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Now i got nothing against people that want to have alot of surgery to look beautful, but that is simply not my goal. There is a few ways where this can go. The person can have ffs for perfection ( those with a problem), have alot to look beautiful, or to just look like a female. My goal is to wait two years and see what hrt does for me and if it is not enough i might go under the knife for maybe one or two ffs. If i need more then that to just look female then i would go for it, but i doubt it. The only reason i post this topic is to figure out way someone would want more ffs eventhough they look flawlessly female

There were probably a couple of people who are mtf that i saw youtube that look nothing wrong with them. Then a couple of months later they got many surgeries and look horrible. If there was even a remote chance of me looking like a female i would never opt for any surgeries. Perhaps there only looking for perfection. Who knows

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It seems to me-just speculation-that the difficulties of our lives leave some of us with a low self esteem and I believe that is what drives some women to go too far with FFS. They want surgery to do what can only come from inside.

Not that men don't have FFS too but like the difference in the general population between the number of men who have surgery to improve their appearance and the number of women I believe it is far fewer. Women are so conditioned by society to base their self worth on appearance while with men it is more about status symbols and behaviors I believe.

You are wise to wait on FFS to see where you are and to not get it unless necessary. That is a healthy outlook I believe.

Johnny

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I was going to get FFS in November but have decided to wait. The hormones are changing my face and I'm afraid if I have surgery, look decent and the hormones change my face more, it may change for the worse.

I'm opting for another surgery first. :)

Autumn

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I've been wrestling with that issue myself. I'm awaiting a e-mail consult with a plastic surgeon just to see what he says, but I've made no decisions.

It's hard to always be satisfied with what we've got. Human nature, I guess. I think you are doing the smart thing by waiting.

Carolyn Marie

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I probably will not have any ffs. If I do it will be minor. It is not just transsexuals that can go overboard with surgery. Like mentioned before some people just have such a low self esteem that they can never be happy with how they look no matter how good that is. For some it is a compulsion.

We have a good friend who went in to have some laser facial peeling to clear up some minor old acme scars. Something happened that she had a reaction and ended up with horrible scars all over her face. She has had to have several other surgeries just to get the scaring level down but she will never have the face she once had.

Be very careful in what we do to ourselves.

Mia

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There were probably a couple of people who are mtf that i saw youtube that look nothing wrong with them. Then a couple of months later they got many surgeries and look horrible. If there was even a remote chance of me looking like a female i would never opt for any surgeries. Perhaps there only looking for perfection. Who knows

1. They obviously thought differently. People told me I looked fine before FFS, but it didn't matter. All I knew was the image in the mirror was not right. After FFS it was.

2. Full healing time from FFS can be TWO YEARS. If you saw fresh post-op pics you have to remember swelling and bruising will make it hard to judge the final outcome. I was one of the lucky ones, my bruising was minimal and the change was dramatic almost immediately.

3. There is also the issue of whether they went to an FFS specialist or somebody that just claimed to do FFS. YES, there are plenty of the latter that take advantage of us. People need to do their research before signing up for surgery.

FTR I had my FFS after I had been on HRT for a little less than 2 years.

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I agree with you completely Leah! I know for certain that despite what everyone says about me looking fine, when I look in to the mirror, I don't like what I see and I still see the masculine image behind the eyes.

One day I may just be able to afford it :P

Hugs!

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I think that if you want surgery and feel it will make you more comfortable then get it. If not then don't. One woman who I think looks great but most people tend to dislike is Amanda Lepore. I met her and she was fantastic.

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I was going to get FFS in November but have decided to wait. The hormones are changing my face and I'm afraid if I have surgery, look decent and the hormones change my face more, it may change for the worse.

I'm opting for another surgery first. :)

Autumn

Absolutely girl. I always tell girls to stick with the hormones first before opting for any type of surgery... Hormones does absolute wonders. You should be on it for at least 8 - 10 years steadily and heavily before seeking ffs. It changed me dramatically ... I still did FFS, but very minimal and very natural looking. a nip, a tuck, and tip here and there. Nothing dramatic....

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Absolutely girl. I always tell girls to stick with the hormones first before opting for any type of surgery... Hormones does absolute wonders. You should be on it for at least 8 - 10 years steadily and heavily before seeking ffs.

8-10 years? Are you serious? 2 years is an adequate amount of time to judge HRT changes to your face.

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2 years is an adequate amount of time to judge HRT changes to your face.

I agree. That does seem like the more accepted time frame. Geez, if I waited 8-10 years at my age, I would be more likely to have my face altered by advanced decrepitude. :wacko:

Carolyn Marie

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I'm much more concerned with GRS so my clothes will fit better, I can go swimming and use the locker room w/o concern. I always feel wary using the lady's and still have 'it' there. I'd like to have a face lift just to tighten the skin but i kinda like the way I look with the masculine/feminine thing going on. I blend in better than I used to (16 months on HRT) and oddly better when I wear less makeup. But I think makeup draws attention then I get clocked but by now I'm over getting all worked up. I will definitely feel more confident chatting up more guys after GRS. (54 days and counting... Dr. Bowers, I presume)

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The main problem with plastic surgery is that for many it is addictive - look no further than Michael Jackson and you will see - knowing when to stop is far more important than when to start.

Love ya,

Sally

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Exactly WAIT till the hormones have taken its fullest effect on your transformation. It truly makes a difference.. ABSOLUTELY does make a difference and you'd be surprised by how naturaly beautiful you are. I eventualy did get some FFS well more like just small enhancements for my ego....

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Absolutely girl. I always tell girls to stick with the hormones first before opting for any type of surgery... Hormones does absolute wonders. You should be on it for at least 8 - 10 years steadily and heavily before seeking ffs.

8-10 years? Are you serious? 2 years is an adequate amount of time to judge HRT changes to your face.

I guess I should've been more specific about the years for transformation. Everyone is different and everyone's body acts differently. As for me It took a good 4 years to really change my look because I was going through puberty .... However, I still stand by the 8 - 10 year scope only because that is my personal belief and preference. I wanted to remain myself as most possible before seeking surgery. I wanted to see what the hormones would enhance etc. then again i come from an old school mentality where my "aunties" instilled in me the value of patience and hormonal magic. AGAIN its just my opinion. And my opinion is based on personal experiences as well as watching friends change as well...... And not to sound rude but there are a lot of "girls" ( not trying to sound rude) who took hormones and went straight for surgery to look like the masses and ended up looking worse than they did in the begining. Again my opinion not trying offend good luck :)

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