These exercises were an answer to a request to tap into a feminine way of using your senses. It is in no way, a critique of who or what a person is nor does it make a person more or less female. Men are more than welcome to use these gentle ways of tapping fully into your senses in the most acutely personal way. Please take no offense as I cast no aspersions on anyone who did or did not participate. Tori asked, and I volunteered, that is all.
Tori, using both your index and middle fingers are actually something that both men and women do. These exercise are to help you attune to your senses. They won't make a man into a woman, but they encourage a womanly way of attuning and paying attention to the more feminine side of your instincts and senses. I think, on seeing the sudden reaction here now, we should keep these in messages so no one gets upset.
Yes driving styles are very distinctive! My ex used to be a pizza delivery driver and slammed that shift into oblivion! I got her a 76 dodge charger with a solid slant six engine. She CRACKED it in 6 months and she's a lead foot to this day. Her mother drove VERY much like a little old lady all her life. My brother Jr. was also a delivery driver (i was a dispatcher so nepotism I know lol) and he was the best driver I'll ever know. He could get any engine to purr, made a stick shift sing in even in low gear and could fix almost anything with any car. He'd drive fast, but well and-just like my dad. I'm a savage driver and to be brutally honest, my choice vehicle would be a dune buggy with a roll cage...
I wear sport bras to work and I do have a couple of racer backs with no underwire or extra support that feel good. When I get larger girls I will look for better support bras. I think this was the better way to feel fem without the discomfort.
Wow, what great news! A great new job, a "new" household in Oregon and an easy cruise (not, lol) across the country. It will be a busy busy month for you two, but so wonderful you don't have to wait longer to be together. Am so happy for you!
We paid movers to bring our family out here from VA, but we drove our vehicles and an RV which housed all our pets at the time (3 dogs, 2 birds, 1 cat and a rabbit). We took it slow, driving about 7-8 hours a day (plus one breakdown day). It took us 9 days! The November headwinds in WY had that RV down to 40 mph climbing the Rockies. I'll never forget that expedition. Saw some beautiful landscapes that I want to visit with some time to explore someday.
Now don't you two be blowing up any gasoline tankers along the way! lol
I missed the minor point there. Sorry. If your parents are receptive it is no problem, but they are the petitioners for your name change. If they are not receptive have it done through an attorney or LGBTQ center. I have been a professional employee in the CA Law system and have seen the problems happen where you will need their help.
That's what I've done and you're right, it helps. I used to focus solely on my body being wrong, what I thought of as body dysphoria. HRT gave me congruency in my head and I worried far less about the body issue. Now, without hormones, I've lost some of that congruency and the body dysphoria has returned somewhat, but I now understand (I think) that my brain has a dysphoric problem that needs attention. I need some E to rewire it back to the way it was. From one angle it seems like I've gotten it all twisted around, but somehow it makes sense to me. I think. Like they say, this is all a process... a journey not a destination.
Yes the phone interview went well to say the least. It helps being a veteran when your being hired by a disabled vet owner and everyone in the company is a vet as well. His bread a butter is government contracts and hiring me evaluates his companies status to include LBGT compliant too. I just got a $15K per year raise same vacation and a much shorter commute time to work.
The timing is a bit overwhelming and I am feeling a ton of nervous anxiety this morning as I am truly not all wrapped up in VT, but I have always seized opportunity when it is presented so I had to jump. I'm thankful to @Patti Anne and all her support and love and I am very excited that our life together is starting sooner then later.
Also a big shout out to our newest friend @Tori M who lives fairly close to us in Oregon and is excited for us to get back there. Its nice to have a new friend in place when moving across country.
Though honestly I have no intentions of driving my stuff off a cliff so....... No to Thelma and Louise!
More to come shortly.
I have a phone therapy session in a few minutes so I have to close for now.
Yesterday we were out and in our area we are still wearing masks. I was also wearing goggles. My hair has gotten longer and my upper body has atrophied a bit and looking at myself in the mirror, I was like omg I so come off as female. I’m not pursuing social transition at this point so I’m (trying to?) present male. It’s something I’ve had to put a lot of effort into over the course of my life. Anyway yesterday I totally got the sense I was coming off more female. The longer hair, the body language I have always had a tougher time controlling and the mask just all combined together.
This this this this!!! For me I have always had more of a female brain, and that’s been really confusing. I didn’t really get that is was gender dysphoria until later in life but viewing this through the prism of having a female brain (as opposed to being trapped in a man’s body) has made it so much easier for me to process.
Well, Shawna and I had some crazy things happen today. The Good news is she's not coming to Oregon to visit. The other good news is it sounds like she was offered a job today about 15 minutes away from our house. It's a government contract and they want her to start yesterday. So, needless to say, things are moving along really really rapidly. It's looking more like I'm going to fly to Vermont and we'll both drive back with a truck loaded with her things. She was talking about driving alone, but there's NO WAY I'm letting her drive X/C by herself. We'll drive together, Thelma and Louise style.
So, as things firm up, we'll repost with progress notes.
Update: She just texted me and she's definitely been hired! They want her here on 6/29!
PA and SL