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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

So today (notice how I seem to start every thread like this?) was my last day in El Paso, thank goodness! It turns out a member from a trucking forum that I belong to just so happened to also be in El Paso at the same truck stop. PMs were exchanged and ideas tossed around, descriptions were given.

Next thing I know, I'm walking into the restaurant under the premise of meeting another person who I've only talked to online. So I walk in and scan the immediate area, nothing. I walk over to the buffet and look to see if anything is appetizing. Now mind you, it was just a charade hoping to give this faceless entity some time to notice me and plan an approach. Also I just had lunch like an hour ago so I wasn't hungry at all.

As I'm walking up towards the salad bar portion of the buffet I half-notice a man putting bacon bits and sunflower seeds on top of his salad. Then I hear "Wow, you really are tall!". I look towards the direction of the voice and I see a mid-20s man who was the guy putting bacon bits on top of his salad. I smiled and said "I told you I was! What were you expecting?" "Well you know when some women say they're tall they're actually about 5'8, 5'9 which is tall for the average woman."

So we walk back to his booth and luckily I can squeeze in with a little room to spare. He, of course, is a skinny bean pole and has no problem. The waiter comes over and hands me a menu and asks me what I want to drink and now the demure Liz kicks in and says nicely "I'll just have water, please" with a sweet smile. You may be fooling them, Liz, but you're not fooling the rest of us!

And we talked about trucking, and how I got down here to El Paso, and the load he's currently on, and we talked about comedy and exchanged bits of our favorite comics. We talked while he ate, which later I found out he felt really bad for eating in front of me but it was no big deal. Around 4:15-ish we were winding up the conversations and I told him I had to go because of a few things I had to do before I could pick up my load that's going to Kansas. So I get up first. He gets up. We start walking and he's kind of walking close to me and I come to a table sticking out in my walk area so I stop to let him go ahead and he motions for me to go ahead. So chivalrous!

We get up to the counter and the cashier recognizes me from earlier and we exchange pleasantries. We then split off inside the convenience store to get what we both needed for our trips and walk outside. I'm parked in one area, he's parked in another. Does he do the gentleman thing and walk me to my truck? No! Then again I didn't ask him to but he could have been nice and offered! So not chivalrous. Hmph!

As we part ways, demure Liz peeks out again and I sweetly say "It was nice meeting you!" and he tells me to have a safe trip. Hmm, maybe he's not so great with talking to women taller than he is. Of course on the walk back to my truck I'm playing the whole event over in my head wondering if I may have done something wrong or didn't do something or didn't talk just right and maybe he figured out I'm TS but was too polite to say anything and maybe that's why his goodbye was so .... lacking.

Fast forward about 12 hours. My day is done here in New Mexico so the first thing I do is fire up the lappy and go to the trucking forum to see if he said anything about me. I was expecting a PM from him saying it was nice to meet me but he's not into dudes and he was a little embarrassed to be seen with a guy dressed as a woman and don't ever talk to him again. I was also expecting maybe to read something in a thread about how he met me and how he was expecting to meet a woman but instead met one of those disgusting he/shes and how he/she totally lied to him and tried to pretend he was a girl but he's anything but and basically out me to everyone on the forum and tell them I'm not a woman after all.

...but...there was none of that. No PM. He did mention our meeting on the forum. "Yup, met up with Sequoia. Was kewl to meet another member. Did feel kind bad though she had already ate so I was stuffing my face while we talked. Time for a little sleep"

That's it! So since there was no PM and this fairly low-key message, I'm thinking that I was able to pass as a really tall woman to him and he didn't suspect anything otherwise. Paranoid me will keep monitoring that site just in case he decides to write something the following day once our meeting completely sank in but I'm guessing/hoping that won't happen.

So, passing in person as a woman to someone who only knows you online as a woman. I think that deserves an ice cream celebration. If you get your tushies in the car and hurry over here, there *might* be a little bit of melted Ben & Jerry's ice cream on the underside of the lid you can have. :)

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I don't think he clocked you. Sounds a bit shy, and maybe didn't want to be overeager by messaging you directly. He probably thought you would check his posts too, and hoped you would comment. So in his mind, the ball is in your court.... maybe

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It's so much fun. Enjoy and have fun,

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Guest Erica Kaylee

Too early 4 me. I somehow managed to misread paragraph 8, and thought he had actually sent that horrible PM. Eekkk.

Great to hear everything went well 4 you, Lizzie!

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Guest CariadsCarrot

I think he enjoyed meeting a beautiful lady but was tired and maybe a bit shy on the first meeting. Maybe he was as worried about what you thought of him as you were about what he thought of you. Us guys can get clumsy about social etiquette in situations sometimes. He's probably just not sure about what to say to a beautiful lady truck driver after a first meeting.

Gabe

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Guest Joni Hayes

I don't think he clocked you. Sounds a bit shy, and maybe didn't want to be overeager by messaging you directly. He probably thought you would check his posts too, and hoped you would comment. So in his mind, the ball is in your court.... maybe

Oh yea for sure, ball is in lizzys court to reply in the forum confirming the "kewl" time.

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Guest Joni Hayes

I think he enjoyed meeting a beautiful lady but was tired and maybe a bit shy on the first meeting. Maybe he was as worried about what you thought of him as you were about what he thought of you. Us guys can get clumsy about social etiquette in situations sometimes. He's probably just not sure about what to say to a beautiful lady truck driver after a first meeting.

Gabe

Not to forget he was also hungry, men and food. :)

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Guest Guest_SL

I think he enjoyed meeting a beautiful lady but was tired and maybe a bit shy on the first meeting. Maybe he was as worried about what you thought of him as you were about what he thought of you. Us guys can get clumsy about social etiquette in situations sometimes. He's probably just not sure about what to say to a beautiful lady truck driver after a first meeting.

Gabe

Not to forget he was also hungry, men and food. :)

I kinda think you nailed it at shy but this is a good after thought. And funny.

SL

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Guest Donna Jean

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AHhhhhh......."Trucker Dates".......how sweet....

I feel a song coming on with birdies, the moon, love and air horns....

Huggs

Dee Jay

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Guest Robin Winter

If you get your tushies in the car and hurry over here, there *might* be a little bit of melted Ben & Jerry's ice cream on the underside of the lid you can have. :)

Pffft...........I always lick the underside of the lid first ^_^

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Well I posted my little thoughts on the meeting and he didn't reply to any of it, come to think of it, noone replied to any of it which just further adds to my paranoia. Now it could be a case of simply a man thing to not really talk about it, or in my paranoid mind, he secretly told a few people and made them promise not to say anything about it.

I should have never majored in Sociology because now I over-analyze everything!!!

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I should have never majored in Sociology because now I over-analyze everything!!!

You and me both. I stress over which order to put my shoes on. I'm really quite good at reading people's minds, faces, body language and so I keep re-reading and re-reading.........

SL

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Guest Joni Hayes

Lizzy your comment reminded me of something my GT has said occasional, "If you want a problem/issue To be fully analysed, get a transgendered to look at it.

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

Lizzy your comment reminded me of something my GT has said occasional, "If you want a problem/issue To be fully analysed, get a transgendered to look at it.

Egads, so since I'm both transgendered and a sociology major, I do double the over-analyzing! I'm like my own Doublement Twins.

Hey wait, that's what I could call the girls!

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