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Sobriety Check Points! Not A Problem!

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Ok, I am at day 1270 on this trip up the stairs, and had an experience tonight that was worth the effort.

I am full time RLE, but am a month or two away from legally changing my name and here in CA, my drivers license information. I had gone over to see a family member about a garbage disposal on the fritz, had dinner and was driving home. We are being hit with a predicted rain storm, and the streets and visibility were as screwed up as we can get here. Low and behold though, near one of the local high schools I have to pass on the way home was an operating Sobriety Check Point run by the city PD. (It was one of the school's major spring dances that have gotten rough in the past due to Al and drugs.)

I was stuck and had to go through the "gate", no way to miss the checkpoint. I rolled the window down and had my license out of my purse which was standard. I was happy I had checked my calendar earlier in the day so I knew how long ago my last drink was, and to boot, I did not feel the LEAST BIT NERVOUS about being my female self even with HIS ID in my hand.

"Ok mamm when was your last drink?" "Over 40 months ago, I am a recovering alcoholic!" "Good for you!!" "Can I see your license?" "Here it is, I am a male to female transsexual who is transitioning just now, but this is still legally me!" "Yeah, your hair is much longer now, will you be changing it soon?" "In the next month or so." "OK, drive safely mamm even without a drink these streets are dangerous tonight!!

Not a bit of a flinch when I explained the TS isssue, I knew he had checked my pupils during the chat, and was legitimate about congratulating me on sobriety. The best was properly gendering me both times!!! It works if you work it.

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That's such a sweet story. " We are going to know a new happiness and will comprehend serenity"

Bless you, Charlie

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Guest pumpsara

The state of Calif is great for Transgenders as it is not against the law to express your gender identification. In some states it is, but most police office have see far more weekly in their jobs then most in a life time. Being honest goes a long way. That is an issue most people have, thus the need to not be honest when drinking, or they have been made to believe cross dressing is not being honest as well.

If you are ever stopped by a police officer, this is the perfect example of how to deal with it.

Retired CHP officer

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Carolyn Marie

You handled that great, Vicky. Confidence is king (or queen, as it were) when dealing with the public.



Carolyn Marie

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Michelle 2010

Welcome retired CHP :)

One of my retired Fla friends is mtf NYPD. I believe y'all have a trans PD organization..?

Anyway, just wanted to chime in on the thing of being straight up about who we are and what we're about. I have gotten pretty comfy just sayin' that I'm trans when shopping or doing anything that might cause confusion. As a not full time girl, I don't get majorly depressed about being missed-gendered. I'm just finally comfortable with who I am and "what others think of me is not my problem". Oh, and I haven't been disrespected yet...


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Guest Arbon

Glad it was a pleasant experience for you.

My attitude about disclosing is different - generally I don't have any desire to explain to people or talk about my being trans with them, its none of their business, including the police (I've been pulled over twice by our local force this year - the first time before my name change to - I just did not care what he thought and felt no need to explain) - there is nothing to be honest or dishonest about, nothing to be straight up about, it should be a non issue..

The state of Calif is great for Transgenders as it is not against the law to express your gender identification. In some states it is,

Its not against the law in any state. :)

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