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So I went to Disneyland's Gay Days with two of my friends, and it was my first time out in public when I didn't look like a girl. I introduced myself to my one friend's parents (who'd never met me) as Cody, and although my other friend started laughing, they didn't seem surprised to hear a guys' name... and his dad did hold out his hand to shake mine before asking my name, which is a good sign, right?

I think they probably got a little bit suspicious later on, with how my female friend was calling me by my birth name and using female pronouns like nonstop. Their son was really good with my name, and granted he hadn't known me by my real name more than like two weeks, but it was still nice to have him always call me Cody. I didn't really talk to anyone outside of our group while his parents were there, so I wasn't sure how I was passing. I was also kind of not feeling great early on, because I have really big you-knows, and the compression needed to bind and the resultant pain combined with the constant reminder that they existed were making me kind of suicidal lol. I hadn't worn anything more than like an hour, just for practice, so the 10ish hours of it were kind of difficult.

but anyways, that night, after his parents left, we went on this one ride, and the pathway to get out was soo long that one of my friends and I (both wearing gay day shirts) just hopped over the little waist high fence instead of walking.

The guy behind us said, "i hope they fall and break their gay asses," which my other friend heard, apparently as did the kids in front of us in line, because they came up and said so after he'd escaped from us, and so we started talking to them.

Long story short, after we'd talked a bit, so they'd even heard my voice, the boy referred to me as "he" "him" and "the guy" (in relating how they'd seen us around earlier), and completely regarded me as a boy :D

I'd used the mens' room successfully earlier in the day, but hearing someone actually refer to me as a guy, consistently, without appearing at all suspicious, was really cool. Not to mention a nice relief from my friend's "don't get mad at me, it's hard to remember" excuse for why she couldn't ever call me Cody, and never even realized when she messed up. He did say I looked about 15, but I'm cool with people thinking I'm younger than I am (18 in a few weeks) lol.

It's kind of a letdown now to go back to normal society where everyone knows me as female. :P

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Guest jantonio

Congrats Cody on passing. Woot! Is a great feeling when we are recognized and acknowledge for who we really are. :D

The best thing to do is just be confident with yourself. I myself sometimes get lady or whatnot and my gf just says "just let it go". I am so glad your experience was successful. :)

Jose Antonio...

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lol thanks guys... it was really great. I was kind of surprised actually, because I'd always had this feeling like if I were going to pass I would have to act, and try and pretend I was a guy (that's terrible wording, so I hope you understand what I mean), but I was just myself all day and it worked perfectly fine. Which of course, it should. But it was still cool to see it in action. And I'll take the pain in exchange for the male pronouns :D

ironically though, I've gotten he'd and guy'd (i may possibly be making up contractions here) recently when I wasn't even binding. They were pretty innocuous events, where I doubt anyone else noticed... and I was kind of suspicious because it's prettty fricking obvious w/my *euphemism*s, but I'm not going to complain lol.

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ironically though, I've gotten he'd and guy'd (i may possibly be making up contractions here) recently when I wasn't even binding. They were pretty innocuous events, where I doubt anyone else noticed... and I was kind of suspicious because it's prettty fricking obvious w/my *euphemism*s, but I'm not going to complain lol.

Yeah, this happens to me, too. In fact, not too long ago, not only was I not binding, but I was wearing a women's cut shirt (darn parents), and I still passed. I think if you're giving off enough masculine cues, people don't really pay too much attention to your chest unless it's really, really obvious, like if you were wearing a tank top or something. Anyways, it's awesome that things are going so well for you. :)

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