I'm so stupid

[Charlize]

Autumn, Hopefully all will go well for you. Take care of yourself first. With time your family will hopefully come around. It's too bad they can't support you now but they just might need more time. Many are slow to accept(including ourselves). Best of luck with the changes you face. I admire your strength.

Hugs,

Charlie

[~Nova~]

Thank you all for the replies. I completely forgot about this post.

Just and update. well, nothing to update, no change. I asked my brother if he got the text. he replied , yes, so I know the text was received. I talk with him occasionally.

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

Wow that's quite the cold shoulder you got from your family.

Your best success is going to be living a full and happy life and creating a new family from close friends who do love you and accept you for who you are. What's done is done. They chose to not accept you in their lives so now you must accept that and move on. Don't keep trying to reach out to them because it's not going to work and it's going to keep upsetting you.

[KathrynJulia]

I pity the fools who can't see past their own narrow predjudice. Some people become so stuck in their own little narrow world to the point that they can't see they are hurting themselves more than the person they are looking down their nose at. Trying any harder just forces you down to their level and you don't want to live at their level. Autumn, just go and enjoy life on your terms. Some people just can't be reached. Best wishes on your SRS surgery. I hope it goes well for you and your experience is an easy one. Katheryn

[Guest amanda_s]

Its there loss not yours

Amanda

[Guest CindyLouCovington]

Even if they don't approve, that doesn't mean that they can't be sympathic and understanding.After all, it is not as though you committed some terrible crime, and hurt others.Not enough kindness in the world.

[Guest Guest_SL]

Hope all goes well with surgery and of course, you'll be in my thoughts. Nothing I can to add what's been posted. Everyone has already expressed my feelings exactly.

I'll add this one thing and it's not really important but when I saw your avatar photo I was honestly startled. You look enough like the wife of one of my best friends that I did a double take.

Best of luck and love,

Sara Lee

[Guest Jal Marie]

Sending your family a text letting them know what is going on in your life was not stupid but rather a very loving thing you did. It is to bad that they did not see the care and love you showed them. I have been in the same situation with my family who would never reply to anything I sent. There comes a time when in this situation we need to make the decision to stop trying to reach out and go about living our lives with or without our families. Every one of my family members chose not to have anything to do with me and that's fine, it is their wish not mine. I cannot continue chasing after those that wish to keep me out of their lives. If they wish to contact me and give me their love and support I will welcome them. But above all we need to live our lives for ourselves first and love and embrace those that love us back who remain in our lives. What are the consequences of chasing after people who refuse to acknowledge us?

Your family the same as mine or any one else must take responsibility for their own actions. We are not responsible for others not accepting us for who we are. We can share with our families that this is who we are and give them the resources to come to a better understanding but it is ultimately up to them to make their own choices the same we did in living our lives as the real individuals that we are. Have a wonderful day and my best wishes.

[Guest otter-girl]

A brave and decent thing, yes. Stupid? No. You've done your part now. All the very best with your future.

{hugs}

Rachel

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Brave

You made the effort and you knew something like this MIGHT happen. But you hoped for better. Brave!

STUPID applies to those who chose to ignore answering that text.

I am facing exactly the same dilemma with my family (sisters I mean). I decided to write them a note - but put it into an envelope for others to send to them if I get into trouble. Hell with them knowing beforehand - they might try to stop the process.

My darling wife outed me to them before I was ready (I wanted to tell my sisters and their families in person) - they traveled 580 miles to try to talk me out of being 'transsexual' because that condition really does not exist (none of the LGBT exists in their religion). We came to a draw over scrioture (I actually have READ the Bible instead of having someone TELL ME what is in it) and they told me they loved me and drove back home - THEN the little Christian Angels - outed me by telephone to everyone they could think of including my three children (they already knew) and all of my (then) wife's relatives. They tried to contact the place where I worked but I intercepted it. I can only guess, but I think they thought everyone would call me and try to 'save' me.

They also called me "an abomination in the eyes of GOD!" Which pleased me to no end!

So I now have a 'very conditional love' for them - like stay 580 miles away and don't come any closer.. I sent them a photograph of me holding my new grandson - and that was acknowledged - but nothing said about me.

You can choose your friends but at birth, you inherit your relatives.

I want them to know they have a 'physically complete new sister,' AFTER the fact!

Lizzy

[Guest CariadsCarrot]

I'm so sorry. That's just so cruel of them to not even respond. you weren't stupid to try though, you were brave and if they were a decent, loving family they should have given SOMETHING back.

It honestly grieves my heart every time I see a so called family behave in such an unfeeling way toward someone whose only 'wrong' is to live their life. I don't understand how people can do it.

Gabe