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I have a confession to make. I kill threads. I'm so sorry. :mellow:

I don't know why, but it seems anytime I write a post that I'm REALLY proud of, and can't wait to hear response and opinion about it, my post just ends up ending the thread. :(

Am I that blatant or shocking that people don't know what to say to me? I want feedback people!!LOL :lol:

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Kelsie,

Sometimes someone says something so perfectly or so wel that nothing else needs to be said.

I've been impressed by your posts-and hadn't noticed any thread kiling but when it happens I bet it's because you got it just right.

John

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Guest KimberlyF

I do that all the time. Sometimes it bothers me and other times I just convince myself that I just posted the definitive answer so there's really nothing more to say.

I wonder who's gonna kill this thread?

Kim

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Guest Maria (Hilda)

Your posts are brilliant, thats why :P How is one to follow that up?

Yeah, uhh, hi, My names Maria, I'm just gonna quote Kelise's post.

''You could be dating a purple bologna sammich and no one would care''

Or something along that lines... Darn I need to find that post again! :)

Oh, back to you

Your posts are brilliant, thats why <3

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Guest RachaelAnn

I have a confession to make. I kill threads. I'm so sorry. :mellow:

I don't know why, but it seems anytime I write a post that I'm REALLY proud of, and can't wait to hear response and opinion about it, my post just ends up ending the thread. :(

Am I that blatant or shocking that people don't know what to say to me? I want feedback people!!LOL :lol:

I've noticed that the same thing happens with me. Anytime I post or create a topic, the thread is dies. No one else seems to want to respond after I post. I just thought people didn't like me, and just felt that I had ruined the topic.

RachaelAnn

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Guest Donna Jean

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Please don't forget that not everyone that reads a topic replys...

As of now, 6 people have responded to this topic, but 22 have read it....

There ya go!

Donna Jean

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If you really want to feel like a thread killer try writing poetry - most people read a poem and either like or hate it but have no idea as to why and the rest just aren't sure if they even liked it.

I write my post to make a point - to say something that I feel is important do a lot of people respond, not really and that used to bother me until I realized that it happens to everyone.

I would carefully craft a well thought out 'perfect' response and the next person would write a joke answer which got all of the responses from there on and made me feel like I had wasted my time - the truth is that most people read and really listen to the serious posts and respond to the fun ones.

Just look what short life some threads have that are of serious nature and then take a look at two of our longest running threads - "Beerless beer and tobaccoless tabacco" and "Let's Party by the pool and talk" - see?

It is nothing personal - it just happens sometimes.

Just watch no one will respond to this one unless I toss in a joke - "Two blonds walk into a bar..........."

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest therisa

If you really want to feel like a thread killer try writing poetry - most people read a poem and either like or hate it but have no idea as to why and the rest just aren't sure if they even liked it.

I write my post to make a point - to say something that I feel is important do a lot of people respond, not really and that used to bother me until I realized that it happens to everyone.

I would carefully craft a well thought out 'perfect' response and the next person would write a joke answer which got all of the responses from there on and made me feel like I had wasted my time - the truth is that most people read and really listen to the serious posts and respond to the fun ones.

Just look what short life some threads have that are of serious nature and then take a look at two of our longest running threads - "Beerless beer and tobaccoless tabacco" and "Let's Party by the pool and talk" - see?

It is nothing personal - it just happens sometimes.

Just watch no one will respond to this one unless I toss in a joke - "Two blonds walk into a bar..........."

Love ya,

Sally

Sally, that's bad...

hugs

therisa

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Kelise hon,

You are not a thread killer, i sometimes feel the way you do, i spend a long time on a response and that is the end of the thread, you are precise and to the point and there is not much to be added to it, usually after i read yours i do not bother posting cause i would only repeat what you just said.

You rock!

Paula

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Wonder, if this feeling of post killing is universal? Feel that this happens alot to me.

therisa

I would say "Yes" the feeling is pretty universal.

Wonder if any Dissertations or Thesis-es (sp) have been written on the underlying psychology and 'life' of threads?

If one posts a thread in the General Forum, that thread will likely have a short life-span due to the volume of posts. However, in some of the other subforum categories, there are first page topics that are there from 2009 or earlier.

I use the 'View New Content' selection most frequently, so it is easy to miss a thread. Have also been going into the Profile page, and looking at my last 200 posts for possible new activity. It is less common for me to go to specific Forum categories and look back more than a page or so in thread postings.

Remember the "You Might be Trans if" Thread? That one went for a long time with numerous posts. It paused for a week or two, gained new life, then suddenly stopped. Have been considering searching for it and making a post to bring it back.

Sally brings up a very good point about the Poetry Forum. There are so many wonderful poems, yet I find it very difficult to post any reply about a poem... Believe it is due to lack of experience in Poetry on my part.

Another aspect that I believe most of us are reluctant to make a second post immediately after our first post. Yet, it seems like just after pressing the 'Add Reply' button, I think of something else to add. Is there really any reason not to make two postings in a row?

And Kelsie I agree with Paula. You are not a thread killer. A thread can stop for a variety of reasons.

Well, lets see if this post kills the thread. :blush:

Huggs,

Opal

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Guest KimberlyF

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Please don't forget that not everyone that reads a topic replys...

As of now, 6 people have responded to this topic, but 22 have read it....

There ya go!

Donna Jean

That's a subcategory.

'Why do people keep reading my threads and not responding?'

Kim

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Guest KimberlyF

Wonder if any Dissertations or Thesis-es (sp) have been written on the underlying psychology and 'life' of threads?

Huggs,

Opal

There's prob some formula to figure out how likely your post will be to get a response. Like Pi times your posts per day divided by the square of your total post count. And the formula only works if there are no references to fluffy bunnies in the post.

Kim

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Guest ChloëC

Kelise,

You could always try an experiment I have often thought about.

Post a response to every thread when the thread count gets to 25 or more on the View New Content button. See if Laura's Playground shuts down because everything will have been answered. (just kidding, I think the same way about my posts sometimes).

First, I think some answers cover the ground so well that they don't really need a reply, unless someone wants to talk about Nutria. ;)

Second, I'm sure there are an awful lot of lurkers out there who probably would love to join in the conversation but like we ALL have been at one time or another, just a little terrified of coming out, even in a relative safe and tremendously supportive group like this.

Third, lots of people will read posts based on the title, or a particular poster, and then get into the thread and find it slightly different or whatver and just go on.

But, I will now look for your posts and make sure I respond, so I can regain my claim. :lol:

Hugs

Chloë

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Wonder, if this feeling of post killing is universal? Feel that this happens alot to me.

therisa

Therisa, you are absolutely correct. I've felt the same way at times, as have many others.

Don't forget, there is always a last reply to every single thread (well, except for a couple the guys have going. The "hang out by the pool and talk" thread has over a thousand replies. :blink: ). Its just a coinkidink when it's the same person 2-3 times in a row.

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Elizabeth K

Two Blondes walk into a bar...

You think they woulda seen it and ducked!

Lizzy

Another:

A blond goes into the doctor's office and complains, "Everywhere I touch it hurts."

"I touch my ankle... it hurts."

"I touch my neck... it hurts."

"I touch my forehead... it hurts."

"I touch my knee... it hurts."

"Doctor, you've got to tell me what is wrong with me!"

The doctor looks at her and says, "Your finger is broken."

Hijacking a thread? Do it with a joke... so Sally says (blame her).

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Kelsie,

It is not you. I think the truth is that once you get to a certain depth of a thread the question is responded to. I mean how many times do you want to read the same type of response. I think you post some very well thought and heartfelt responses. Dont let it get to you

Cris

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