraid of telling his loving Christian parents he loves another male.

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Donna Jean

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Guest audrey michelle

fortunately, the world isnt what it used to be. we're getting there and acceptance and love isnt really as far as it used to be. sure, we have a bit more to go but we have come a long way

stay strong, everyone

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Guest NatashaJade

Thank you for posting this, Dee Jay. It is in line with what I have been thinking about today. We need to remember that together, we make the world better for us and our loved ones. We need each other to remind ourselves that we have the right to exist and love and live.

love

Gin

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Guest Donna Jean

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Yes, Gin...I had noticed that it coincided with some of your thoughts today...and we do need each other...that's why we all gather here...

And Audry is right...it is getting a lot better overall, but, as long as one person is being mistreated...that is one too many..

Huggs

Donna Jean

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There will come a day, in the not too distant future, when posts like this will no longer be needed, and the stories contained in it will be things of the past.

I don't know when that day will come, but I believe it will, and I won't let go of that hope.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Kai Reddtail

I saw this recently, and I thought it was very powerful and moving.

There will come a day, in the not too distant future, when posts like this will no longer be needed, and the stories contained in it will be things of the past.I don't know when that day will come, but I believe it will, and I won't let go of that hope.Carolyn Marie

Sometimes I like to sit and imagine that time, and what life and the conversations might be like. Maybe some young person will go up to their father and ask

"Daddy, is it true that they used to stop people from marrying eachother just because they were both boys or birth girls?"

And the father will explain that yes, there was a time like that. And everyone will remark about how horrible it was in the past and how closed-minded and backwards some people were. Maybe the idea of "coming out" will no longer exist at all, because nobody will assume a person's sexuality. Or even if they do all they have to say is "actually I like (insert gender here)" and nobody will think it's remarkable. It'll just be everyday life.

It's fun to dream about. I hope to be alive when those days finally come.

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Guest Donna Jean

Or even if they do all they have to say is "actually I like (insert gender here)" and nobody will think it's remarkable. It'll just be everyday life.

It's fun to dream about. I hope to be alive when those days finally come.

Yes, Honey.....powerful and moving..

I know that I'll not be here for it, but, we can only hope that the younger ones will have it...

Huggs

Donna Jean

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Guest RachaelAnn

It's scary how many of those I read that I can remember going thru. Until now, I never fully realized that I went thru the bad end of homophobia because I always tried to hide being Trans and being bi.

Jennifer RachaelAnn

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Dee Jay sis,

I have no idea how i missed this til now, i just saw it and read every line, very moving indeed, thanks for posting it.

Paula

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Guest Melissa 67

This stuff really gets me thinking. With some of the posts I read on hear about Trans. people being portrayed in a good light. Maybe things are changing for the better.

Melissa 67

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Guest TigerFoxMatt

It's a message that needs to be repeated. While people have become more accepting, there are still many closed-minded ones out there. My prediction is that it will be similar to how Martin Luther King fought against blacks being treated differently than whites. Eventually there will be one person who will stand up and say, "Hey, we're just like you guys; we don't deserve to be treated different,". We will have to bond together to have a greater impact, but I think we can do it. There may be a few casualties, but in the end maybe it will help put greater awareness to help stop hate crimes against LBGT people.

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Guest Samurai_Kid

I've seen that dozens of times; it's all over FF.net and other fandom based sites for some reason.

There's this artist on Deviantart who is drawing all the verses out; it's really nice.

It's still pretty sad though, but it doesn't hit me like it used to.

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In some primitive societies gays and lesbians and intersexed persons are revered and honored and modern society pushes us to the edges and to the brink of life ending acts....

Ahem, who is primitive and who is modern?

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Guest Pellinore

can you be mtf and feel very aggresive and savage? i'm really waiting for someone to make openly fun of me or approach me..unfortunatly i'm like 1.88 meters and not really a pushover..so much anger in me.. if this goes on i will run into a fascist meeting and ******* ...does feeling feminine also means you have to feel peacefull? i have taken to much as a junkie..now that i'm clean i'm not taking anything anymore. and i'm acking for a good fight... i have fought alot as a kid..i got bullied alot..but all this fighting experience is pretty usefull. stupid homophobic world..don't blame me if i ever go on a rampage. sorry, just not approve this post if its unappropiate..i just felt the need to write down my frustartion against this intolerant world...and its making me aggresive, wich is normally not my nature.

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Guest sarah f

Pellinore you still have T running through those veins. Once you start hormones then you will start to calm down a lot. They really have done that for me. I used to be so angry with everyone especially while driving. Now it takes a lot for me to get angry.

Try to just let it go the best you can. Getting in a fight because someone is ignorant to what we are going through isn't the solution.

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Guest Pellinore

I know its not a solution.. but it would be relieving. If there is one aspect of T that i will be missing it is the agressive feelings..i know it sounds ackward..but they make me feel confident and strong at times. I never get angry verbally..but sometimes there is so much tension in my body that i want to hit a hole in the wall. (i once got locked up in my room in psychiatry..i kicked a hole in my door, crawled trough it..and got time to completly destroy two other doors (kicking in doors is awesome)..before they overpowered me (hitting those overly muscled nurses felt good too when they would hit big alarm..i'm weird..and they can't sue you because you are "mentally ill")..that was fun..and it felt good..because i needed the relieve..its frustrating when you are put in a closed psychiatry by law full with people with psychosis and whatnot just for drug use and depression..)

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