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Guest Amanda Whyte

I probably shouldnt post this late when I am so tired but I am anyway. For my whole life I have daydreamed about being turned magically into a girl/woman. Lately though everytime I do, I start to feel a sense of loss. A sense of loss about not feeling like I would fit in with my transgender friends. Weird huh?

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Guest diniesaur

I kind of know the feeling. I daydream all the time about my body being turned male. I'm not sure about the sense of loss, though.

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We are such complex beings with many feelings - some are even in conflict.

I think one of the most difficult things about all of this is that when we face it and start on the road to becoming ourselves or even accepting our realities, we have to work through and become aware all those feelings. We become more self aware than most others. That can be rewarding but it can also leave us confused and disconcerted.

What you are feeling is normal. And like so much else will work itself out in time.

They don't call this a roller coaster ride for nothing

Hugs

Johnny

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Guest BeccaC

Not weird at all Mandy, actually from I have understood the daydreaming is quite normal. Well for us it is I guess lol, I daydream about it constantly. I'm going to make a silly attempt to give you some humor.. First off I am an idiot, when I'm alone in my Isuzu Rodoe (it was wrecked and had an illiterate body repair guy I guess) I'll sing along but change the words to the songs (it really bit me in the behind at work the other day.. don't ask lol) to fit my mood (idiot remember lol).

With his passing they were playing this a lot recently, so in tribute to the late Davy Jones, I guess you could say we're daydream believers and wish we were homecoming queens :)

Lots of hugs girl

Becca

(sorry its late and I'm silly...ok sillier than normal)

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Daydreaming seems to run through our community but do not worry about the other part of the dream - if you were suddenly turned natal female your trans friends would stay with you because that is what friends do.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

I always had that. But the magic change didn't happen unfortunately and to tell the truth, I was almost ALWAYS disappointed because I just KNEW it was something that should happen. It was so right. We should magically be our true selves... BUT - but - But what really happened happened.

And we are what we are and it has a faint magical feeling, I think. I mean that we finally KNOW we are what we are, and we are doing something about it?

That's kinda magical. Maybe? You think? Just a little bit?

Lizzy

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Guest Amanda Whyte

Thanks everyone. I wasnt really meaning the daydreaming was weird just the since of loss.

Lizzy, that is an awsome analogy. It does seem kind of magical.

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Guest deborahtg

I agree, I daydream and nightdream a lot as well about becoming a woman, Becca C I liked your daydream believer quote - very good

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Guest JessicaM1985

I can't say that I daydream per se (I do have my moments of wishing though), but I have real dreams of this at night. In fact, my first clue ever was when I had a dream at age 14 and I pretty much look nowadays how I saw myself in that dream, but with a more feminine face and 42Ds. I still wish every day that I can match that look in my dream because I was so happy and at peace....

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