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Electrolysis. Upper and lower lip and neck. 60 minutes.

I started crying after the sixth hair or so. No noise or twitching or anything, but that was the first time in a long time I've reacted to physical pain in that way. People at work avoided me all day. Does this happen to anyone else, or am I particularly sensitive or pain-intolerant?

I also bleed after some hairs. The electrologist thinks it's just that my blood is thin, which I had heard from doctors before over other issues.

Am I the most annoying client on Earth or what?

-Alex

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Am I the most annoying client on Earth or what?

-Alex

Well, I think you'll have to ask you electrologist that question, hon. :P

I don't think you were out of line to cry. The upper lip is really, really sensitive. I have a high pain tolerance, and I rarely squirmed during my LHR sessions. But my upper lip? Yikes! I didn't cry, but I did squirm.

Just keep repeating to yourself, Alex; no pain no gain. No pain no gain. No pain, Rogaine. Oh, ooops!

Carolyn Marie

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If you are their most annoying client I must not have ever been there! :)

Yes, I am a crier I cry over most things - I used deadening and still jumped with each fire of the laser - imagine the reaction to an actual electrolysis session.

I am so sorry that you have such a problem with pain because electrolysis is a necessary part of transition.

When you figure out how to handle it please let me know - I need some electrolysis myself and I need some help too.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Alexandra89

It's painful! Sometimes, I'm lying in a puddle of tears afterwards! And she tells me that I'm taking it well!

My electro uses a numbing solution on my upper lip, which doesn't take the pain away, but reduces it by a good margin. Does yours use that?

If we're handling it well, how do people who handle it poorly take it?

And we used some kind of cream. I don't think it did anything at all. I'll ask her next week what it was and if there are other options, or if I'll have to show up at work every Monday afternoon looking like someone killed my pet.

When you figure out how to handle it please let me know - I need some electrolysis myself and I need some help too.

I don't know if there is. I really wish I did. I do have a drink or two beforehand sometimes, but I wouldn't suggest this to anyone with a volatile relationship with alcohol.

Just keep repeating to yourself, Alex; no pain no gain. No pain no gain. No pain, Rogaine. Oh, ooops!

Once I recover my ability to actually have thoughts during sessions that aren't just strings of expletives, I'll give this a try. I'm really regretting that I didn't just run away from home to start transition before my beard grew in.

Thanks for the replies everyone. It's nice to see I'm not the only one who takes it so badly. The way other people sometimes talk about it makes it sound like it's only a nuisance, nothing more.

-Alex

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Guest Elena

well, I'm not sure about electrolosis or laser yet, but using my epilator on my upper lip makes me cry, my nose run, and ears ring, with an occasional sneeze thrown in for good measure. Takes almost as long for my upper lip as it does to do one whole arm.

Sad that I actually prefer all that to just shaving isn't it? Not getting the stubble somehow makes it worth it all. Goddess I am missing my epilator right now...

Hope you figure out something to make it more bearable!

<3

Elena

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Guest Isabella_Anne

Alex,

I'm a crier and I have not started hormones. I should be a tear factory by the time they have started there magic. That's why I'm starting the electrolysis now. Get that nasty underlip area done first.

Isabella

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Guest Donna Jean

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My electrologist would lay a small towel over my eyes to keep the light out....

When she would work on my upper lip (with a numbing cream)the towel would be soaked upon removal...

Not that I cried....but, my eyes did leak a lot!

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Guest Julie T

Alex

Hon, if you have a face of stone, and if you can walk though a pit of glowing coals without flinching, and you even refused to cry when fluffy got hit by that car? You will still cry when those just-below-the-nose hairs are removed by electrolysis. I think it is in the agreement you signed when you started? that you will suffer horribly at that particular time? and the tears will flow like water.

So you are in the normal range? I mean, as much as in the normal range as we transpeople get.

Julie

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Guest Alexandra89

well, I'm not sure about electrolosis or laser yet, but using my epilator on my upper lip makes me cry, my nose run, and ears ring, with an occasional sneeze thrown in for good measure. Takes almost as long for my upper lip as it does to do one whole arm.

I've never epilated, but if it's anything like tweezing this is a completely different animal. I used to tweeze that area and it did hurt like crazy, but the taps from the probe hurt way more, IMO. Sometimes a hair that wasn't hit by the probe gets plucked by accident (I know because she admits it when it happens), and the taps are still worse, and two per hair! Ugh.

But you're right, it is worth having no stubble, but I'm probably at least ten sessions away from having that feeling anywhere on my face.

Not that I cried....but, my eyes did leak a lot!

I wasn't quite accurate when I said no noise. I did whimper like a kicked dog the whole time and my eyes were all red from it for at least an hour.

as much as in the normal range as we transpeople get.

This is an expression that needs to be more incorporated in the lexicon. I think it's a great piece of lateral wisdom, and I like it.

-Alex

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