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Coming out is a very personal matter. It's telling the world that this is who I am. I am mindful that my coming out process came several weeks after discovering that I was a crossdresser. When I did accept myself all of the stress in my life dissipated.

It took over a week that I had gone over a divide that I never imagined that I would cross. I have concluded that coming out is not a one time event. It's happened to me a number of times. I proceeded from a crossdresser to transgenderist to transgender.

At the present time I am experiencing another shift in my identity, moving closer to identifying as fully feminine. This is after a long period of relative calm. What has helped is that I embrace whatever comes. The journey will be ongoing replete with discoveries and adventures.

I enjoy reading posts from folks who have or are just coming out and accepting their sexuality/gender identity. For me it has become easier. I have never tried to pin down what gender is; I just enjoy the ride.

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Guest SaleneAlexis

As a sister of Mine in My real life MTF support group said, "We will always transition from one form to another, that we will never be done!" I agree with that. And that post proves it right. ~Dances Happily~

Stephanie

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CyndiRae

Self realization is very powerful indeed, glad you are enjoying the ride Gennee and feel comfortable. This is not a one stop destination......

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Guest Gregg Jameson

Hi gennee!

Thanks so much for sharing your experiences and your insight!

I, too, have realized that as I allow and accept some parts of myself, more of myself continues to present for additional consideration, seeking my love and acceptance. I had, somehow, abandoned myself long ago. There were reasons for having done so, of course. Yet, I've paid a price for having done so. I am sure we have all paid a price. I am trying to just relax, to take things slowly, to see clearly, to give due consideration, to learn more about myself, while also finally extending unconditional love and acceptance to myself. This is easier written/said than done, of course.

I am grateful to you for sharing so openly, so warmly and so eloquently!

I'd felt great peace and joy in my heart with your post! :)

Peace and Joy backatcha, gennee!

In Gratitude,

Brad

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gennee

Life does throw us curves but it's part of the journey, I believe.

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Hi Gennee,

I recently came out to my partner only and no one else. Tonight, while relaxing in nice new girly jeans and a top I bought today , the phone goes from my ex. An ambulance is on its way suspect meningitis with one of the kids. It's one of those moments... straight out the door? get changed?

Decided had enough time to change out (60 seconds) and made it to my ex before the paramedic. Fortunately it turned out less serious and all was well.

Your topic and this event made me wonder if 'out' stalks us in a way and once it knows where we are, it is on the case and it becomes 'a matter of time'. All the different types of outs help us on our journey I hope.

Rachel.

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gennee

Hi Gennee,

I recently came out to my partner only and no one else. Tonight, while relaxing in nice new girly jeans and a top I bought today , the phone goes from my ex. An ambulance is on its way suspect meningitis with one of the kids. It's one of those moments... straight out the door? get changed?

Decided had enough time to change out (60 seconds) and made it to my ex before the paramedic. Fortunately it turned out less serious and all was well.

Your topic and this event made me wonder if 'out' stalks us in a way and once it knows where we are, it is on the case and it becomes 'a matter of time'. All the different types of outs help us on our journey I hope.

Rachel.

Happy that things went okay. I bvelieve that most people don't really care. There are a few nuts out there but it doesn't stop me from doing what I'm doing. Just be careful.

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Gennee, your a doll, thanks for this post, helps me to keep things in perspective in my own transsition. I took my car to have the oil changed last week and I wore a mans shirt, I did not want to out myself at the oil change place, but I felt miserable all morning, I think for not being true to myself, after reading your post, the next time I have oil changed, I am going as who I really am. Thanks again Gennee.

Rikki..

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Gennee, your a doll, thanks for this post, helps me to keep things in perspective in my own transsition. I took my car to have the oil changed last week and I wore a mans shirt, I did not want to out myself at the oil change place, but I felt miserable all morning, I think for not being true to myself, after reading your post, the next time I have oil changed, I am going as who I really am. Thanks again Gennee.

Rikki..

You're quite welcome, Rikki.

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